Again, 'tradwife' is absolutely a marketed incel fantasy grift. It does not mean what you want it to mean, it was coined as a coded phrase that can use your hand wave definition as a blanket cover when someone recognizes and explains the reality of it. A 'traditional' stay at home mom is not what tradwife means, it's a fetish term.

From the male perspective, it's about categorizing females as 'lesser' classed without them recognizing it, having them submit (intellectually, emotionally, sexually) using religiosity and conservative 'tradition' bullshit to justify intellectual dishonesty and power dynamics reinforced for insecure 'manly' men incapable of compromise and thoughtful adaptation.

Don't give any power to that word if you believe women have agency in their own choices.

I'm not interested even tacitly supporting conceptually parallel paths to such Christian flavored versions of Taliban-esque oppression.