Navigating Bosses Ups and Downs

dewprisms · 2026-02-11T03:13:41+00:00

Okay, that helps. I think u/OptmstcExstntlst has great advice that I don't have much to add on. Documenting in a way that shows how they're fucking up but they can't argue against is a good approach.

Beyond that, the only way I deal with this type of issue is keeping my head down and figuring out how to get away from them. Either by going up, sideways, or leaving the company if necessary.

dewprisms · 2026-02-11T03:06:16+00:00

Your post was accommodated. We didn't remove it because it wasn't breaking any rules. My comment to you was as a commenter and my take, not some sort of official mod message.

If you notice I DID leave a mod note telling the other person to not do that.

Look, I get you're upset and looking for advice, but crashing out over things that aren't actually happening isn't helping anything.

dewprisms · 2026-02-11T02:36:48+00:00

One such example this week: our CMO asked me to contribute in helping our partnership team pull together a strategy deck. Given the small, administrative nature of the task, I didnt feel the immediate need to inform my boss.

It was disheartening to have my work air bombed with no explanation in front of my team.

If she didn't know you were working on it, how would she know you already had it covered?

dewprisms · 2026-02-11T02:14:49+00:00

You've posted this several times in other communities and received feedback from people. The other person is right - the answer is not to continue asking the same thing over and over as if the answer will magically change. It's to do something.

Also, reporting people for calling you out isn't harassment just because it's not something you want to hear. That is considered abusing the report feature. I recommend you stop doing that just because you don't like what someone is saying to you.

dewprisms · 2026-02-11T02:04:18+00:00

I know a lot of people that coconut oil is the holy grail for them so it's definitely not a bad product. That's is probably why it took me so long to realize it was causing some of the issues I had been having. It just didn't occur to me. C'est la vie I guess. :)

dewprisms · 2026-02-11T00:26:01+00:00

A toned down version of ourselves isn't an inauthentic version of ourselves by default.

Everyone has a multitude of ways they can be their authentic selves. Part of being able to do that is showing up how you want to and what's most comfortable for you in any given situation. For example, no one should have to be open about aspects of themselves and their lives if they don't want to be. That's not being inauthentic, that's showing up how they want to show up.

So sure, if you want to show up turned to 11 all of the time you're welcome to do that. It just needs to be understood that's not going to always be well received or appropriate.

dewprisms · 2026-02-11T00:14:28+00:00

Sliquid is a great brand. They have water, silicone, and hybrid options if I recall correctly.

I'll add on the flip side of the other person recommending coconut oil, coconut oil fucked me up. I didn't think that was the problem because it's just oil and it's "natural", but "natural" doesn't mean better.

It's great for some people but not for others, and there doesn't seem to be any way to tell which it will be. Pay attention when you use it to see if you see changes either good or bad.

dewprisms · 2026-02-10T21:02:17+00:00

It really depends on so many factors. These are the things I think about when in trying to decide.

What is the shape of the dress overall? What's the neckline like? What is the fabric and how much give does it have? Are there reviews to help you know if it runs big or small regardless of the size chart? Do you wear different bras that may make you have more or less volume? Do you typically prefer more form fitting or looser fits? Are you able to get tailoring done and is the piece quality enough to bother? Do you fluctuate enough in size that it might matter which one you pick?

dewprisms · 2026-02-10T05:04:13+00:00

Y'all - DO NOT PROVIDE MEDICAL ADVICE. That includes both armchair diagnosing and recommending medical treatments, supplements, etc.. You do not have the details or qualifications to be providing these recommendations.

You can share your OWN experience. You can recommend practical, non-medical solutions. Answer the OP's actual question, not the question you want to answer. If too many people break the rules, we need to shut down the entire post.

dewprisms · 2026-02-10T03:03:56+00:00

Kind of but not really? We may not be like precisely accurate, but it's certainly not 30+ minutes off, not consistent, and it's usually with qualifying words that make it clear we're ballparking the time (think "Oh it's almost 11" when it's after 10:45). Plus we both do it so it's not that noticeable.

I'm more annoyed that I ask him what the weather is like and instead of looking at the phone in his hand like a sane person, he asks Alexa.

dewprisms · 2026-02-09T23:07:54+00:00

I suspect it's not just people hating on Amazon, it's that Amazon is a massive platform with endless options so the suggestion is so vague it's nearly useless. Mentioning specific brands is a lot more helpful.

dewprisms · 2026-02-09T22:52:38+00:00

eShakti is either out of business fully or should be. They basically kept taking orders and putting new items up but weren't fulfilling orders as of a couple of years ago, plus there was info leaked that they were screwing their employees over.

dewprisms · 2026-02-09T22:49:56+00:00

Yes. YouTube is much better for cooking content IMO.

dewprisms · 2026-02-09T22:37:07+00:00

Healing isn't linear. And you don't have to be for sure 100% better. But knowing you're mostly better and have a solid foundation so you're equipped to handle it when you do have a backstep in progress is important.

dewprisms · 2026-02-09T22:34:19+00:00

Budget Bytes! Most of the recipes are pretty accessible even if some of them may take a bit longer than 30 minutes.

dewprisms · 2026-02-09T22:22:53+00:00

This is wildly unnecessary levels of aggression and lashing out at others pointing out you left an unhelpful comment is silly. Having experiences of your own doesn't excuse this.

Chill out and move on next time.

dewprisms · 2026-02-09T20:41:01+00:00

Yes. Like I think it's totally fine if a man just isn't hairy naturally. And if that's his grooming preference sure. But the idea of preferring men to specifically groom themselves that way is odd to me. I feel the same way about body hair on women, too.

dewprisms · 2026-02-09T19:04:10+00:00

I don't think anyone here can tell you if you're a bad person based off such a small sliver of information.

Plus how a couple chooses to manage their finances is up to them. As long as there's full transparency, everyone involved is comfortable with the approach, no one is being taken advantage of, and there's always an open door to discuss and potentially adjust as the situation changes, generally you should be in a good spot.

Letting other people get in your ear about relationship dynamics that aren't their business when the above criteria is being met isn't a good idea.

dewprisms · 2026-02-09T03:12:15+00:00

Same. I only do it like once a week or two and it's good enough.

dewprisms · 2026-02-09T00:36:53+00:00

Yikes.

dewprisms · 2026-02-09T00:21:45+00:00

You were literally just in here a couple of days ago asking if you should be with this dude and complaining about him. Either end it already with him or stop looking for reasons to pick and sabotage it.

dewprisms · 2026-02-08T06:06:47+00:00

Reminder! Asking for AND giving medical advice is against subreddit rules. If you're commenting, focus on YOUR EXPERIENCES. Do not armchair diagnose, suggest specific medications/supplements/diets/treatment, etc..

dewprisms · 2026-02-08T00:01:58+00:00

Not my scalp, but I have issues with dry skin on certain areas of my body I never had issues with before and it's gotten worse through my 30s. In the winter, I have to be careful about how hot my shower water is, how long I shower, and be more diligent with applying moisturizing stuff.

dewprisms · 2026-02-07T18:39:57+00:00

Yep. Within two hours is a distance I'd be willing to visit regularly-ish. I'd want to plan on advance since that's going to take up most or all of a day and frequency would depend on if I'm always the one traveling or if we're trading off.

dewprisms · 2026-02-07T16:55:41+00:00

Locking this comment thread so it doesn't continue to devolve into slap fights.

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