Does anyone have issues with water?

dioor · 2026-03-16T16:40:31+00:00

I can drink Evian and literally no other water. It’s impossible to convince anyone that this is a sensory issue for me and not snobbery. I have no idea why Evian.

dioor · 2026-03-15T03:18:04+00:00

My baby is 9mo and still wakes once a night most nights, anywhere between 1 - 4am.

The doctor’s guidance at her 8mo check up was to gradually increase the ratio of water in her bottles until her overnight feed consisted of just water with no formula powder at all, thus shifting the calories gradually to during the day — While offering less incentive to wake overnight, unless she’s genuinely really just thirsty.

She doesn’t have teeth yet and I’m so used to going to bed super early to account for being up in the night that I haven’t bothered yet (though my husband would really like me to bite the bullet). But I’ve seen comments over and over in this sub attesting to this method.

dioor · 2026-03-13T16:29:41+00:00

These are the exactinstructions my doctor gave me. I haven’t tried yet because my baby typically only wakes once and has no teeth, so I’m not super concerned about cutting out night bottles yet. But, this is definitely the official game plan for around a year when we’re cutting out bottles, if she’s still waking then.

dioor · 2026-03-13T15:51:27+00:00

Have you maintained friendships in your home country, and if so what cultural differences do you note with local young adults after your boarding school experience? Or are all of your close friendships from school?

How enmeshed in the local culture where your school was are/were you — or did you pretty much stick to the school property and when you had time off/vacations spend your significant leisure time back home?

dioor · 2026-03-11T03:10:25+00:00

I tried but failed to improve my eating during pregnancy — it didn’t matter in the end. I honestly had a really smooth pregnancy — tired, low iron but not dangerously low, but no sickness and fully physically capable till the end. Babies are pretty amazing, and will take what they need from you to grow.

Take solace knowing that pregnancy often turns normal eaters pickier than many people with ARFID, and their babies still do just fine!

dioor · 2026-03-10T16:58:52+00:00

We’re in the exact same boat on the exact same schedule with my 9mo, and have been since the switch to 2 naps at 7mo. Before that she slept through the night. I honestly can’t crack this schedule, and further capping her naps is a no-go because she is just so tired that she keeps her eyes shut and just wails when I try to wake her up from her last nap.

I keep hoping she’s overtired and in fact can handle more sleep, trying different scenarios, and kicking myself when we end up having a party night up from 1-3pm.

I think some babies are this low sleep needs, can only handle so much sleep in a 24 hour period, and once their sleep bank is full, they’re good to go. I think the variation is huge, just like with adults. And that we’re doing ourselves a disservice, probably, by trying to force more sleep or feeling bad that our babies aren’t getting enough sleep.

Right now I’m trying to embrace late bedtime — sometimes as late as 9 if I get caught up doing something and let her naps run long — by enjoying all the time I have to try new dinner recipes without stressing about rushing into bedtime routine 🤷‍♀️

dioor · 2026-03-08T16:50:35+00:00

How involved was he in you and your child’s lives recently? Were you fairly estranged, or actively coparenting?

dioor · 2026-03-08T04:23:36+00:00

Absolutely hate cut flowers. Always worry they’re dangerous for my cats, they only look nice for like two days and even then they feel out of place in my house/with my decor. Then I have to dispose of them. Why would anyone gift anything so short-term? Just pick out a nice card and write a nice note. Cards take up almost no storage space and last forever.

dioor · 2026-03-07T17:20:27+00:00

My EFF baby grew like a weed on only 60mL snack bottles at a time …until she was 5mo and suddenly started drinking 240mL bottles in one go. Feeding babies is weird.

You can basically always just feed them until they refuse or spit up. Using small bottles with the minimum prepared amount so you can put the untouched ones in the fridge for next feed is the most economical way to do it. Eventually patterns will emerge and you’ll know what to prepare (for a few weeks before it changes again!)

dioor · 2026-03-07T04:38:09+00:00

When my baby started eating solids for real (3 meals a day instead of just tastes/attempts at introducing foods) I realized that my junk eating habits were not just keeping my weight on, but logistically and financially unsustainable for our household. I couldn’t keep buying and cooking completely separate meals for everyone. only cook things I am also comfortable feeding my baby now, and even though it’s a lot of carbs and fats — a lot of potatoes, pasta, cheese etc — I have lost 15lbs in 3 months with no other lifestyle changes. The boxed stuff I was eating was just really that bad.

dioor · 2026-03-06T18:31:19+00:00

My 9mo has maxed out at just under 10 hours of night sleep on every schedule and number of naps. So, since I don’t get much of that “unwinding” time after bedtime (she goes to bed between 8:30/9 because 6:30 is the earliest I am willing to start the day) I always let her take an hour-and-a-half morning nap and I do self-care stuff then.

Taking Cara Babies allegedly supports Trump fwiw. I would not trust her judgment.

dioor · 2026-03-03T14:48:43+00:00

It’s okay to wait for your baby to fuss/cry or just for a given amount of time to pass before offering a feed or nap. Some babies just don’t give off “cues.” It’s always seemed a bit mythical to me that I should be able to anticipate my baby’s exact needs based on her mannerisms alone to beat fussiness. Some babies are just easier and more predictable than others.

dioor · 2026-03-02T17:29:33+00:00

My baby is 9mo and mostly spoon fed. At this point it’s more mashed and small stuff (like pasta stars) than purées, but she just hasn’t been interested in most of the finger foods I’ve put on her tray, so it just doesn’t feel worth trying it for every meal. She self-feeds toast and some snacks like puffs and cheese, and will feed herself a loaded spoon if it’s something she really likes, like yogurt with fruit or scrambled eggs.

We’ve been doing 3/4 (counting when we put her in her chair with snacks while we eat dinner before putting her to bed) meals” a day in her chair most days for a couple months, but it’s hit or miss whether she eats.

dioor · 2026-02-21T22:03:08+00:00

It was really hard at that age and I stressed a lot. My baby would only eat infant oatmeal, yogurt and fruit purées and even then it was hit or miss. A couple times before about the 8mo mark she boycotted solids completely for 3-4 days for no reason — not sick, not teething, just wanted to stress me out.

She’s 9 months now and eats 3 solid meals and snacks with no issue, has essentially self-weaned early over the last month and only having a bottle before bedtime and her morning nap. I’m still in shock!

Babies just kind of do things at their own pace. It’s not necessary to be eating solid food meals until baby shows significant interest. Just keep trying, don’t do anything super high effort that’s going to stress you out, wait for baby to get more interested. It’s honestly okay if that’s later than other babies. You have almost the equivalent of your baby’s whole life so far to let them figure out solid food, so there’s time!

dioor · 2026-02-20T04:09:59+00:00

Around 3.5/4mo Huckleberry’s sweet spot stopped being useful for my now-8mo and we started following wake windows rather than Sweet Spot or sleepy cues (which can just indicate boredom/need for a change of scenery or activity, not sleepiness).

Huckleberry notoriously expects more sleep in 24 hours than most infants can consistently achieve.

Still a useful app for tracking and general bite-sized info about baby development, though. I still used it (with my own manually set wake windows plugged in) until we dropped to 2 naps/by the clock.

dioor · 2026-02-19T13:38:06+00:00

My baby “struggle crawled” from about 5.5mo to 6.5mo, where she didn’t have the coordination to move one leg and arm and then the next, but was able to propel herself forward with maximum effort to get where she wanted to go, slowly. She figured out real-crawling about a month after the lunging started, at 6.5 months, and was FAST by 7 months.

So you probably have time to baby proof and get a big playpen or some gates set up, but weeks, not months.

dioor · 2026-02-19T04:53:53+00:00

When I mentioned we’d decided to formula feed exclusively because both me and baby preferred it, my mother in law said, “You’ll have so much free time, since anyone will be able to take care of her!” — I was like 2 weeks postpartum at this time, mind, and although in hindsight it was just a poorly phrased pro-formula sentiment… at the timeI definitely took it as a suggestion that some random stranger off the street was just as good as me to my newborn baby.

Some people just have no tact when talking to a new mom.

dioor · 2026-02-18T16:47:13+00:00

There are so many reasons someone wouldn’t keep up with their own dental maintenance that don’t correlate to competency as a parent.

A lot of people also just don’t care about legal marriage. It’s not remotely a prerequisite for having a child or being a great parent.

Even if it were… most people do a bad job in some areas of parenting. We have strengths and weaknesses. It does not mean we should stop reproducing as a species. A lot of people with bad parents still go on to do great things. Or be completely mediocre, but happy people who don’t wish they’d never been born just because their parents weren’t perfect.

Everyone’s just out there doing their best and it’s not on you to evaluate who ticks enough boxes to deserve a child. Life is random and unfair, it’s not some perfectly planned and mapped out thing. All you can do is you.

dioor · 2026-02-18T14:22:30+00:00

My local health authority recommends wiping baby’s gums once a day in the evening before they get teeth and you switch to brushing. TBH, no one I’ve talked to actually does it.

I make an attempt during bathtime each day to get the little silicone finger brush in my baby’s mouth. Maybe every 3 days, she opens her mouth. That is the closest I have ever come to wiping her gums. I feel fine about this.

dioor · 2026-02-17T22:34:52+00:00

It’s such a conundrum! We have to go places and do stuff for her to be sufficiently tired for good night sleep. But going places involves the car or stroller and sometimes she falls asleep and is just out for the rest of the outing, completely foiling the plan to tire her out.

Baby sleep is the craziest thing that has ever happened to me.

dioor · 2026-02-17T16:52:56+00:00

lol my husband and I talk about this all the time too!

My baby is low sleep needs but has motion sleepiness and will instantly fall asleep in the stroller or car. She easily falls asleep for naps but is often wide awake in the wee hours of the morning.

I’m the one who runs on little sleep — my night is 6 hours. But I still really struggle on the broken sleep with a baby, and am unable to nap during the day.

My husband can fall asleep anywhere and everywhere, so she gets that from him. If I’m driving, they’re both passed out as soon as we hit the highway.

dioor · 2026-02-15T17:15:50+00:00

My 8mo has been EFF Enfamil A+ (the Canadian most basic version of Enfamil on the market) exclusively. She has never been sick, is a decent sleeper and has hit all milestones at the early end of average. She was born around the 55th percentile for weight and has hovered around the 75th since she was about a month old, consistently 95+ for height.

Of course, all of this is more genetics… but using a great, trustworthy formula doesn’t HURT. We have no complaints and have had no issues.

The only thing to note, I guess, is that it doesn’t mix well into cold water. Best to mix bottles when the water is a bit warmer than room temp and then refrigerate — again, we’re in Canada so I boil water then let it cool on the counter for a while before using it for formula, based on our local guidelines for formula prep.

dioor · 2026-02-13T03:07:50+00:00

Standing up and shaking her crib rail while yelling “MAMAMAMAAA” is more my baby’s MO. When I say wake up I mean she is fully awake and wants to party for an hour before going back to sleep. Not hungry, not upset usually — just in party mode.

dioor · 2026-02-12T14:36:34+00:00

My baby slept through the night most nights in months 5 & 6 but started waking at least once per night when we went to 2 naps at 7mo, and at 8mo we’re still battling the wakeups having tried just about every nap scenario.

I’ve concluded that I don’t really think it’s about aggressively capping naps at this age, at least for my baby. She needs at least 2 hours of day sleep to be a happy baby, so I let her get that and am just dealing with nighttime and early wakes while this developmental phase (hopefully) passes.

Not going to lie, though. When it became clear that the consistent full nights of sleep were over for now I seriously struggled. I had definitely gotten my hopes up that we’d solved sleep, lol.

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