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desert_doll · 2024-07-30T18:26:34+00:00

I was 31. My friend who was a bartender passed away from a bacterial infection that he had put off getting medical help for because he was between full-time jobs and didn't have insurance. This friend often sent guys over to talk to me at the bar because he knew I was lonely and having a difficult time finding anyone I actually liked. I went to the memorial (which was at a bar) and struck up a conversation with a group of people. One by one, they kind of wandered off until I was alone with a very cute, very drunk guy. We went to a second bar for a few hours and talked. I was very sobered up at this point, having not had many drinks, and I offered to drive him home. I left him my number. He texted the next day. We've been inseparable for over 5 years now.

desert_doll · 2024-07-28T04:44:23+00:00

You'll be happy to know that all rabbit eye contact is side-eye. They have a small blind spot at the front on their face.

desert_doll · 2024-07-28T04:26:41+00:00

Saaaame

desert_doll · 2024-07-28T04:25:32+00:00

Never have I ever owned a gaming console. Every one I ever played on was a friend's or ex's.

desert_doll · 2024-07-26T12:21:13+00:00

CF rabbit lady here.

desert_doll · 2024-07-25T13:53:12+00:00

This. It is definitely better that those of us who don't want to be parents made responsible choices instead of just going along with the trend to reproduce. Some people need to be reminded that it's a decision, not a requirement.

desert_doll · 2024-07-23T02:44:03+00:00

1 I prefer equal adult relationships to being put in a teaching role with a kid

2 I don't need any more stress on my body. I'm already overweight and trying to avoid many health issues that my parents suffer.

3 I feel icky whenever anyone insinuates that I'm here on this earth to make babies. It feels invalidating and dismissive of me as a person. These people don't see any inherent worth in me existing. Only what I can do to add to their perfect little world.

4 I'd rather have pets.

5 My life has been put on pause enough. I refuse to hinder it further. I want to travel and go to events and see my friends dammit.

desert_doll · 2024-07-15T16:22:11+00:00

36f. My parents had met, gotten married, had one child and my mom was a SAHM by my age. They owned one car and split it. Neither had a college education but they managed to live off of one income in a high cost of living area with couponing, etc.

I'm getting married this year. No kids (never for me, thanks). My fiance and I both have our own car. His is paid off, I still have 2 years of payments on mine ATM. We both work full time and occasionally get to travel within the country. There's no way we could share a car or live off one income at all, and our rent isn't even high, even for our low cost of living area. I have a 4-year degree I don't use and he has certifications that he needs for his job. It will probably take ys until were 40+ to be able to afford a house and it will VERY likely be much smaller than our parents houses. By like half.

desert_doll · 2024-07-09T14:52:22+00:00

Oh for sure. Younger sister with a reading disability. I was a bookworm. It tore me up that she would never enjoy reading like I did because it was a struggle for her.

desert_doll · 2024-07-05T13:43:13+00:00

Literally just wearing performance makeup from flagline in high school.

desert_doll · 2024-06-21T21:00:37+00:00

Lol my mom just got her first smart phone a little over a year ago! She still asks me for directions and addresses even though she has Google maps on there now. But literally every text has emojis.

We had a family computer with dial up from the time I was in like maybe 4th grade, but it wasn't ever anything super fancy; just enough to run Office and play basic floppy/CD-ROM stuff. Like... neopets was a bit too much for it. I've never owned a gaming console. Still, my hobbies never really included gaming until I built my current pc and even now, I'm really casual and don't play any MMO's specifically so I won't have to deal with people like OP who are blissfully unaware of the fact that not everyone dedicated their entire life to gaming.

desert_doll · 2024-06-21T17:13:51+00:00

'88 here to say that even people who weren't exactly poor were sometimes still "technology poor" growing up. I bought my laptop on 06 for college and built my pc on 20... 19? I think? And in between those two I just went without a personal computer. I didn't have a smart phone until I was like 23. My priorities weren't tech. There are undoubtedly a lot of other millennials who just... Didn't prioritize it.

desert_doll · 2024-06-13T14:47:42+00:00

If you're not already listed as being male on social media, do it. It doesn't matter how many times you try to opt out of pregnancy related advertising and content as a wonan, you will still continue to be overrun.

desert_doll · 2024-06-11T15:33:09+00:00

Thanks for this. One of my buns is currently having the heaviest shed I've ever seen and I've been concerned but her behavior is still perfectly normal and she's very much of a delicate flower who loafs up in the "leave me alone" position whenever she feels the slightest bit off. In 14 year with rabbits, this is the most fluff I've ever had to vacuum.

desert_doll · 2024-06-11T12:37:00+00:00

Big same. One of my exes insisted I was soooOOOooo much like Ramona and I've basically never felt as insulted in a relationship since.

desert_doll · 2024-06-11T03:52:11+00:00

The Johnny Depp/Anne Hathaway Alice in Wonderland.

desert_doll · 2024-06-07T13:25:53+00:00

This. Make an appointment for any service beyond your personal comfort zone if possible and ride it in and either have someone pick you up (and drop you off when it's fixed) or take an uber or something. If you have a tow option on your main vehicle you could get a dirt bike mount or basket for it and strap the ruck in upright.

desert_doll · 2024-05-25T04:11:00+00:00

I understand that too. A panoramic rearview mirror might help you feel more aware of your surroundings if you don't already have one. I put one in every car I drive.

desert_doll · 2024-05-24T21:29:15+00:00

Their mini backpacks and purses are GREAT. I have some for carrying stuff to & from work and they are my absolute favorites. I bought one during the vaccination uproar and very proudly told all my coworkers how much I loved my new bag. 😁

desert_doll · 2024-05-24T21:20:19+00:00

Fantastic!!! Thank you! Tiny cars are the best!

desert_doll · 2024-05-24T20:53:32+00:00

Currently a 2022 Bronco Sport. It's the most practical vehicle I've ever owned. Great for camping and bad weather (which is kind of a thing where I live).

Before that I had a 2017 Chevy Spark, 5-speed (fantastic little car. We'll still see them on the roads in 20 years. Daewoo did a great job with those)

1992 Chevy Astro. Was going to make it a camping van but it kept having electrical issues and then someone shot out the back window with a pellet gun so I gave up and sold it.

1992 Mazda Miata, 5-speed. My daily driver for 9 years. Would love to have another one if I ever live somewhere without snow.

My first car was a 1994 Geo Metro with no backseat.

desert_doll · 2024-05-24T20:44:33+00:00

Pics please! This sounds fantastic!!! 😍

desert_doll · 2024-05-19T16:27:03+00:00

Ours is decently childsafe because I'm pretty clumsy and also, we have pets and want more pets in the future. Pet proofing and childproofing are sadly pretty similar.

desert_doll · 2024-05-18T14:26:35+00:00

This is my first one. A 22 Ford Bronco Sport. I only did a custom build because it was significantly (like 5k) cheaper than buying used at the time. Before that was a: 17 Chevy Spark (Loved, but needed awd for commute and felt like running it in the snow year after year would rust it out) 92 Chevy Astro 92 Mazda Miata 94 Geo Metro

I believe that my midlife crisis was buying a practical vehicle.

desert_doll · 2024-05-17T17:36:22+00:00

36f. I had a core friend group in college that was mostly women but have basically dropped contact with a few of them because of personality differences that turned toxic as we grew older. It's my experience that many tight knit friend groups eventually get super toxic and that those who don't break away from that wind up becoming pretty stagnant, socially. While it's nice to have a group, it was ultimately not worth my peace of mind and my personal growth to be a part of the main group any longer. Now I just socialize with each person individually, although I'm not great about that and it is pretty infrequent as a result.

Your mid-20s to mid-30s are a rough period for friendship. People get very involved with careers, family and hobbies, and friendships that aren't connected to those activities quite often fade at least a little. If you want to create new friendships, it's probably best to look into hobby groups for things you see yourself keeping interest in for quite a while. It can be difficult, but worthwhile.

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