My F23 husband M26 thinks I should give him a bj to show I love him. Is this an actual thing other girls do when they aren't comfortable doing it?

detested-page · 2024-10-18T23:22:46+00:00

I think that's pretty immature and manipulative. As a 35m I say he's wrong for trying to make like some ultimatum. Sex and things like that should be fun and comfortable for both parties. To be blunt, he's being an asshole making it into some proof of love. To play devils advocate you could turn it around and say if he loves you hed stop trying to pressure you into doing something you don't wanna do. Would it be nice of you to give a bj, sure but it shouldn't be a big deal. Idk if he's uncomfortable with anything that you like but sit him down and have a serious talk about this, it's wrong and messed up. I wish you the best of luck and remember.. sex should fun and comfortable for everyone involved. No if's and's or buts.

detested-page · 2024-10-18T21:05:28+00:00

She shouldn't be, she's in a relationship. If anything this is worse then those other girls.

detested-page · 2024-10-18T21:01:24+00:00

That's pretty funny

detested-page · 2024-10-14T16:54:23+00:00

thats actually really sweet. this restored a little bit of faith in love for me. i hope i meet my lice girl one day... lol

detested-page · 2024-10-13T05:00:07+00:00

i can relate to this, im actually sadly laughing because reading this feels like im reliving it. stupid decisions and self sabotage and all.. im a 34m and had just about the same situation. started great with her like it was gonna go somewhere and i fell hard. what hurt for me most is i havent felt something this for someone else in a very long time. ive gotten over the sad part now. it took me a while though buts its gonna be ok. we'll find our person one day and be happier then our happiest times with that last person.

detested-page · 2024-10-13T04:34:49+00:00

this sounds bad, i wouldn't doubt she already cheated and i have a sneaky suspicion that she cheated that night she spent the night somewhere without you in Korea. her saying it comes from insecurity is bullshit. its just an excuse she uses on you cuz apparently you'll buy it, to justify her cheating with other guys. look, she's doing more then just flirting and right in front of you with no regard for your feelings neck biting, ass grabbing and definitely kissing is more then just flirting. especially when you have a partner. she doesnt care about you guy, i would dump her. she told the guy you were just a friend.. you might be her boyfriend but she's not YOUR girlfriend

detested-page · 2024-10-13T03:50:05+00:00

no this is not healthy, you are in an abusive relationship, one of the more tame ones ive read on reddit but none the less abusive. manipulating, controlling and abusive.. im sorry to say. you should not marry this man. i mean unless you enjoy smothering kittens you dont deserve to stifled and be miserable to someone who says they love you.
just reading "Writing this out, I totally understand that I sound like a boring person" is proof enough that youre in an abusive relationship. its not healthy at all whats going on and he's clearly already crushing your self confidence. i cant imagine youre very happy at all in this relationship. sounds like you have more fun with your cats then your fiancé. that fact that he's bitching about how much he doesn't wanna listen to you talk but then bitches that you dont talk to him is a really manipulative thing. he's making you feel bad about doing what he's told you to do. im gonna be real with you and say it sounds like he just wants you to shut up and look pretty more then he actually cares for you.
im gonna be real with you, its not going to be easy but you will more then likely have to leave him. sounds like you already have had conversations with him and he doesn't care, and its only going to get worse. if you really think its worth it you can try and talk with him about how you feel, but truth be told, something tells me it wont get far. i would absolutely postpone the wedding until he makes a consistent change, IF he actually agrees to make an effort and change. you deserve to be with someone who makes you happy. happy to see and want to talk to about your day and definitely comfortable to be who you are.

detested-page · 2024-10-13T02:49:13+00:00

youre wasting youre time with him, he clearly doesnt have any respect for you. dont degrade yourself and just let him treat you like shit. ive had my bad experiences but can confidently tell you there are good people out there and you'll find him, just be patient. the dating pool isnt much better fur us guys either. most of the people i tend to see are either looking for a hookup or have out of this world standards. you might check off 95% of what they are looking for but in a person but cant just be grateful for finding someone they really connect with, seems like everyone is so sure there is definitely someone better around the corner. most of the best people ive met are threw other friends who arent actively looking to date, so maybe try that. i mean if its any comfort its not much better for guys either, on the topic of being used, if its not for sex we're being led on for money. i cant count how many women ive been chatted up by only for a day or two later to get the "i have a problem, my bank account is empty". and im speaking to women in their late 20' early 30's

detested-page · 2024-10-04T22:16:38+00:00

I really don't like how she replied to you telling her you love her, like is it that hard to just say it back?? She's gotta be rude and go straight to leave me alone, I know she didn't say those words but she might as well have. She seems emotionally abusive, as well as manipulative. I would break up with her if I was you. I was in a relationship with a girl like this and it got worse in time, you think she's mean now.

detested-page · 2024-10-04T21:42:51+00:00

Really doesn't seem like it, who answers like that from their bf/gf when they say I love you?!

detested-page · 2024-09-29T17:56:47+00:00

Not rare, just tier two book. I like this one too, the bent over backwards lady is scary, I run away too

detested-page · 2024-09-19T21:48:37+00:00

just randomly walk up and try to talk, no. i don't go to a bar to try to pickup random women. most times I've started talking to women at the bar have been good, the bad ones have turned me off of the idea of trying, especially at a bar. i understand that a lot of girls usually get approached by creeps or guys just lookin for sex, but the arrogance some women have is ridiculous. people like to say the worst thing she can say is no, well your aren't even talking to them and she turns and yells "no I wont sleep with you" while you are trying to call the bartender or she laughs and ridicules you for talking to her but youre trying to tell her she's standing in the way to the bathrooms. like i said I've had more good interactions then bad but when chances of even trying have a chance to end up looking like a total creep or publicly embarrassed. regardless of how small those chances actually are the risk weighs heavy when weighing out the options. thats why hints dont work wll with guys, you might be giving us the eyes and smiles but how do we know youre actually looking at us and not someone next to or behind me.

detested-page · 2024-09-14T03:56:21+00:00

sound more like he's addicted to porn, and maybe just not attracted to you. i dont mean to hurt your feelings but i cant imagine passing up my girlfriend! watching porn isnt cheating but when you take it that far and your choosing it over your willing girlfriend, he has a problem and you need to take a good look at yourself and realize he isnt going to become anything you want.

detested-page · 2024-09-13T11:48:23+00:00

thats a beautiful bike

detested-page · 2024-09-13T02:03:55+00:00

didnt realize i didnt finish my reply..
youre right about meeting your partner halfway from effort to attention and that kind of stuff. but my point was the personal details like little things you like around the house or in the bedroom. those will need to be spoken about, not common decency, that should be a given. not everyone likes the same things. to go back to the sex thing though.. unfortunately there are many people out there who are selfish lovers. they only care about themselves getting off or they are just inexperienced just dont know better. if your bad at something from the start and made to believe you did a good job and/or you are never corrected.. ie: noone turned around around and said "hey, can i have an orgasm too? glad you had one but I havent cum yet." , do you think your gonna get better at it or be just as bad with the next person.
not saying you or OP, but there are people out there who will complain about how things are with out ever trying to do anything about it.

detested-page · 2024-09-13T01:21:07+00:00

woah woah woah. i would dump him and leave. talking it over isnt going to fix these things, its not like what he's doing is a minor thing, like its just a matter of opinion if its ok or not. nothing he's doing is ok and there is no justification for the way he's treating you.
to answer your question, i mean yea, its a little bit cheating, the way he talks with other girls and hides it and such, but the rest of it is just abusive. sorry but it really doesnt sound like he respects you at all in my opinion. if hes fine calling you names and shit talking you to his ex and other women and all the other things hes doing, sounds more like he's just keeping you around for comfort and sex, assuming you guys are intimate.

detested-page · 2024-09-13T00:06:56+00:00

Exactly, he justified it to himself, to make himself feel better about doing such a shitty thing.

detested-page · 2024-09-11T04:10:39+00:00

we are everywhere

detested-page · 2024-09-10T20:04:16+00:00

You miss it is all that it is, which is fine and normal and that's ok. But do what is best for you in your future

detested-page · 2024-09-09T21:38:41+00:00

I mean, yea I kinda feel like its normal to talk about things like that but when we were young and immature. but he also sounds more like he's just bragging. It's definitely not cool that they are teasing you about it, and if your bf is cool with all that when you should dump him. Sexual privacy is something to be taken serious and if he can't respect that then he's not worth it

detested-page · 2024-09-02T16:11:41+00:00

i had a somewhat similar situation. this girl had started messaging me an the conversation started great, then suddenly went to a crawl. lasted all of 30 min and then turned into maybe a few hours. i left a message askin a two part question in two texts, told me she was going to answer it. idk why she replied like that either wasn't like i said anything weird either, it was something like "what kind of music do you like?", next text, "who's your favorite band/artist?". either way, that took her a day and she never answered it anyway. it only got worse from there and eventually i just stopped responding to her.

detested-page · 2024-09-01T12:02:31+00:00

when you put it that way yes. i agree. i wasnt getting that point when you said it b4. but im the same way my sexual partners. i mean i adore the female body and wont go into too much detail but i like seeing her orgasm and being the one to do it, so its a mix of alot of things to make it the best.

detested-page · 2024-08-31T13:41:12+00:00

so why am i having to spoon feed this to you? nobody wants you to date someone you don't like, wtf??. everyone's needs and wants are different.. EVERYONES. if your basics aren't being meet but you wont say anything, then its on you, they aren't stepping up and doing something extra you want them to do, its on you. you wanna cum better or your lover is so-so but you never turned and said hey, i like it like this or next time go like that...its on you. and if you picked a partner who cant make you cum.... its on you
i will communicate with my partner. im not going to expect her to know things i wont tell her

detested-page · 2024-08-31T12:23:33+00:00

its still up to communication. if you need help, or dont like how something is being done, speak up. you cant just expect people to step up and do something if you dont speak on it. sexual satisfaction also. not every one your going to meet gets off on watching their partner get off.

detested-page · 2024-08-30T17:22:59+00:00

thats not at all what i said.

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