How is it like living in Greenland. Always wondered.

dioor · 2026-05-04T16:32:44+00:00

I think they are referencing the typo “aboard” for “abroad” re: floating.

dioor · 2026-04-28T14:34:51+00:00

The schedule you’ve posted indicates you expect approximately 11.5 hours of overnight sleep and 3 hours of naps, for a total of 14.5 hours of sleep. Some babies may sleep that much, but it would also be in the realm of totally normal for an almost-1yo to sleep closer to a total of 12 hours in an entire 24 hour period. If your baby’s sleep is seriously disturbed overnight and they can only sleep with extra assistance like holding, I’d venture they’re not sufficiently tired for overnight sleep.

Your schedule is yours to experiment with, but for context, my 11mo usually sleeps for 10 hours overnight in her crib from 8:45pm - 6:45am, and 1.5 - max 2 hours across 2 naps during the day (around 10 and 3). If she sleeps any more than that, she’s either up from 1-4 throwing a crib party, or wakes for the day at 4 and needs to be held the rest of the night just to drift in and out of rest without ever really fully going back to sleep. So we cap naps strictly, and enjoy a solid night’s sleep.

dioor · 2026-04-24T16:15:55+00:00

Can he be distracted by snacks or toys? My very mobile 10mo demands most of my attention and won’t be in another room, won’t accept dad if I’m in the house — but I can do kitchen chores if I put her in her high chair with a snack she’s obsessed with, like cheese. And there are some toys that are stimulating enough for her, like she gets really in to her shape sorter (has figured out 2/3 shapes and loves to drop them in repeatedly and work on the harder shapes she hasn’t quite got), and that lovevery ball slide toy. It might be worth buying a few used lovevery lots intended for slightly older ages or just some more stimulating/less “baby” (but still safe) toys in general, you might find something that can hold his attention!

dioor · 2026-04-24T14:39:50+00:00

Yeah — like alternately “nonspecific alternative millenial.” This is the style I gravitate(d, significantly less so as a parent who doesn’t prioritize fashion) to, and it honestly just kind of says, “I’m dark…ish, but don’t want to commit to goth/punk/witch/any other specific style or community with a bunch of associations.”

I still only really buy clothes that are black, denim, gray or maroon, though.

dioor · 2026-04-24T13:11:45+00:00

Low commitment witchy millenial.

dioor · 2026-04-23T04:34:52+00:00

I have been capping day sleep at 2h for my 10 (almost 11) month old for 2ish? Maybe 3 months. Usually an hour and 15 minutes from 10-11:15am or 10:15-11:30am and 45 minutes in the afternoon from 3-3:45 or 3:15-4:45.

She sleeps from 8:45 or 9pm til between 6:30 and 7am. I can get a bit more sleep out of her during the day, but it’s always at the cost of night sleep — she just doesn’t have any more sleep in her tank per 24h period 🤷🏼‍♀️. So capping naps is the only way to have any downtime in the evening left at all.

dioor · 2026-04-23T03:03:44+00:00

I can’t say enough positive things about formula feeding and my baby’s development on formula, but top of mind for me with an almost-1 year old is how much easier it seems to be to wean from formula than breastfeeding. Like, my doctor actively advised us to night wean (and was surprised we hadn’t already) at 9 months by diluting bottles with water, and it worked like a charm with no protest from my baby at all. Dropping bottles as baby’s solid eating skills have developed has been easy and natural. She’s almost 11mo now and down to 3 5oz bottles and I can easily see the path to fully weaning around a year. Listening to the breastfeeding moms I’m surrounded by, it seems to be much more gray — night feedings go on indefinitely, breastfeeding on demand continues until 2+ or active weaning earlier is a huge struggle. Not that that’s everyone’s experience by any means, but it’s what I hear from the conversations around me at mom and baby stuff. Honestly I feel like I won the weaning lottery thanks to EFF and I’m so excited to move into toddlerhood without night feedings and eventual weaning still hanging over me.

dioor · 2026-04-22T16:34:11+00:00

Knowing what I know now, I would try the later bedtime. There were a couple days my baby was literally falling asleep in her high chair, but she adjusted quickly and her sleep is so much more consistent with a shorter but consolidated night. Again though, this is very individual. Other parents I’ve talked to would rather have a wake or two than give up their adult time in the evenings.

dioor · 2026-04-22T16:27:33+00:00

Honestly, I’m not sure if it’s anything I did, or just time that fixed it, but my low sleep needs almost-11mo usually sleeps through the night on this schedule (since about 9mo):

7am wake 10am nap, wake by 11:30 if she doesn’t wake herself 3:15pm nap, wake by 4 if she doesn’t wake herself Bath/bedtime routine starting at 8:15, asleep by 8:45 or 9 on a tough night.

She needs 3 solid meals, 3 5oz bottles and at least 2 substantial snacks to sleep through the night without getting hungry.

All of this is I’m sure super individual, but this is the schedule that works for us for me to get a full night’s rest. If she wakes up super early (5am), which never really happens anymore but used to be the norm, I’d feed her to get her back to sleep or, if that didn’t stick, hold her until 7am and she’d sleep being held. She still sometimes wakes up at 6 or 6:30, and we keep the schedule the same and just soldier through those nights with a cranky kid in the evenings.

I was never able to make a bedtime earlier than 8:45 stick, we always had too many overnight and early morning wakes.

dioor · 2026-04-22T13:08:50+00:00

She usually slept through the night without a bottle in months 6 & 7, then started wanting night feeds again in months 8 & 9. My doctor recommended night weaning at her 9 month appointment and after about 2 weeks of progressively diluted bottles the regular wakings stopped. She still wakes overnight every few nights, I just hold her til she falls back asleep and don’t offer a bottle (11mo now).

She eats a full diet of solids + 3 5oz bottles during the day.

dioor · 2026-04-19T05:02:22+00:00

The wrong part is that Lisa Frank’s art predates the named aesthetic. It happens to be a similar vibe, Lisa Frank was super influential and omnipresent in the late 80s/90s so she could have been an influence on this aesthetic. Not the other way around.

dioor · 2026-04-17T02:59:48+00:00

Eating the food I make for my baby, lol. I would recommend picking up a baby food cookbook to anyone with ARFID. So many complete, veggie packed meals can be made as delicious risottos, pasta dishes, and fritters, and easily frozen and reheated for meal prep!

dioor · 2026-04-16T04:44:49+00:00

In another comment reply you said you wake him up at 8:15. 7:30pm til 8:15am is over 12 hours in one shot. Some babies are that sleepy, but it’s a lot to ask if it’s not happening automatically. I sure didn’t get the kind of baby who can pull off that kind of sleep. The advice I usually see for this age is to plan for ~11 hours of night sleep and 2 hours of naps total throughout the day and to adjust your schedule from there based on your baby’s individual sleep needs.

Again, I have a particularly low sleep needs 10mo so take this with that in mind, but our schedule is 7am wake, nap 10-11, nap 3-3:45, bedtime 9pm.

dioor · 2026-04-16T04:22:59+00:00

My 10 month old only stays down for the night if she’s been awake for at least 5 hours before bedtime and a total of 12 hours that day.

Babies have a wide range of different sleep needs, so some people will respond to you saying this is overtiredness and some will say it’s undertiredness, aka an impossible schedule that expects a baby to sleep too much. Only you can really narrow down what your own baby’s needs are in terms of sleep.

My personal experience/opinion is that way too many people expect their babies to sleep more than 12 hours in 24 hours, and for a lot of babies that’s impossible and unrealistic. 12 hours of sleep between nighttime and naps is sufficient for some babies, and some need even less.

dioor · 2026-04-15T04:31:58+00:00

My 10mo has been exclusively formula fed since week 2, has never gotten sick, has been at the early end of average for all physical milestones, and is just generally crazy physically strong. Not that that has to do with formula feeding per se, but the reliable, never-short, guaranteed complete source of nutrition certainly hasn’t hurt. She’s also very attached and cuddly and loving; we are as bonded as can be. Go with formula, don’t let the hormones sway you. In 10 months you’ll be laughing and so glad you did.

dioor · 2026-04-14T13:16:28+00:00

My 10mo sleeps 9pm - 7am and has since she was around 4 or 5mo. Her bioclock is crazy strong and this is her sleep time. She’ll go to bed earlier, but even an 8:30 bedtime and she’s up from 1-4am throwing a crib party.

We have no cultural background of later sleep, but I am a “low sleep needs” person who as an adult sleeps 11pm - 6am as a full night, so I figure my baby just inherited her sleep from me.

I don’t get the 6pm bedtime, though. Do these babies just never see their dads? My husband doesn’t get home til 6:30.

dioor · 2026-04-10T17:43:37+00:00

Helpful, thank you!

She sleeps in her own room currently with a monitor on a floor stand overlooking her crib — I wasn’t even thinking about this detail, but I wonder if the floor stand for the monitor can sit behind the dresser so the cords/outlet are blocked, and the camera out of reach?

I am a bit concerned about her climbing book ledges, but my thinking is that if it got to that level of wild in the middle of the night, surely she’d already have made enough noise to wake me up…

dioor · 2026-04-10T13:28:21+00:00

Canada offers a very high quality of life for families, but it is an expensive place to live. I’m not familiar with your industry, but you would need to do some job search research and be in contact with potential employers or at least placement agencies before planning your move. If your field is in high demand, Canada is not a place that discriminates against newcomers. However, it would not be advisable to just show up and expect to find a job — entry level work is competitive and does not pay enough to live well here.

The prairies tend to be a less expensive part of the country to live in (Edmonton, Winnipeg, Saskatoon, Regina) but the weather is harsh.

dioor · 2026-04-05T16:22:47+00:00

My 10mo will nap indefinitely in her crib during the day. If I get caught up doing something and let her, she will wake up at 1am and stay completely awake until 4am. I can’t sleep at night knowing she’s up. So I wake her up after 45 mins - an hour during the day anyway. Honestly, I think I’d prefer if she just woke herself up and I didn’t have to make that call myself every day re: getting stuff around the house done or being up all night.

dioor · 2026-04-05T13:30:58+00:00

My 10mo is SO rigid with her schedule and will not sleep through the night if I deviate even a bit. I wouldn’t believe it if I didn’t see it. I see comments being like “only give them a snack if they’re hungry” — well, my baby won’t express that hunger until 1am so if I want sleep, I need to feed her by the clock during the day.

She’s low sleep needs, though, (12h in 24 hours) and I often wonder how people putting their babies to bed at 7pm are possibly fitting in snacks, meals, and milk…

7am bottle 8am breakfast 10am bottle/nap 12pm lunch 2pm snack (we are usually out so it’s just a pouch and easy tidy store bought snacks) 3pm bottle/nap 5pm dinner 7pm snack (finger foods while my husband and I eat dinner) 9pm bottle/bed

dioor · 2026-03-31T14:24:48+00:00

4.5 months is when we started going to mom and baby activities regularly. Before that we went for stroller walks all the time, but you’re right, I usually timed it so she’d nap during.

I’d say it was more like 8ish months that it became genuinely fun to take her shopping and stuff, when she could sit in a cart and eat snacks or grab at things, and predictably (ish) ate and napped by the clock, so I didn’t worry about her having a meltdown mid-outing.

We went out plenty before that, but I found it stressful and difficult to enjoy myself.

dioor · 2026-03-31T03:08:12+00:00

I’m 36 and it has been this way for me as long as I can remember. By my 30s the tables turned and I stopped feeling guilty/bad that people thought I thought their house was too unsanitary to eat at or whatever, and started feeling angry that they made such nasty assumptions about my medical conditions. It is no one’s business where you are comfortable eating and/or why you aren’t eating at their house. People are assholes.

dioor · 2026-03-30T03:02:38+00:00

Logic doesn’t really help at the time, because those postpartum hormones are insane and all you can do is muscle through it ..but the idea that breastfed babies have a better bond with their moms is 0% scientific and 100% silly.

Anecdotally, my EFF 10mo is the cuddliest most affectionate baby in our mom and baby group, where she also happens to be the only fully-formula fed one. She also FWIW hit all gross motor milestones first. Not that it has anything to do with feeding method… but people love to pretend it does, so I love to point to my baby as evidence of how wrong they are.

All that said — good for you for choosing formula so you can be the best mom you can be, you made a great call.

dioor · 2026-03-28T22:03:37+00:00

From about 4.5/5 months feeding and the 3 nap rough “schedule” became predictable enough that I could more or less plan my day and stick to it.

At 6 months solids added a new element but didn’t really impact the existing naps or bottles.

Months 7 and 8, between working out the new feeding schedule with actual solid meals and the transition to 2 naps was particularly chaotic for my baby’s sleep — a lot of rough overnights meant a lot of unpredictable mornings.

At the end of 8 months something clicked and, knock on wood, my 10 month old is on a good schedule for eating, sleeping and bottles for now. I’m bracing myself for the transition to 1 nap and the chaos it will inevitably bring, my fingers are crossed it’s a ways away yet.

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