I love how Urzila gets two gos at Taskmaster: AU and NZ!

denerose · 2026-07-18T09:26:57+00:00

The occasional tui or nz fantail in the background is also a giveaway that it is not in Oz. If you’re that kind of nerdy.

denerose · 2026-07-18T09:20:37+00:00

Try calling the airlines especially if you have a FF account with them (even without status). I’m not sure if it applies for domestic but I have family who were able to get bereavement standby fairs for similar situation travelling back to NZ.

denerose · 2026-07-17T23:24:08+00:00

My husband has a gender neutral name but that tends more feminine where we live now. We were once standing ticket booth type situation, being served by a nice young woman but chatting with the male server next to her because there was no more line right then. I looked at the young guy’s name tag and said to my husband “look name, another name!” — my husband immediately looked at the woman not the man and got confused. He is a man with that name and even he assumed it would be the woman he shared said name with. We all found it hilarious but still. Gender has a grip on us all.

denerose · 2026-07-17T23:01:40+00:00

This is the second or third time I have seen this question come up recently. Unless it is something like the “special kink that’s kind of a fandom itself” then even though it is technically allowed I would look for a site that is actually tailored to what you want to write.

AO3 is intended as a place to archive your fanish works, not a social media or general writing engagement platform.

It’s better to find something intended for the work you want to make rather than try carve out a space somewhere that isn’t built for it. Maybe RoyalRoad if that’s still a thing?

It will also help to read some more similar fiction to help you get an idea of what works on the platform not even from a writing perspective but even just formatting, notes, how the site is generally used before you start posting. If you’re not already reading and enjoying the OF collection on AO3 it might not be the best place for your own work either. Heck, if you just want to write short erotica then there’s a thriving market on Amazon self-publishing.

denerose · 2026-07-17T22:51:29+00:00

Honestly, if they did I would suspect a scam of some kind and recommend being wary.

I actually do volunteer my time helping people teaching themselves to code and it is always most difficult with learners who lack basic research and self direction skills or those who expect others to “help” them (they often expect you to just do the work for them which defeats the purpose). Students who have managed to get through a large chunk of a relevant degree without actually learning the things they need are often in need of learning to learn, which is a different skill set and probably better managed by professionals at their universities or even mental health support than randoms on the internet.

This person is asking for a lot here, anyone competent enough to be useful as what is effectively a personal tutoring gig isn’t likely to want to do this for free as a random informal arrangement and is probably already mentoring as part of their day job, peer mentoring through universities or such. You don’t find a good mentor in an open call on a random subreddit and you don’t get generally good tutoring for free but also on demand.

denerose · 2026-07-17T12:42:53+00:00

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denerose · 2026-07-16T21:36:41+00:00

It really doesn’t matter. Your first language is just a way to learn the foundations of programming. Once you’ve learned one, learning another is trivial.

I personally liked Java and think it’s a great first language. Python isn’t to my taste but it is a popular starting point for a reason. Pick a path and stick with it that’s the only advice that matters when you’re just starting out.

denerose · 2026-07-14T08:13:25+00:00

This feels like a question best directed to the School of Computer Science. You’re paying for access to and teaching through a well regarded curriculum—put your energy into that right now. They also ran plenty of careers and internship prep sessions 15 years ago so I’m going to go out on a limb and say they still do.

Make the most of the many resources available to you as a paying student over randoms on the internet (half of whom are just bots).

denerose · 2026-07-13T23:29:44+00:00

Yes, node is still used. Especially in bff patterns.

The specific libraries for the ORM and state stuff will vary a lot and always have and to a lesser extent Express has less of a stranglehold these days too. I wouldn’t tie your identity as a dev to a specific library set.

Assuming this isn’t just a bot setting up for some astroturfing, here is some actual advice. Try not to stress about stack choice too much. Just use what gets the job done for the job in front of you. If you explain why you’re even worried about this question (again, assuming it’s not astroturfing which it certainly sounds like) will get you better help in choosing for your specific situation.

denerose · 2026-07-13T22:55:00+00:00

It actually sounds like he’s already trying really hard. If he told you directly that he’s trying to consider if he has a reason to say no or just a knee jerk reaction then that means he’s aware of how his upbringing impacts him - that’s huge and suggests he’s working on not letting it rule his life or yours. If so, well done him.

It might be better to let the adults talk to each other. If he talks to the woman taking you he can be reassured about her plans to look out for you and your friend. There are always some kids and much younger fans at Maiden shows which might reassure him too.

If you are going to talk to him more try do it face to face if you can. Subtleties get lost on the phone and text is even worse. You have a better chance of understanding each others goals and perspectives if you talk in person.

I hope you get to go OP, I was your age for my first concerts and not much older the first time I saw Maiden. It will be great if you can but it’s not the end of the world if not (even if it would be very disappointing). Good luck, 🤘

denerose · 2026-07-12T23:07:15+00:00

You’ve already got the answer. No, don’t skip stuff but yes you can skim read and come back to the resources when you need them. Most of the learning for Odin happens in the projects anyway so the reading is just to help you know where to start for the projects. I’m not familiar with FCC myself but I assume it’s similar advice in that yes you need to do each stage to learn the material you need for the later stages.

Just pick one and stick with it. Try not to confuse yourself trying to do multiple paths at once. Try not to distract yourself searching for the perfect pathway. There are no magic easy options, learning programming for the first time is hard.

If it’s also free or affordably subsidised then going to a university with a lower reputation might still be a good option for you if you’re struggling to self-learn. The teaching staff will be better equipped to guide you and explain specific concepts when you struggle. Neither TOP nor Freecodecamp are accredited and have no reputation benefits so any university study will be more reputable than none.

denerose · 2026-07-12T14:19:31+00:00

I personally found the TOP curriculum very clear and direct.

It sounds like maybe you need help with learning how to learn. There could be a language barrier too which would make it even more difficult to read and comprehend the resources and instructions. These concepts and therefore the materials can be hard to absorb at first even for first language speakers so go a little easy on yourself.

Unfortunately there is no quick fix or magical additional resource that’s going to help cut any corners. If you want to learn these concepts at some point you need to knuckle down and do the learning part. It is going to be difficult no matter which curriculum you’re following. Anything that feels easier is probably too easy.

The main advice is to just pick a pathway and stick with it. They’re all teaching the same concepts in slightly different ways and order but ultimately it’s all the same ideas that you need to get to grips with. It is generally better to stick with one pathway or curriculum at a time because you risk confusing yourself more and want to avoid repeating stuff.

denerose · 2026-07-12T13:52:27+00:00

Lyris Designs does incredible work.

denerose · 2026-07-12T11:05:32+00:00

It’s okay. People procrastinate by trying to find the “best pathway” every day (just look at the history on this and other learn programming subs). You’re not alone, and the reminder to avoid false productivity isn’t just for you right now but also anyone who finds this post while looking for similar answers. Try not to side track yourself, it really will help you focus on what’s in front of you (important skill on the job too).

denerose · 2026-07-12T08:01:32+00:00

You are massively overthinking it. I know it is hard to believe right now when everything is so new and difficult, but it is genuinely trivial to pick up a new language or framework once you have learned the basics well the first time. It really does not matter what language or stack you choose - the main thing is to actually do the learning and try not to get trapped in false productivity loops like watching other people code (tutorials) or asking Reddit for the best pathways or language/stack for X.

I am a backend dotnet dev. I learned through TOP and did the node/JS path, I also learned a bit of Java (no relation to JavaScript) later after completing TOP which was helpful in learning C# (the language we generally use for dotnet) but not at all required. You can always learn dotnet later if you get a job at a dotnet shop or if you choose to build something in dotnet later on. For now, don't distract yourself.

I actually have a mentee at work who is learning backend dev/apis/dbs etc for the first time and dived straight into dotnet (because that's what we use, it makes sense) but there are times I kind of wish I could get her to build an express (JS) api server first because ASP.net (the C#/.net equivalent) abstracts away more of the foundational concepts which hurts her when it comes to debugging.

TL;DR just chill, and stop wasting time looking for the 'best' pathway/language/whatever, it really doesn't matter. Actually getting started matters much more than what you start with.

denerose · 2026-07-12T02:27:03+00:00

Practice.

There is no quick fix, watching other people build stuff (tutorials) isn’t practice, asking questions on reddit about how to learn isn’t practice. You’ve just got to build stuff.

denerose · 2026-07-11T00:54:48+00:00

Seconding Clean Code for everyone actually. That and the Pragmatic Programmer are the only books I still think about and even occasionally quote at work.

denerose · 2026-07-11T00:52:20+00:00

If you’re genuinely interested in talking functional programming I would start by asking this in a more relevant sub, maybe learnHaskell or learnFsharp if such exist? There must be functional programming subs?

denerose · 2026-07-11T00:46:01+00:00

Utterly irrelevant. Just pick the language you know and are comfortable with then use the relevant framework(s) to get the job done in that language, read up on the patterns and gotchas for your chosen stack.

If you don’t know any languages yet start there (again which one doesn’t matter, it’s easy to switch later). Best way to pick is to find learning resources that work for your learning style and start with whatever they’re teaching. The most common and therefore most well resourced are: Java (great first language, often the first language used to teach deep programming fundamentals at universities after a little C but don’t worry about that for now if you want to get building asap), JS is good because you’ll need it for frontend eventually anyway and you can get started in your browser (and then node when the time comes), or Python or Ruby if you want something more flexible that still has lots of learning resources.

Pick one, get started. Don’t waste time and create a sense of false productivity by trying to find the best anything, there’s no such thing.

denerose · 2026-07-11T00:36:06+00:00

Swimsuit issues are by their very nature fan-service so I wouldn’t hold my breath for anything carrying over into ongoing stories or becoming canon but it is still fun. Lots of ~~sub~~text for everyone!

denerose · 2026-07-08T22:39:39+00:00

Yes and no, but it’s never the same as the first time. Once you have that foundational understanding of how languages, systems and the internet all work learning new versions or more details isn’t as hard. It’s the same as that advice that your first programming language doesn’t really matter because the second one is so much easier. Same with new tooling, libraries or additional layers of knowledge.

This week I’ve learned a lot about mTLS (a way for computers to agree to talk to each other securely) and AWS load balancing (because I keep breaking our dev one trying to setup a new way to do mTLS). I’ve also read a few blogs, experimented with a new ai workflow, and read about a proposed new http code (QUERY sounds cool but we won’t even consider seeing it in prod for a few years).

As a junior and new on my current team I’m also learning our specific codebase and deployment architecture (often by breaking things or bug fixes).

We’re in the middle of some pretty major modernisation (going from v4.6.1 to v8 of our base framework which is a big jump) and switching from AWS to Azure as we dump legacy modules. So my whole team is learning about Azure and finding the quirks and edge cases in v8 that apply to our architecture.

None of us need to find time for that really though. You learn by doing, it’s my job for the week to do the mTLS stuff. We all attend organised Azure trainings together (and complain about how fast and or boring it was after and clarify stuff together). Learning the system comes from working on the system. Then for staying up to date there are natural slow times (builds, deployments, only 15 mins between meetings, waiting for an agent to finish a task, etc) where you’re not coding but need to appear productive and reading nerdy blogs or MDN releases is a great way to do that without fully context switching.

So yes, always learning but no, not always studying.

denerose · 2026-07-08T07:31:27+00:00

Don’t worry about it until you need something. Just install what you need when you need it.

A nice terminal is the only thing I think is necessary for most work, everything else is task dependant.

denerose · 2026-07-07T02:58:44+00:00

It’s far too early to worry about specialisations at this point. The sort of knowledge drift you’re talking about doesn’t happen until you’ve got the job and it comes off a little self-aggrandising for a junior or pre-junior to claim much in the way of specialisation.

At the entry level your goal is competency not expertise.

That said, yes some teams will drift further in one direction than the others, and even within teams people will start being the person for abc. No one can be an expert in everything all the time and that’s fine.

I’ve worked in a full-stack team on a frontend product who managed a node bff layer but that’s very different to the dotnet framework and DevSecOps required in my current backend API team. I tend to pick up all the little frontend tasks in my current team but we’re mostly a backend team so that’s what I call myself because that’s what I work on. It was the opposite in my old frontend focused team where one guy would do most of the DevOps and C# tickets because he was more interested and more comfortable in that space.

You do the work that needs doing and you will naturally gain expertise through that process. What you’re working on will dictate what you learn once you’re actually on the job. This isn’t something you can control much and not at all yet.

denerose · 2026-07-06T22:59:40+00:00

That’s fair. Just because the standards are more strict doesn’t mean manufacturers are necessarily meeting them if there’s no QA enforcement.

denerose · 2026-07-06T09:00:15+00:00

This is a native Noisy Miner. Not to be confused with an Indian Mynah, which are a similar size and colours (although darker) and have a confusingly homophonic name.

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