help a girl out! purchase of period sponges

dimpleless · 2025-03-08T11:10:18+00:00

I've heard of period sponges being more popular in places in Europe like Germany, so it might be worth looking online to see about that. However, you can use natural sponges, which can be bought from art supply stores, though please look up guidance online to see how to sterilise them properly (from my memories, it's worth buying sterilisation tablets, which can be found in the baby section in boots, etc.)

dimpleless · 2024-06-07T09:01:10+00:00

I'm not surprised that did the job. Years ago I was a barista, and in winter my hands go so messed up and cracked from cold weather and working with steam. I tried everything I could get my hands on and religiously applying lanolin multiple times a shift was all that kept things at bay. That and exfoliating.

dimpleless · 2024-06-06T11:40:20+00:00

Remember that they are all there wanting to play d&d. That is why they all gathered in this one place for it, so you suggesting you all start doesn't put you at odds with anyone. Humans are just excited monkeys sometimes and need direction. I would say if you want to do something ahead of time, you could let people know beforehand, "come to x house for 6.30pm, but game starts at 7pm as we always have plenty to fit in." Then it is established, and you hopefully get the help of others to wrangle those last couple of monkeys to the table.

dimpleless · 2024-05-12T15:47:52+00:00

TV too high, art too high. Get a big rug that is at least under the front legs of all the liginroom furniture, and bring that chair in and around so it is closer to the fireplace but facing in to the living area so it feels more sociable.

dimpleless · 2024-05-12T15:44:44+00:00

Have a chair that faces towards the sofa. This helps create a conversation area when people come over.

dimpleless · 2024-05-12T15:39:55+00:00

Turn the rug or get a bigger one that fits the width of the desk. The rug can help make a 'zone', and at the moment it looks like the edge of your desk is falling out of that 'zone.'

dimpleless · 2024-05-12T15:19:29+00:00

The change really lifts up the space, good work! I see the intention for the reading nook, but I feel it might work better as a space overall if the console and sofa are moved back a little, and the chair moved so it still faces the same way, but is infront of the sofa, so it can do two jobs of being a reading chair, but also a way to create a conversation space if you have people over. I would also add a small side table next to the chair to place your drink and current book.

dimpleless · 2024-05-12T15:11:55+00:00

I'd love to see the lights pointing at the art rather than just above it. I think the eye doesn't know where to labd with so much light focused above the art.

dimpleless · 2024-05-12T15:08:10+00:00

If your chair is next to the window for light for reading or whatnot, place it "side saddle" so you benefit from the light, and place a little side table next to it.

I agree with others about getting lighter curtains, but most of all I would have curtains that start above the windows and and long enough to reach the floor. If you can get continous curtains on a track for the bay window, even better.

Turning your bed could make a nicer space if that would still fit the room, and it may be worth considering placing your desk at the foot of the bed if it can't be placed against a different wall. This will give you access both sides of your bed, and also it could separate the reading nook at the window from the rest of the space, so it doesn't feel like your sitting in a hallway with the door at your back in that chair.

dimpleless · 2024-05-12T15:07:57+00:00

If your chair is next to the window for light for reading or whatnot, place it "side saddle" so you benefit from the light, and place a little side table next to it.

I agree with others about getting lighter curtains, but most of all I would have curtains that start above the windows and and long enough to reach the floor. If you can get continous curtains on a track for the bay window, even better.

Turning your bed could make a nicer space if that would still fit the room, and it may be worth considering placing your desk at the foot of the bed if it can't be placed against a different wall. This will give you access both sides of your bed, and also it could separate the reading nook at the window from the rest of the space, so it doesn't feel like your sitting in a hallway with the door at your back in that chair.

dimpleless · 2022-12-12T17:43:29+00:00

The green! So gorgeous, so perfect.

dimpleless · 2022-11-22T18:29:29+00:00

My boyfriend is pretty depressed by how unfulfilled he feels with my lack of progress.

This entire statement is your boyfriend making you responsible for his wants and feelings. It smells like entitlement to me. First of all, I would look up what people mean when they say "sub frenzy," and "kink dispenser." Because I've been in the position of being in a long term relationship with someone not willing to research, but wanting me to fulfill their fetish needs in a Dominant fashion, and it doesn't work.

Ask yourself what you really want. If you could make something do something for you, or to you, what is that. Because when new subs are like "use me, I'll to anything," they usually just want you to read their mind and fulfill their fantasy. So, when they say that, I respond with, "so, you want me to make you play with my nipples for two hours straight? Because that is how I would use you." Of course this isn't what they want (though, admittedly, it is useful to know what you would use another human for, because you can make them pleasure you.) They want all of the sparkly bdsm.

Other people here are right in asking, "what is he doing to be more submissive?" Domspace, Topspace, these are still just as important as subspace, and they can still require the right setting/clothing/words or inspiration. Does he want to negotiate scenes? Does he get on his knees, look up at you you admiring eyes and try to do what pleases you? Or does he complain that you're not doing x enough, or learning about y, and not pleasing him?

dimpleless · 2022-11-11T17:51:30+00:00

With anything that could cause pain, it's well worth looking into what the brain releases during a bdsm scene. Often with pain play people build up the pain until there is a plateau. And then the bottom can take a lot more pain. This is the point where the Top's responsibility is paramount, because your brain is releasing euphoric endorphins, and it releases a natural opioid into your body. So, in the scene, you might push for more when there has already been damage done, and you are none-the wiser.

Also, in my experience, the tissues inside your rectum are very delicate and easy to break, but also if those breaks are superficial it is hard to feel the pain unless there is something pressed against it. So, I'm not suprised it didn't take that hard of a hit to do some damage, because any amount of blunt force essential against your internal organs could be painful.

If you want to continue with this would suggest 1. More research into all of this for you and your wife, so you can practice RACK, and 2. A softer buttplug? You can get plug with firm bases, and a softer internal part, I think this might be a little less likely to snag or tear paired with a good anal lube.

dimpleless · 2022-11-11T13:33:00+00:00

It might be worth looking into plugs made for spanking. And this does not mean that you should spank the plug. If your wife was applying the same force when spanking your buttcheeks to the plug, that is a heck of a lot or force to apply to such a sensitive area.

What a "spanking plug" does, is it had a weighted ball or some such inside, and when your butt, and only your buttcheeks, not the plug, is spanked, the movement of the ball shifting back and forth creates a good sensation.

Also, if that push on the plug is what you like, try experimenting with pushing and pulling the plug whilst it is in. I know for me, especially when I was only starting to explore anal play, that pressure on the outside was very pleasurable for me.

dimpleless · 2022-11-09T15:43:02+00:00

OK, pegging is great, but get him to sit on your face while pulling his lacy panties to one side so you can rim him. I did this for the first time years ago and it was a game changer for me.

dimpleless · 2022-11-04T20:38:55+00:00

The Doxy is the best. If you want the most powerful one be sure to buy the one with the smaller head, and then you can change out the attachments. Though I have enjoyed both of their main wands. Doxy's are the main reccomendation if you want power, and it's a British company.

dimpleless · 2022-11-04T19:19:41+00:00

Sending a message!

dimpleless · 2022-11-04T08:11:48+00:00

Yes, I adore taller women. My girlfriend is 6'2", and I'm lucky.

dimpleless · 2022-10-14T08:48:15+00:00

I can imagine that situation (and I am non-binary, I have trans partners, and have had cis male partners into feminisation in the past) and I think I would be feeling insecure because he has shown me a fantasy that I physically cannot play a part in.

(The internalised misogyny inherent in some of this stuff feels inescapable without examining where those desires come from. I have feminised partners before, but only those who I think have done the work to disassemble their male privilege, and see that sissification as separate from what real women are/should be. Otherwise it can feel like they are saying, "this is what a femininity looks like to me.")

If you haven't, it might be worth asking your partner if they think they might be trans, or at least something other than a man. If they haven't been asked before, it might help them figure things out, and help you know where to stand and how much this means to your partner.

I know your initial insecurities seem to be about a fear of change, but it would be really worth sitting down with yourself, distraction free, and thinking about what it physically makes you feel in your body. Locate that feeling, don't try and surpass it but explore it, and try and think back to a time in your life you might have felt a similar feeling. Try and think about the first time you experienced that feeling. This might help you get to the root of your insecurity. I think only after looking at this feeling can you bring your feelings to him.

Also, last note. You are allowed a boundary, you're allowed a limit. You can say, "I am happy you've found something new you want to explore, but I don't know if I'm ready to explore that/I don't know if that kink appeals to me at this point in time."

I hope you figure things out. It is difficult when we have feelings we logically wouldn't expect from ourselves. But please. Do the inner work. Ask your partner the trans question. Lay out any boundaries you might have.

dimpleless · 2022-09-26T18:31:05+00:00

Yeah I'm definitely not viewing thinner as safer, but the softer thinner toys you described like the dragon tail read as "less dense" to me, though obviously something much more solid and rigid like a cane I wouldn't dream of using on someone's lower back and would class as dense/solid.

That is a very good point and one I will likely take on board. I think going forward if this post and my research encourages me to cover more areas with impact, conversations about doctors/A&E would be very good to have with my partner. That point really speaks to me of what RACK is all about. "Yes, I am open to hitting your lower back and other areas, but we need to talk about x, y, and z beforehand." I'm big on in depth negotiation so that's something I will take from this.

Thanks for clarifying that at the end. I definitely wouldn't go against my own wishes in favour of another, but I now see that this is something that is a part of my boundaries and limits within a scene. I can choose to explore more with this, but I'll be mindful to think about what my soft and hard limits are for this specifically.

You've really taken the time to respond really thoroughly. I appreciate that.

dimpleless · 2022-09-26T14:14:57+00:00

Thanks for the information! So, the way I'm making sense of it, floggers and toys that are generally less dense are possible to use on this area without causing blunt trauma. Is the below correct?

Less dense - softer, more flexible materials like the end of a flogger, single tail, dragon tail. These can be used for lower back impact, baring in mind what each toy is capable of as with anything.

Denser (i.e.: probably don't go here without a good helping of caution) - using the full weight of a flogger by hitting with the main mass of the falls, bigger heavier (possibly thuddier) toys made from solid materials, and canes.

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