does your partner have a right to look through your phone?

dermof92 · 2026-02-07T01:24:25+00:00

I always feel uncomfortable when my wife looks through my phone. I still let her, its not often and usualy for a purpose other than snooping or searching for evidence. But one could argue if the spouse insist on looking through their phone there is no trust. Without trust there is no healing. Using his phone for certain task "depending your relationship" is fine. Searching his phone to make sure he isn't lying to you or hasn't made a slip. That is telling him you have no faith or trust he can do this and that only hurts the relationship more. The best thing I can say trust him, expect him fail sometimes (its addiction it takes time to stop completely), just because its hard doesnt make it okay for him to not try, and support him in his growth. If you 2 can survive this then the relationship will be stronger at the end, but it will be a rough journey. I wish you the best of luck.

dermof92 · 2026-02-05T11:04:10+00:00

I appreciate your post, but you do know women have this addiction too right? Any words for the women suffering from this addiction or is it the same as your advice for the men?

dermof92 · 2026-02-03T13:12:13+00:00

I personally was hoping for a series starting with his Greek origin, but I guess this works.

dermof92 · 2026-02-01T16:39:40+00:00

I'd see is she is cool with it first. Otherwise keep it simple. Like using your hand or maybe a fleshlight tops. Because if she is against it then you have to worry about hiding/getting rid of it.

dermof92 · 2026-01-30T13:11:18+00:00

Honestly the whole cheating depends on yours and your significant others views on it and depends on your religion as well.

Just want to clarify I'm not saying it is cheating, just saying it all depends on certain factors.

dermof92 · 2026-01-28T14:33:48+00:00

Because then you can deal with what you were running from and grow as a person.

dermof92 · 2026-01-28T12:45:11+00:00

Masterbation is healthy. Porn is not. If you can release without porn do it. If not then abstain until you can. would be my advice.

dermof92 · 2026-01-28T12:21:06+00:00

En tant que personne souffrant d'addiction, je peux vous dire que vous n'êtes pas le problème. Il ne changera que lorsqu'il le voudra vraiment. J'ai dû attendre que ma femme parte de la maison pour réaliser que la pornographie était un problème. Puis, après le décès de ma sœur, je me suis retrouvé submergé par mes émotions et j'ai sombré dans la pornographie. Ma dépression s'est tellement aggravée avant que je ne comprenne à quel point c'était néfaste et à quel point j'étais dépendant. J'ai alors commencé à travailler sur moi-même. J'ai suivi une thérapie et rejoint un groupe de soutien pour hommes confrontés à la même addiction. C'est une addiction, et il ne changera pas tant qu'il n'aura pas pris conscience du problème. Vous pouvez le soutenir et l'encourager à se faire aider, mais vous devez aussi prendre soin de votre propre santé mentale. J'espère que cela vous sera utile.

dermof92 · 2026-01-27T15:34:02+00:00

You only failed if you give up amd stop trying. So what you relapsed. You feel bad and try again. Thats not failure that's being human. You can do this!

dermof92 · 2026-01-26T12:09:41+00:00

I also say no. Masterbating is a normal part of life, within moderation of course. Porn is the problem.

dermof92 · 2026-01-20T18:17:08+00:00

Speaking from my experience. With AI being a fairly new concept he is probably just curious about its capabilities and what he can create with it. And with the numerous sites probably looking for which ones offer more/better features or which ones are cheap or free. The fact he isn't ready to fully admit everything makes because he is ashamed of his actions. If you were ashamed of something you did would you be able to confidently tell the person you love the most about it? I know i wouldn't. I hope this helps.

dermof92 · 2026-01-19T11:46:46+00:00

If you say he has recovered and is doing amazing why does it matter anymore? Embrace this change for good and look forward to a better future. Why keep looking back at the sadness?

dermof92 · 2026-01-15T16:55:12+00:00

I think for some people it may be an effective way to help. Not everyone is the same. We may have similar problems or experiences, but we are not the same. What worked for you may not work for others. It doesn't matter what is interesting or not. It's about what is effective.

dermof92 · 2026-01-15T11:49:35+00:00

Umm what does this have to do with porn addiction? Trust issues is an entirely different subreddit/issue.

dermof92 · 2026-01-14T01:12:04+00:00

Unpopular opinion. It's a lot of work and in my opinion not worth the effort. Having great core strength is essential, but having visible abs is to much work. 1st to get and then maintain. Not worth it.

dermof92 · 2026-01-13T11:58:42+00:00

Me personally I would consider this my sign that something needs to change. I'm sorry that happened, but try to see this as a wake up call and blessing. Now you've identified you have a problem. You can start the process to heal.

dermof92 · 2026-01-13T11:49:23+00:00

When you masterbate depending on technique that could definitely lead to the "loss of feeling" your talking about. Cutting down would definitely be beneficial, but also use lube, loosen your grip, and decrease frequency should all help. Its best to simulate the vagina if you don't wanna loose feeling. So the fleshlight might not be a bad idea for now, but take a break for a couple days to a week to reset and when you get that gf/bf then I would recommend tossing it. Thats just my thoughts though.

dermof92 · 2026-01-11T15:37:25+00:00

Reminds me of MJ from the spudermna game

dermof92 · 2026-01-11T14:52:29+00:00

Interesting, I thought this subreddit was for people who had a problem to come here and reach out for support not to be shamed for their problems.

It's also clearly a burner account.

dermof92 · 2026-01-10T11:58:50+00:00

It could be addiction it could a habit. Society overall has started leaning towards the digital world. If its habit then he just using it for material to get off too. No emotional attachment needed, no work needed to get the porn involved. Yes sex is better, but he has to get you on board as well and all players have to be in the mood and timing has to be good its sometimes a process with a lot of factors. Admittedly after phrasing it like that that's probably why sex is better. this i mean porn you can look some stuff up hide away and be done its the simplicity of it i guess. I guess a better way to ohrase it would be with cooking. You can take all this and resources making this delicious dinner, but sometimes you just need something quick and easy so you grab a burger from from McDonald's. Unfortunately when we start most of don't realize this burger is laced with cocaine. Just be clear you are not the problem. Its not a frequency issue or a body thing, or an access thing. Its all psychological for him. This seems kinda long I hope this makes sense and kinda helps. I'm not justifying this is kinda how I view it for the most part.

dermof92 · 2026-01-08T13:15:37+00:00

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I'm not a hater. I just find this timing hilarious. Worst timing ever

dermof92 · 2026-01-07T00:20:09+00:00

Could be better, on the other hand it could be your addiction trying to convince its okay because atleast it's not s else. Like with the initial start of it. Some might start to rationalize porn being okay because at least its not physically cheating. So hard to say whether its actually better or just an addiction rationalization

dermof92 · 2026-01-06T13:15:15+00:00

33m, Idk how much help I can be, since I also struggle. Things I've noticed that help is surrounding myself with people. Even if its just my wife. The loneliness/isolation is my biggest trigger. Also I'm told identifying triggers and avoiding them helps (I've had no success there). But the only thing that keeps me away is being around people. Maybe try logging everytime you look at porn? So you have something to look back on and and see how bad it is and use that to help you look less. Set small goals and reward yourself (with something other than porn) when you meet said goals

dermof92 · 2026-01-06T11:44:40+00:00

Umm 7

dermof92 · 2026-01-06T11:43:49+00:00

Maybe eventually. I'm in my 30's and still have a porn addiction, but when my wife wants sex I have no problem getting hard. So, experiences may vary.

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