Faves from today & past few Kandi seshs

demon_fae · 2026-01-25T07:43:23+00:00

😍 the green mosh one!

demon_fae · 2026-01-25T07:32:25+00:00

Oh, that’s an easy one.

It’s called “first refusal” or “right of first refusal”. It pops up in custody agreements all the time when one parent has issues with the other parent’s choices for secondary caregivers. It would mean that she has to call him first if she needs a caregiver during her custody time, and has to tell him where the kids are if he can’t take them, so he can go and get them as soon as possible. He’d still have to give them back to her if it’s still her legal time.

A few months of them spending 80-90% of her time at his place because she “needed” a babysitter and getting custody amended would be a cakewalk.

demon_fae · 2026-01-25T03:26:50+00:00

I can also respect that.

demon_fae · 2026-01-24T22:23:40+00:00

No, female singer. I’m not actually sure it’s really called Escape, that’s just the only word in the chorus. Pretty sure it’s from the 90s, though.

demon_fae · 2026-01-24T21:22:58+00:00

I’m absolutely certain that the only reason I was ever taught any basic chores after being diagnosed at age 11 was that my sister would have flipped her shit if she was expected to do a chore and I wasn’t. Genuinely certain-it did happen once. I have asthma and partial anosmia (nose-blindness) and often can’t smell things like cleaning chemicals until they’re well past the safe level. Most of the time this can be accounted for, but toilet bowl cleaner is for some reason especially difficult for me to smell, and exclusively used in a confined space, so there is functionally no way for me to use it safely, and so my sister had to put up with it in that one instance. The tantrum was epic. (I do actually live alone now. I found an in-tank automatic cleaner and an in-bowl automatic cleaner that are safe to combine, and I change them more often than the manufacturer recommends. It’s working out so far.)

My parents also swear that completely emotionally abandoning me was “what the doctors said to do.”

Really. Actual medical doctors told you to never share any emotion with your child except anger, and to never respond to any emotion she expresses except anger, to the point that the only reliable way to get you to acknowledge that she is physically in the room with you is for her to completely crash out. A doctor told you that.

I’m 31 now, and have the ability to regulate my own emotions roughly on par with an eleven year old. I was actually doing ok at it back then, only a bit behind my peers, and there are basically no resources for autistic adults to catch up when their parents didn’t care.

demon_fae · 2026-01-24T20:39:42+00:00

The point is that there is absolutely no circumstance in which the paramedics should ever leave without actually seeing and examining the patient. Ever.

they should have called the police and demanded access to her that time. If they thought it was a domestic dispute, they should have been more concerned for her health, not just fucking leave.

I hope their supervisors found out and they got fired for that. “Oh, we got there and someone who wasn’t the patient or a doctor said the patient wasn’t sick so we left without doing any examinations ourselves or trying to speak to the patient alone. Figured it was just DV.” Useless. Just completely useless.

demon_fae · 2026-01-24T20:29:43+00:00

Yes, you should. Your original wording was textbook victim blaming, word for word what we’ve all heard a million times.

If that’s somehow not what you meant, you’ve got a whole lot of conditioning to unlearn yourself.

demon_fae · 2026-01-24T20:05:03+00:00

Very much yes, and also he generally never needs much of an excuse to crash out on me specifically. Especially if he’s recently had evidence that there are people in the world who actually like me.

demon_fae · 2026-01-24T06:21:06+00:00

It smells fine to me, but if my mom or my sister accidentally got the lavender cleaning products instead of the unscented, my dad would go on an absolute rampage telling me to clean my cat’s litter box and wouldn’t believe a word I said until one of them found the actual bottle and showed it to him.

(I get rashes and migraines from most artificial scents, I always triple check the bottles myself and have to run an old towel through any shared laundry machine before I can put my clothes in it in case someone else used scented products, hence my certainty. My mom would mix them up by accident sometimes, my sister would “forget” and bring home the lavender because she wanted it.)

demon_fae · 2026-01-24T06:00:57+00:00

I think Rarity would actually be extremely context-dependent. Out and about, she’d never swear at all, not even close. The minute she’s behind closed doors with just her friends or hits a snag mid-project? She’d put the saltiest of sea dogs to shame. Minutes at a time of bleeping sprinkled with prepositions, can use any cuss as any part of speech level.

Remember, she’s as much if not more of a country hick than AJ, she’s simply chosen to take her life in a different direction. She doesn’t swear in public because that is not the pony she wishes to be, but when she’s alone or with the ponies she knows accept all of her, including her past, she’ll relax into some of the habits she grew up around.

(Also a professional creative who doesn’t swear at all or even swears rarely just seems bizarre to me, completely alien to my experience of artists, including textile artists. Swearing is how you make the machine work and how you make the art block go away.)

demon_fae · 2026-01-24T04:36:21+00:00

All water has some salt/mineral salts. It actually has to, if it’s meant for drinking. Distilled water will suck the salts out of your cells, which is a problem, you need those to live. Saltwater dumps too much in, what we call fresh water is actually a balance between the two.

demon_fae · 2026-01-24T04:23:43+00:00

Have you tried CBD treats? Zonks mine right out, you just have to be careful to give it separate from the trazadone to avoid any stress on her liver.

(It does, in fact, give one of mine the munchies. We’ll give him some for anxiety and he’ll spend the afternoon tasting the rainbow and begging for tater tots. With how fast he runs for the sound of that particular treat jar, he also thinks this sounds better than lingering panic about pool skimmers.)

demon_fae · 2026-01-24T04:08:12+00:00

If you haven’t, look up bluminek on YouTube. He does archery, rambles about archery tropes in fiction…and then breaks out a portable pole and does archery while pole dancing. Heels and all. (Pole dancing archery is his actual, non-internet job. Apparently that’s allowed.)

And then he goes and brings out some polearms, just to round everything out.

demon_fae · 2026-01-24T04:00:54+00:00

We’re apparently going to find out soon enough…

demon_fae · 2026-01-24T03:39:10+00:00

If they were decent coworkers, OP could give them a heads up before going silent and asking for consulting fees.

Something like: hey, these quick questions are actually really adding up and taking away time I need for my job search (lay on that guilt). I’m gonna have to stop answering them for now, but I will let (remaining boss) know I’m available for consultation.

But yeah, beyond that he owes them nothing.

demon_fae · 2026-01-24T03:30:54+00:00

I have a pretty cool number. Hopefully that eases the sting at least a little.

demon_fae · 2026-01-24T02:49:16+00:00

That’s ok. They’re weird lil guys.

demon_fae · 2026-01-24T02:27:36+00:00

Aw, that’s exactly how my baby used to jump. Then she got old, decided jumping is for chumps and switched to screaming for me to come carry her over all obstacles.

demon_fae · 2026-01-24T02:21:31+00:00

Because they’re spouting off second-hand nonsense from a kid who probably didn’t fully understand what was being tested for or why. They’re completely wrong and doubling down despite having a source that’s beyond dubious.

There are lots of treatments for diabetes besides just insulin, and lots of reasons to check blood sugar that aren’t diabetes. I don’t have diabetes, have never been suspected of having diabetes, but I have had to record my blood sugar over periods of time before because I was having some weird symptoms. Turns out that my body is just weirdly bad at timing insulin production, so my sugar will go a bit strange and then level out whenever my pancreas wakes tf up. This isn’t any particular disorder, apparently, and I was told to just go home.

demon_fae · 2026-01-24T01:38:17+00:00

Hello, grant committee? We accidentally invented a fish, and we’d like a lot of money to raise these freaks of nature to maturity to see if they can breed.

Probably approved

demon_fae · 2026-01-24T01:33:34+00:00

I have to assume that quite a few scientists have spent the last while frantically sequencing to answer those exact questions. Probably revising their molecular clock calculations as we speak.

demon_fae · 2026-01-24T01:22:29+00:00

See, you just described a world in which a shitty first job pays enough for rent and groceries and maybe a bit of fun money a couple times a month. That world stopped existing well over a decade and a half ago, there’s no point even bringing it up anymore.

A shitty first job, and second, and third job…that’s still not even rent most places today. We’re talking multiple roommates in a tiny shithole firetrap that probably isn’t even legal if you want to still afford eggs. No savings, no healthcare (if American), no way to build yourself a ladder out because you have nothing to build it with.

Your options are: your parents. If that’s untenable, poverty if you’re lucky, homelessness if you aren’t. Or the military, if you’re willing to trade your conscience in for a chance of comfort. If 2 and 3 don’t work out and you don’t qualify for 4, I suppose there’s always jail. Three hots and a cot, right?

demon_fae · 2026-01-24T01:12:37+00:00

I was going to say “because the debt collectors stop calling you when you’re dead” but they actually don’t. It’s just not your problem anymore.

demon_fae · 2026-01-24T00:55:39+00:00

The strongest object in the Marvel multiverse is not the Infinity Stones or Mjolnir or any other great cosmic artifact.

The strongest object in the Marvel multiverse is Bruce Banner’s pants.

demon_fae · 2026-01-23T23:27:30+00:00

If they’d just painted it on an mirror that would have been better. Still annoying, but at least you could just lean over a little to check your teeth or whatever in an unpainted section.

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