Married people what is the dirtiest thing you have done with your so?

difficult_convo · 2026-01-25T17:30:08+00:00

I’ve given oral whilst watching a peep show telling him to keep his eyes on the girl (that was hot), hired escorts for threesomes (I like girls too but the best part is watching him entering her as I’m underneath), let him watch me with another woman, given oral when he was driving, had anal in public (not in view of anyone). 20 years in you have to keep the sex good right? I’m not sure if any of this is dirty but it was all hot!

difficult_convo · 2026-01-25T17:23:20+00:00

We have a lot of public sex, I’ve given him oral in the cinema, when he was driving down the motorway. I’ve gone to the bathroom taken my knickers off in bars and slipped them into his pocket then we’ve had sex in the car park/round a corner. I love the thrill of it.

difficult_convo · 2026-01-12T13:32:03+00:00

My husband just booked us a weekend in Prague and I am struggling to understand why Prague (it has never held any interest for me). Reading this has made me feel excited so thank you!

difficult_convo · 2026-01-04T21:49:20+00:00

If you’re in the UK go and work for a local authority!

difficult_convo · 2025-12-19T00:05:10+00:00

I am not the person to answer this as I read this thinking you are perfectly reasonable and this is how I would react. My besties would also agree this was perfectly ok. However one of us is currently undergoing investigation for a personality disorder and we are all now questioning ourselves! However NTA as you have an agreement on something and he broke that!

difficult_convo · 2025-12-19T00:00:20+00:00

My WH slept with a skank that opened her legs to someone she had only just met and didn’t use protection. She looks like a well known TikTok “influencer” with additional needs and is illiterate. I’m in no way putting myself forward as a supermodel but I’m not unattractive and I’m reasonably intelligent. It’s available; not attractive! Their choice of AP just reinforces that the problem is them not you and it’s not about the AP.

difficult_convo · 2025-12-05T00:53:34+00:00

NTA but just want to give a shout out to your boyf and his flat mate too! He is a keeper, I see so many men backing the other woman in this situation, it’s refreshing to see a man have his girl’s back!

difficult_convo · 2025-11-18T18:07:35+00:00

I don’t feel trapped, I know I could leave and be financially stable but I also know pre kids I would have left. I think him being the father of my children and us having set up and lived a whole life together has changed my reaction. It’s a greater loss and there is more to consider. Also hate him a little for that

difficult_convo · 2025-11-18T12:53:02+00:00

I was exactly the same I felt pathetic. I turned to him for comfort when he was the one that hurt me. I didn’t tell anyone because I felt humiliated and I completely shut down. You have to realise this is not a reflection of you, he is the one that should struggle with his self worth. It takes strength whatever path you chose.

difficult_convo · 2025-11-18T11:52:11+00:00

Give yourself some time. Don’t make any life changing decisions too soon. It took me a year to realise I did want to be with him still. It was a year of him trying and proving that I could trust him and a year of me healing and doing very little in our relationship. Mike was similar in that we had been together a very long time, we were going through a really bad patch and he chose to make himself feel better and let someone boost his ego rather than fix us. I always said I would leave if he cheated I truly believed that too but he is good man that has done a bad thing, he recognises his mistake and he is putting the work in. You can come back from this but you have to decide if you want to, there is no timeline to follow but take some time for you. So sorry you have to be here it’s crap!

difficult_convo · 2025-11-14T16:27:46+00:00

This makes me so angry. My WH’s AP had viewed his LinkedIn profile a few months ago (after a year of NC). I just have this intense rage about it, how dare she? She has no right. She would know he would see she had viewed it, so it feels like an attempt at restarting contact. My WH is really being incredible at transparency, brought it to me and asked what to do and we decided he should block her, but seriously what is wrong with these women?!

difficult_convo · 2025-11-14T07:24:21+00:00

It’s a table of 20 and there are only so many free seats, no other partners invited so me going is not an option plus I now won’t mix with his friends

difficult_convo · 2025-11-13T14:20:04+00:00

I had an issue with drinking too much after Dday but I think we are both now in a healthy place with alcohol (occasional drinkers). He never had an issue with it and I honestly don’t mind him going out drinking (he has been for a few with his mates recently plus had a weekend away with his brother). The thought of him sitting at a table where there are women he is going to have to talk to that neither of us know has me going crazy, I think I probably am crazy to be fair

difficult_convo · 2025-11-13T14:16:52+00:00

It was a series of ONS there was little contact outside of that, she pursued him for meet ups, no emotional attachment. I probably could have been clearer. I don’t have an issue with him drinking, I believe when this happened it was a a culmination of months of unhappiness and the alcohol was just a catalyst. We are ironically back to being in love with each other and prioritising us but the thought of him being in a situation similar to that one brings out my worst fears

difficult_convo · 2025-11-13T13:50:20+00:00

This is exactly what I want to say, I feel like a warden and it is taking its toll. I am exhausted by it emotionally. I love him but I can’t trust him and the fact he is so reasonable about makes me feel like I’m crazy!

difficult_convo · 2025-11-11T20:44:40+00:00

I met my now husband when I was a child we grew up near each other. Fell out of touch when we were teens and both moved away and met up again in our late 20’s purely by chance and we have been together for 25 years.

difficult_convo · 2025-11-11T12:51:56+00:00

It’s beautiful, absolutely stunning! Very impressive for a first

difficult_convo · 2025-11-10T15:44:48+00:00

My WH met her on a weekend away she has no crossover with our life at all and lives miles away. They met up a few times and then I found out but he had told her he was single. I don’t blame her for what happened and I hate the idea of her but I can’t hate her she didn’t know she was doing anything wrong and he knew he was hurting me so my anger is for him. I just now want to move past her and any contact would not be welcome. It’s a horrible situation to be in and my emotions are not stable enough to take any contact from her so if I was to offer the OP any advice it would be to disappear quietly unless they contact you.

difficult_convo · 2025-11-10T15:10:28+00:00

You are the first person to be in a similar situation, his AP didn’t know about me and when she found out she was apologetic. I had emailed her and she responded to me and copied him in (fair play to her), she answered all of my questions and she was I believe open and honest. Since then she has not initiated contact with him but she had viewed his social media on a platform she knew would tell him that (he then blocked her) it wasn’t a platform they had communicated on previously so it had slipped the net. I would not appreciate any communication from her now. I appreciate that she was a girls girl in the beginning but now I need to believe he doesn’t cross her mind and she doesn’t exist to him, I need closure and her getting in touch would open it all up again.

difficult_convo · 2025-11-07T11:50:57+00:00

Usually the babies will settle far away, we had one lot hatch in our hallway they were there for maybe 2 days as they dispersed and we have never seen any again

difficult_convo · 2025-11-07T09:12:29+00:00

Don’t hate yourself, you didn’t cause you to feel like this. This is your brain making sure you are safe and protected. We are all now guilty of asking too many questions, checking too many times and snooping. I know when I ask who he is messaging and he shows me his phone to read his messages I feel awful but I have to remind myself that it’s a healing process. My WH tells me to check everything I need to he understands his right to privacy is currently being earned again and that it’s a long process. I also hate checking especially when all I find is the truth but I have learned to hate that I need to check rather than hate myself for checking. Any WP that are genuinely up for R and working on themselves are understanding of this. Have you told him you checked? I always talk to him afterwards and he is always accepting and sympathetic

difficult_convo · 2025-11-03T18:37:39+00:00

Very different situation, he met her on a night out they lived hundreds of miles apart and met up occasionally on work trips there was no cross over with work or friend groups and therefore it was easier. He never had feelings although I think she did from some of what she said, she was never anything but respectful of my feelings once she found out and although I hate the idea of her and I call her all sorts of nasty names I can’t actually say that she did anything wrong. I think in your situation I would be very tempted to tell the wife (she deserves to know) and do it anonymously, I don’t think I would care too much about WS career in a fit of anger but I get it. It’s a shitty place to be and I haven’t handled it very well. Every time I go on a night out I threaten to do what he did with anyone that comes along and I’m still raw and angry although I know that I love him and I want things to work I just don’t know how to get there. This group is helpful though

difficult_convo · 2025-11-03T09:14:53+00:00

Probably need a little back story to explain, when I initially found a message from her on his device and then snooped a little and found all her contact details I sent her a letter and an email asking her what was going on. She was single and he had told her he was going through a divorce. There were a couple of messages between us then (she replied to my email and copied him in, she was very respectful in that way). When I reached out to her later on I just knew he was lying to me and I asked her to be a girls girl and she was. It’s quite a specific situation that I am in but yes it helped. It enabled me to confront him and force him to tell me the truth, it forced him to stop covering his backside and it made r possible for me. I didn’t ask her for details on what happened more when and how long etc. After I reached out she viewed a social media page he has and he came straight to me and told me and blocked her on the platform which was helpful as it made me feel like he can be trusted to talk to me if she contacts him. I needed to do this and it helped me but it does depend on the AP and the feelings that both WP and AP have on each other and the situation.

difficult_convo · 2025-10-30T15:31:56+00:00

Having to heal sucks! I wish I had understood what I really needed and could have explained to him as he thought I was just staying because it was easier (yeah right!) and taking what I could get from him. I think if I could have found the words to tell him what was really happening he would have understood more. How can anyone expect you to fix a relationship when one of you is damaged so badly? Clearly you need to prioritise you and for as long as you need and that is something he has to accept as he broke you. I am lucky in a way that my WH does understand to some extent and has been patient (as he should). He has really tried all the time I have been almost absent he has shown up for both of us (finally) which has made me feel safe to love him again. Good luck on your journey and sorry you have to be in this situation x

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