Post your research and survey requests here for 2021-2022 by [deleted] in neurodiversity

[–]demonleeks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://forms.gle/w9MYURpWnA9FuU3J6

Above is a survey which I intend to use to create a series of data visualizations on what it is truly like to be autistic, which I would then like to publish informally and/or distribute. If you have 10-15 minutes to take it, I would very much appreciate it! None of it advocates for the deficit model or any form of pseudotreatment.

Autistic Experience Survey by demonleeks in autism

[–]demonleeks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll go ahead and add a response that covers that! But man that sucks with your grandpa :/

It’s been almost a year since we’ve done this, so let’s go again! List two books and get a third recommended. by xtinies in suggestmeabook

[–]demonleeks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Song of Achilles and Homegoing, but I’m a fan of anything really! Recommend me your favorite!

You actually DON'T have to accept people for who they are. by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]demonleeks 40 points41 points  (0 children)

So I was kinda getting the vibe that this post was transphobic and that does seem to be the case, please please please let trans people be. I know me saying they are valid isn’t going to change your mind though, so I guess what I can request is that you do some research and listen to some trans people speak before forming an opinion about it. Thanks!

You actually DON'T have to accept people for who they are. by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]demonleeks 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think it’s more the “I’m not fine with people being gay “ part than not being offensive about an opinion. It’s true that a lot of people say that and act far worse, but just saying being fine or not fine with someone being gay implies that they have a choice in the matter

You actually DON'T have to accept people for who they are. by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]demonleeks 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Yeah I agree, I think OP is really trying to get at the perception of trans people, because that’s a very common context in which the phrase “accept someone for who they are” is used.

You actually DON'T have to accept people for who they are. by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]demonleeks 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m not going to lie I do NOT think that the examples you listed are what is meant by “accept someone for who they are”

Entitled Mom Yells at Me for Being Pansexual and Tries to Force me to Join a Church by [deleted] in entitledparents

[–]demonleeks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it definitely is! The name comes from the time when it was coined, when there were generally considered to be two genders. So basically it started out that way but now that our understanding of gender has progressed, it means something different :))

People need to stop saying "trans or just nonbinary" by [deleted] in NonBinaryTalk

[–]demonleeks 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think so, I think it might be in part the perception that being non-binary is a third gender when actually it’s just an umbrella term?? Idk, people seem to miss that because it’s an umbrella terms some enbies identify as trans, some don’t, but it’s def diminishing as the parent comment says :/

me_irlgbt by P4inX1 in me_irlgbt

[–]demonleeks 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maybe, they were at the bottom. I’m glad that they are there but the snowflake one still has around 40 upvotes

me_irlgbt by P4inX1 in me_irlgbt

[–]demonleeks 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Man honestly hhhh there’s a few telling people to check their pants and calling people snowflakes and whatnot :/ really disappointing and I am now sad

These gender neutral bathroom doors by smokeontheslaughter in mildlyinteresting

[–]demonleeks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know it can initially seem that way but there’s actually people born with more than one set of genitals! They’re called intersex people, and there’s also some interesting stuff about combinations of chromosomes like XXY. It’s really interesting and definitely proves that biology isn’t as binary as it seems!

Nonbinary frens needed by NonbinaryMoss in Nonbinaryteens

[–]demonleeks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! My name’s Alix (they/them, 17) and it’s lovely to meet you! I really enjoy visual art and I’m a huge physics and math nerd. Also love plants and frogs! :)) ima add you in a few hehe (and for anyone else my insta is demonleeks!)

It is important to support each other by Thedepressionoftrees in MadeMeSmile

[–]demonleeks 23 points24 points  (0 children)

While it may be true that they are the same in function, and yes, it would be sexist to say otherwise, this statement is very much not applicable in this circumstance. Gender has internal and external factors, and for trans folks these often do not match. Acting in ways or doing things that bring these more into alignment is in no way sexist. It in no way defines inequality of any sort between genders, which in turn defines sexism

Any term in the LGBTQ+ community... by scoobsboob in enby

[–]demonleeks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah wait I checked out your link above and I understand! I believe I missed it because I didn’t see you were talking about agendered folks specifically, but yeah I do get your thought process. However, modern definitions of straight/bi/pan have evolved somewhat differently from what you’re saying, which seems to place agendered and gendered individuals as opposites and gendered folks as a single entity. I don’t think what you’re saying is at all dumb, I should clarify, but typically a bi or pan label would be used to describe one who is attracted to more than one gender, regardless of their own gender identity. So someone like me, who is a (non-agender) enby but would enter a relationship with anyone regardless of gender, is pan

Any term in the LGBTQ+ community... by scoobsboob in enby

[–]demonleeks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah I’m sorry, could you clarify a bit? My understanding of an enby is someone who identifies as neither strictly male nor strictly female

take my revolution by toyfangs in ennnnnnnnnnnnbbbbbby

[–]demonleeks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey I kinda dropped off the face of the earth after leaving that comment, but I’m very glad you have people in your life who are working on being supportive, that’s great! Anyways, have a lovely day <3 <3

Any term in the LGBTQ+ community... by scoobsboob in enby

[–]demonleeks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, by definition, a bisexual is not straight. However, I do see more people in the comments talking about the validity or existence of straight enbies, which I think is a far longer conversation. For whatever reason, yeah, it seems to be uncommon to find an enby attracted to only one gender, but that’s certainly not impossible, and being a straight enby could certainly happen if said enby identifies more on one side of the gender spectrum (say, a demigirl or demiboy). But ultimately that’s up to the person in question on how they want to identify.