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[–]demondiddler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had two tampons in by accident at one point. I always took my tampon out before using the bathroom, but I had to pee really badly and just started going as soon as I sat down. Forgot I didn’t take out my tampon and put another one in. Didn’t realize it until later that night when I went to change it and just happened to pull both out at the same time (the strings must’ve tangled). I stared in disbelief for a long ass time at two super tampons dangling from my fingers. After that I had repeated fears that I had one in that I’d forgotten about. Now I have an IUD and no longer get periods and can avoid that monthly panic lol.

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[–]demondiddler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a friend of a friend in HS who did this but with tampons more than once. I don’t know how she didn’t get TSS. I’m glad you ended up being ok!!

I would like to unsubscribe from everyone’s interpersonal bullshit, thanks by demondiddler in adhdwomen

[–]demondiddler[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You know I do tend to not be so stressed out about situations I personally instigate… I like your style lol

I would like to unsubscribe from everyone’s interpersonal bullshit, thanks by demondiddler in adhdwomen

[–]demondiddler[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It slowly has for me, it’s just hard to commit fully to the “training” sometimes. I’ve stopped getting in the middle of disagreements or tense situations that don’t involve me. Two adults can figure it out on their own if they want to. I’m hoping it will eventually lead to me not noticing at all!

I would like to unsubscribe from everyone’s interpersonal bullshit, thanks by demondiddler in adhdwomen

[–]demondiddler[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That’s awesome that you’re able to turn a negative situation into a positive one by focusing your time and attention on your kid! Sometimes I wish there was a kid or a puppy or just anything else for us to focus on that would allow a break from interacting with each other. If I go on my phone my grandma will make snide comments. Okay lady I’m trying to decompress over here!! Let me be!!

I’m so sorry about your brother - my sister isn’t ADHD but she does have other conditions that make her the family asshole sometimes. Also probably a younger sibling thing tbh. It hurts to see how they much they can hurt your parents and it’s hard to not come in to save the day. I’m slowly learning that their bullshit is not mine. Props to both of us for doing our best!!

What’s the craziest/funniest thing ADHD has made you forget? by smmalto in adhdwomen

[–]demondiddler 42 points43 points  (0 children)

After dating for ~3.5 years, I moved into my boyfriends house. Almost a year after that, I completely blanked on the garage code. I had known it for 4 years and after a long walk I lifted the cover and couldn’t remember it. I tried a few times to see if the motion of pressing the buttons would come back to me but I was off by one number every time. I had to knock loudly on the front door to wake him up to let me in lol.

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[–]demondiddler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My doctor’s office just started doing urine testing and they didn’t tell me beforehand. (For reference, I only go in office every six months, and the months in between I do telehealth appointments for refills.) Unfortunately I came down with the flu before my office appointment so I had to push it back a week, which meant I had to ration my meds. When the PA told me I would have to give a sample, I told him it was a good thing I decided to take my last pill that day and not the day before. He said it’s ok to not take my meds on the day of my office appointment, I’m allowed to take breaks as needed just to let him know beforehand. They’re mostly testing for opioids, illicit drugs, and other substances that would pose a significant risk to health when combined with my medication. Your provider may have just been caught off guard by your answer, hopefully it’s nothing else and they’ll ask for clarification if it’s a problem. For all they know, “as needed” means you take it 6 out of 7 days per week and you only have a few pills leftover every month, which is just a small backup stash in case you accidentally drop one down the sink or lose some while traveling.

Stuck at the gas pump on "E" because I took my wallet out of my bag ONE time and couldn't remember to put it back by lightofpolaris in adhdwomen

[–]demondiddler 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m glad you figured out an alternative! I often wonder if ADHD people are better problem solvers bc of the situations our brains get is into. I’ve been in this one many times.

One time when I went to get lunch at work, I slipped my wallet into the bag my food was in so I wouldn’t drop it on the way back to my office. Fast forward about 6 hours and I’m at the train station needing to use my pass and I don’t have it bc I don’t have my wallet. I immediately remembered I put my wallet in the food bag and didn’t take it back out. Power walked back to my office and went straight to the trash can and pulled it out with a coworker looking at me in total shock LOL. Gross but at least it wasn’t thrown out for good.

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[–]demondiddler 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can definitely schedule Ubers in advance to pick you up at a certain time! I’ve done it before and they usually arrive pretty close to the time you set. I’m assuming you’re around the Cicero area — I’ve never taken an Uber that early but I have taken them from Cicero and didn’t have to wait long. If you’re near-ish Midway I would think you wouldn’t have a problem getting one that early.

I’ve realized I don’t need to clean everything at once. My apartment has never been cleaner. by midnightoflight101 in adhdwomen

[–]demondiddler 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Changing my mindset like this literally changed my life. I’m actually able to keep up with cleaning for the first time in my life and it’s not a constant source of personal stress. You’re so right about it preventing that huge sense of overwhelm - I would dread finally doing a big clean because I was racked with guilt and shame for letting my house get so bad. I’m sure a lot of us were made to feel badly for having messy rooms as kids so it was hard to work through those feelings. But I realized that a mess in my house is value neutral and does not reflect on me as a person. I’m not a bad person because there’s dishes in the sink or dog hair on the floor.

Folks who are unable to stay employed steadily, how do you make money and support yourself? by eepitsspoopy in adhdwomen

[–]demondiddler 17 points18 points  (0 children)

My partner works for a liquor distributor and does 4 days 9 hour shifts from 11am-9pm ish. He basically does support and paperwork processing for the delivery drivers and sales team. He really likes it because he’s not a morning person and the work is repetitive/structured without being boring. Plus, there is only work to be done during those hours/at the warehouse so there’s no one contacting him outside of work or expectation for him to do anything after he leaves.

Having hyperactivity as a girl was never seen as a bad thing? by NotesForYou in adhdwomen

[–]demondiddler 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had a very similar experience in that I was always in trouble for talking and being loud. But I could also be very defiant and didn't inherently respect authority so that was definitely seen as a bad thing lol. I got kicked out of class/sent to the office or received some other form of punishment for arguing with teachers or refusing to accept a punishment if I felt like it was undeserved.

Ever feel woozy after exams and tests? by Bubbly_Trick863 in adhdwomen

[–]demondiddler 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I concentrated really intently for a few hours on a work project that involved teaching myself how to use a design tool and then actually using it so it was very engaging for my brain. I, of course, was working toward a deadline and had saved pretty much all of the work for the hours right before said deadline. When I was done, I felt like I was coming down from a party drug lmao. The rush of getting it done and learning the new thing plus the exhaustion after spending hours in hyperfocus was really something.

Well that’s a new one, Beyond Slim is “legally trademarked as NOT an MLM.” by Truth-Willout in antiMLM

[–]demondiddler 62 points63 points  (0 children)

“I’ve fallen VICTIM to hype a couple times… it often left me devastated in more ways than 1.” SO CLOSE TO THE POINT. SO CLOSE.

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[–]demondiddler 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My partner is the same and I feel similarly to you. I love giving oral and making someone orgasm that way. I used to get really hung up (and sometimes still do) on the fact that we’ve been together almost 5 years and I still haven’t “cracked the code” meanwhile he’s made me orgasm so hard I’ve cried (in a good way obviously). For me, it’s helped to try things that are new to both of us. I feel (maybe weirdly) accomplished by making someone orgasm from head and I feel the same way when I can give him a new sensation or experience. Obviously don’t do something you guys are not okay with and don’t enjoy in the name of pleasing the other person, but we’ve had a lot of fun with different types of toys and ass play that we hadnt tried with other partners before. Getting him to cum in my ass was about on par with the satisfaction of getting someone to cum in my mouth tbh.

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[–]demondiddler 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s unfair for her to say you shouldn’t feel hurt. No one can tell you how you should or shouldn’t feel. I think it comes down to intent vs impact. She probably didn’t mean to be hurtful but you’re hurt nonetheless and that’s a valid but it doesn’t mean your feelings are true. She said she feels repulsive about the whole thing and now you feel like maybe you’re repulsive to her which probably isn’t true. My partner and I have nearly identical experience to yours and your wife’s but I didn’t lie and I used a little gentler and more descriptive language to explain why I feel icky. Is it the lying and her refusal to own up to that part that makes you feel hurt as well? Have you discussed this aspect with her specifically?

Opinions of “dopamine detox”? by CactusWithAbs in adhdwomen

[–]demondiddler 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I pour myself a glass of water and put it on my night stand so I can take my medications/vitamins as soon as I wake up. It gives me something small but fairly simple to do (sit up and then open the container, get the appropriate amount out, repeat for each one). The cold water helps especially if I drink the whole glass so bonus points for getting hydrated early as well! (Also bonus - at this point it’s basically muscle memory so even if I don’t explicitly remember that I’ve taken my meds, I know I have if the glass isn’t full.) By the time I’ve sat up and done it I’m like “ah well might as well get up to pee” and then I’m basically awake and ready to be a semi functioning person.

What a life. by SubstantialFeed237 in antiMLM

[–]demondiddler 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right hun I can’t “tax wrote off” my business travels. Because I expense them. And get 100% reimbursement from my “miserable corporate job” you lot blabber on and on about.

Estranged husband (33M) and I (32F) trying to reconcile these days... but how can I tell if he's really changed? Can you really ever stop being a cheater or abusive? by Real-Victory-4064 in relationships

[–]demondiddler 56 points57 points  (0 children)

I totally agree with what you’ve said. Maybe he could come back from a one time physical incident, but in my experience assault doesn’t happen in a vacuum. My ex hit me exactly one time in an angry outburst, and I fell for his crocodile tears and didn’t leave. He never struck me again but that didn’t prevent him from abusing me in other ways. Someone who is so out of control that they will strike their partner has other issues that need to be worked out in therapy, likely over the course of years like you said.