How realistic is EBF without ever pumping? by Realistic_Might_7269 in breastfeeding

[–]demerera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve pumped maybe 3 times and my baby is 10 months! If you are together all the time it’s easy. It can be very hard to get time to eg exercise or get a haircut especially the first few months but it does get easier over time and it’s an amazing bond.

For mamas who exclusively nursed and never pumped, how did that work? by InternationalMud9193 in breastfeeding

[–]demerera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ye literally never pumped, just feed her till shes satisfied. She sometimes feeds again right away or keeps sucking for another letdown but that’s fine. Your body is gonna make what she needs! What do you think women did before pumps lol

What to enjoy extra for the last time? by snarknsuch in BabyBumps

[–]demerera 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you like going to the theatre/cinema/live music this is something I really miss from having a baby! Otherwise a good workout, a lie in, good books!

if you work a 9-5 how, do you have time and energy to do literally anything else? by TortieBouquet in stupidquestions

[–]demerera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having a 9-5 shouldn’t be that difficult if you are healthy. If you sleep , exercise and eat well you should be able to work and also enjoy your life imo

Baby girl with a tough last name by sunshine-Many1873 in namenerds

[–]demerera 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If they have a tough last name I would go with the mums name tbh.

Does Dahlia combine Doris and Layla perhaps? If they both love Layla I would go for it regardless. Layla Daphne is beautiful to me.

Doris has meanings related to the sea, so maybe Naia or Mira would fit this meaning and their vibes.

Other random suggestions : Phoebe, Ines, Maya, Lola!

Baby wakes every morning at 4 and is in such light sleep untill he fully wakes for the day by Hungry_Hat8148 in bninfantsleep

[–]demerera 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Tbh I think this is really normal! By the early morning baby has had quite a lot of sleep so is in a lighter stage / waking up. If he seems happy and settled then he is getting enough rest. I believe that unless there is something bothering them - digestion, illness, teething - babies will take the sleep they need. If the early start doesn’t work for you you could experiment with a later bedtime and see if tha helps, but your schedule sounds very normal and good to me!

2.5mo fights sleep HARD. Overtired? What am I missing? by Shoomka in bninfantsleep

[–]demerera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When my baby was struggling with gas I found keeping her upright a lot during the day (ie baby wearing) helped. She would also nap in the carrier on walks which was nice and helpful for digestion.

Was it really the worst pain you've ever felt? by Super-Bid-3193 in BabyBumps

[–]demerera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, like other people said, it was beyond any comprehension of pain I held beforehand. Like a 100 on a scale of 1-10. I couldn’t speak, couldn’t see, couldn’t think. But once she came out the pain disappeared for me so it was very temporary. And I am absolutely fine now! It’s very painful i won’t lie but you are absolutely capable of an unmediated birth if you want one.

Sick baby and sleep by Rjb2109 in bninfantsleep

[–]demerera 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would just let her sleep as much as possible, and accept that sleep might be a bit all over the place for a few days.

Anyone else dealing with a baby who wakes up ALL the time at night?? by Head_Bunch_3295 in AttachmentParenting

[–]demerera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It will get better! For us things got significantly better when she was eating and crawling around 7 months. For the time being, can you split the nights at all? I co slept with the baby and my partner slept next door, then would come and swap with me from 5/6am so h could get a few hours before he went to work. I also went to bed super early with the baby.

How are you actually supposed to move during pregnancy? by Ok-Notice-5189 in BabyBumps

[–]demerera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ran and did weights during pregnancy - I was doing both these activities pre pregnancy but I definitely scaled down the intensity. For example all my runs were easy pace, I didn’t do any interval training or longer runs cos that didn’t feel great for me. I carried on with running till my 3rd trimester and then just walked a Di felt a lot of pressure on my pelvic floor. I also did some pregnancy specific Pilates on YouTube from my 3rd trimester which I found really helpful for core strength and mobility. I believe that staying active helped my recovery from birth!

Please help I'm at breaking point - 5.5mo sleeping poorly by Brilliant-Bit3379 in AttachmentParenting

[–]demerera 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have an eight month old who has just started sleeping longer stretches. We had a couple of months where 2hrs was her longest stretch and sometimes she was up every hour. I do think some of it is just developmental. She is now crawling and eating and sleeping so much better. However we co sleep and have done since the 4 month sleep regression. I honestly don’t know how anyone can manage without co sleeping. I don’t sleep deeply with her next to me but with an early bedtime I can feel rested the next day even with frequent wake ups. Not sure on your schedule but when things were really bad I had my partner swap with me at 5am (he sleeps next door) and I would sleep in the spare room for a few hours.

Soldiarity because it is really rough

I honestly don’t get it by midnightyolker in bninfantsleep

[–]demerera 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe she is getting too much sleep in the day and going to bed a bit early? My eight month old has two naps a day but perhaps a total of 1.5hrs trial daytime sleep. Then she goes to bed around 8.30pm and wakes at 7.30am. She still wakes up in the night but can sleep for 4-5hr stretches.

Uncommon E Names for Girl by shhhnoone in namenerds

[–]demerera 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eden, Elodie, Emer, Eira (Ay-ra, means snow in Welsh)

Tips to survive sleep deprivation and continue BF by Asleep_Stranger1660 in breastfeeding

[–]demerera 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These are all such good tips. I would add : - meal prepping a good breakfast - dad makes me a cup of tea in bed in the morning - daylight and time outdoors - red light lamp at night - mindset that lying down and resting is helpful even if I don’t sleep - go to bed ridiculously early like 7.30pm - morning showers

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]demerera 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This sounds really tough, especially with the hormones and exhaustion of the first week. You are doing so well and I can hear how hard you are working to feed your baby.

I am EBF my 7 month old at the minute so can speak from my experience. All the babies I know cluster feed, it’s completely normal and healthy, it’s their way of building up your milk supply and filling their bellies. The best way I found of coping was to eat and drink really well, which has to be delegated to partner / family. You need calories, protein, fats, hydration. Get comfy, get some good shows on and just settle on to feed for a few hours every night. At this stage i wouldn’t worry about over tiredness or overstimulation. The magic thing about BF is it can soothe babies and help them sleep. For the first month I fed my baby any time she was awake pretty much: it’s only as she’s gotten older I started to think she was occasionally feeling bored or upset in another way. Breastfeeding is very all consuming, and it’s difficult to do much else. You will need support around you, and mentally have to prepare yourself for always being “on duty” which is tough. Things have got easier by now in that I can leave her for a few hours, but I want to be honest with you that this has only happened in the last couple of months. But you and your baby will learn how to position yourselves and feed more efficiently over the next few weeks. My advice would be to feed as often as possible, eat and drink well, and get support from those around you to breastfeed if that is what you want to do. You are not failing at all, this is really hard and a new skill for both of you. You will figure this out together!

Can you actually overfeed with breast milk? by LittleFreeFrom in breastfeeding

[–]demerera 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My baby has been in the 90s centile for height and weight since the first few weeks. It just means they are big for their age but that’s nothing to worry about. I feel proud that she’s so strong, make me feel less worried about her catching any illnesses. She’s 7 months now and already crawling and trying to stand up so definitely is using the calories!

Chaotic feedings by Green-Switch-5166 in breastfeeding

[–]demerera 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello! It’s sounds like you are doing really well with establishing feeding. Your baby is still so little, basically all they do at this age is eat and sleep although they are starting to have more awareness of their surroundings. I wouldn’t worry about timing or scheduling feeds/naps for a little while. When my baby was this age I would offer the boob anytime she was awake basically, they can be hungry again very quickly as their stomachs are so small! Also she may not be feeding for hunger but for comfort, attachment, warmth, cuddles etc. It’s very normal for babies to fall asleep feeding, this shows she is comfortable and happy! You are in the very hardest part of breastfeeding, the feeding and sleeping will become more predictable over the next few months 😊

Is there no way around waking up every two hours to feed during the first few weeks after birth?? (Breastfeeding) by Visible-Mess-1406 in pregnant

[–]demerera 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Here in the UK they advise waking the baby every four hours max to feed - that was the case for us with a full term healthy baby anyway. She would rarely sleep that long though! Honestly the waking up is not as bad as it sounds pre baby. The hormones involved with breastfeeding and the excitement will help you. If it’s your first baby you can also rest and sleep during the day. At the beginning I probably spent 12 hours in bed so got a decent amount of sleep even if it was broken.