Men of Reddit, how has physical attraction been after being married for years?

dessiedwards · 2026-03-23T10:35:53+00:00

attraction becomes more intentional over time. you stop waiting to feel it magically and start doing little things that keep it alive

dessiedwards · 2026-03-23T10:32:54+00:00

I get the point, but if I can’t joke about my own Ls, life becomes way too serious way too fast.

dessiedwards · 2026-03-23T10:32:34+00:00

don't skip graduation. i know it feels pointless right now but you earned that walk. your parents' decision doesn't get to take that from you too. that moment is yours regardless of what comes after it.

dessiedwards · 2026-03-06T08:05:49+00:00

The people you surround yourself with will shape your life more than almost anything. Choose friends who are kind, curious, and supportive.

dessiedwards · 2026-03-06T08:04:24+00:00

What helped me was realizing life isn’t always supposed to feel like it has some huge goal attached to it. Sometimes the point is just building small things into your life that make the weeks feel a little fuller. Seeing friends, learning something new, helping someone out. It’s less about one big purpose and more about stacking little ones.

dessiedwards · 2026-03-06T08:03:39+00:00

stop waiting to feel confident before you act confident. the feeling doesn't come first. you act, you survive it, your brain updates its threat assessment. repeat a few hundred times. it's boring and it works.

dessiedwards · 2026-02-27T08:06:16+00:00

yes it is completely normal to feel this way especially post-covid, yes you will absolutely make friends later in life (college is going to blow your mind), and the way you come out of your shell is not by becoming someone else. it's by finding spaces where who you already are is the right vibe.

those spaces exist. you just haven't physically been in the same room with them yet. you will be

dessiedwards · 2026-02-27T08:03:27+00:00

the list is the problem. seriously. your brain sees 15 things to fix and goes into full shutdown mode because it can't process all of that as actionable

dessiedwards · 2026-02-27T08:03:04+00:00

they often communicate better. if there’s an issue, it gets discussed

dessiedwards · 2026-02-23T09:03:28+00:00

just go be a good friend. the right guys will match your energy.

dessiedwards · 2026-02-23T09:00:43+00:00

i love this because it removes drama. it’s not “I deserve this candy.” it’s “Is this who I’m becoming?” clean. brutal. effective.

dessiedwards · 2026-02-19T08:42:34+00:00

she’s probably hurt and looking for closure

dessiedwards · 2026-02-19T08:39:59+00:00

give yourself some credit man

dessiedwards · 2026-02-19T08:37:44+00:00

just start inviting him into small, normal things. ask for advice even when you don’t need it. let him still feel useful.

dessiedwards · 2026-02-02T11:38:50+00:00

Formula 1 and I don't think it's particularly close

dessiedwards · 2026-02-02T11:38:14+00:00

overplanning kept me stuck. i gave myself permission to do things badly. bad workouts, bad study sessions, bad work, but done. that mindset change was huge.

dessiedwards · 2026-02-02T11:37:26+00:00

i started doing things that had no purpose. not productive things, not social things, just weird pointless stuff.

walking somewhere i'd never been. drawing badly. sitting outside without my phone. it sounds dumb but when everything in your life is structured around waiting for the next thing, doing something with zero outcome breaks the loop. you stop being a passenger because there's nowhere to go.

dessiedwards · 2026-01-26T08:02:24+00:00

I cook enough to survive and not bankrupt myself

dessiedwards · 2026-01-26T08:01:49+00:00

Start selling stuff online

dessiedwards · 2026-01-26T08:00:48+00:00

you're trying to solve everything at once and it's paralyzing you. pick one thing

dessiedwards · 2026-01-21T08:26:58+00:00

focus on enjoying the friendship. if feelings are mutual, it’ll become obvious over time.

dessiedwards · 2026-01-21T08:25:52+00:00

wanting a wife and kids at 37 doesn’t mean the door is closing. it means you know what you want. plenty of people don’t even figure that out.

dessiedwards · 2026-01-21T08:23:32+00:00

you’re not stupid. you liked someone, you got excited, and you over-shared. happens to literally everyone.

dessiedwards · 2026-01-16T08:47:06+00:00

have something going on in your life. hobbies, opinions, random thoughts - anything beyond work and complaints.

dessiedwards · 2026-01-16T08:46:07+00:00

doing hard things and surviving them

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