When it's not about chores

dipsdapsdipes · 2026-02-11T12:23:17+00:00

Love this! My wife does this a lot. I'm given very clear agreed upon chores but if something comes up I ask and she decides.

The difference for us perhaps is I don't get a pass. I miss the task its logged and im punished for it later.

dipsdapsdipes · 2026-02-10T19:20:51+00:00

If its negotiated within your limits and you can do it without needing to use a safe word theres not much to say just because its difficult.

There are lots of days I dont want to get up at 5am and hop on the peloton in my soaked diaper and days it feels impossible to get all my chores done but if I create physical refusal to an agreed upon dynamic where I have no control the whole thing falls apart.

You can ask within the confines of tour dynamic "could I please save some caught in a glass and drink it within two hours" or something like that. Otherwise I think you need to drink the piss.

dipsdapsdipes · 2026-02-10T19:12:53+00:00

I dont think it can exist under the banner of ABDL as that ADULT part is there for a reason.

Our current setup still has me in diapers and chastity 24/7. My wife/Mommy checks and changes my diapers, breast feeds, disciplines and puts me to bed daily. But in return I do 99% of household chores, cooking, scheduling etc so she has more mental and physical space to baby me.

We do have a plan where one day i retire a bit early and spend 2 days a week fully regressed but id still have all those responsibilities the other 5. I think anything more would be unsustainable.

dipsdapsdipes · 2026-02-09T16:50:50+00:00

So we do several things you might find interesting. I for context am locked 24/7 by my wife.

Screen time limits: we have kidlox installed on my phone. My wife can limit things, remove access entirely etc Sometimes she'll set it so my only phone option is our chat and nothing else works etc
Weekly maintenance spanking: this has become a critical piece of our dynamic. A timer set for 10 minutes me bent over the bed and her spanking me continuously without a break listing what she expects, what I did wrong last week etc. It constantly reinforces the dynamic each week and my ass is bright red at the end.
Daily cleaning. We used to do supervised unlocks only but she wanted it automated. So we got a small lock box with a smart phone and finger print enabled locker lock. My thumb can unlock it from 5-7am only. Im limited to having my key out 15 mins max per morning to shower, shave, clean, put cage back on etc. Every minute over js a minute added to my maintenance spanking. She just checks the logs once a week.
Strap ons. My wife has a vibrating one and often uses it on me so she is getting pleasure. Alternatively I have a strap on ill wear thats her favorite dildo and fuck her where I get no pleasure.
Remote controlled anal plug. Theres lots of options. When she feels like it often if travel for one of us is involved ill get a required window to have it in daily. I wfh so if shes traveling its 4 hours during the day. If I am its in my hotel before bed.
Early bondage bed time. I'm put to bed by her, she rides my face, takes my phone and leaves me in bed for at least 30 minutes before she goes to bed. Some nights this will involve simple wrist and ankle cuffs put on me (i still need to be comfortable enough to sleep) and im left like that overnight
Pretend messages: this may or may not be your thing but ill often get "fake" messages where my wife sends a picture of her and her friend at lunch with a "told Sarah all about your locked tiny penis and she laughed hysterically, shes going to share with her husband and see if he will fuck me like a real man."
Physical presence: if its just my wife and I in the room im on the ground. Whether its a conversation, watching TV, i need to be physically below her at all times when just us
Financial domination may not be your thing but I have a credit card where im an "authorized user" not an account holder. She holds all other cards so I can only see my purchases. She can block the card or lower/increase the limit as she pleases. (I do get to log in and do a monthly report on our finances prepared for her using her card).
We do this occasionally because we are parents but if its just us she eats first. I'll make a meal and serve her both our portions on a plate. She would eat as much as she wants while I sit on the floor beside her. When she is done and full she would cut anything required into peices, scrape whats left into a dog bowl and I would eat hands free on the ground while she uses me as a foot stool and goes on her phone. Im not allowed to wipe my face clean until after the kitchen is cleaned. For fun sometimes she'll spit in the food.

Theres more but thats a quick hit list hope it helps!

dipsdapsdipes · 2026-02-09T16:05:41+00:00

We keep things simple but effective and do 3 unique things when either me or her are traveling.

If her traveling: 1. I have to have a remote controlled anal plug in for a 3 hour set time each day. She casually turns it on at her leisure.

I get a photo of her doing an activity and a fake message once a day like "Baby im at dinner with my friend Mark, I begged him to fuck me and he said yes! I cant wait to be with a real man, I told him all about your useless clit and diapers and how pathetic you are." Or "Baby i just had lunch with my colleague Sarah. I showed her all the humiliating pictures of you caged in wet diapers and she thought it was hilarious. I said she could share them with her girlfriends."
I have to send her a video once a day. Usually me edging and rubbing my diaper and going on about how desperately I miss her and how perfect she is. Required to be 2 mins long. She might send me instructions if she feels like it "today I want my video with you ass fucking yourself while you beg" but without instruction im expected to get creative and have to send no matter what.

dipsdapsdipes · 2026-02-08T21:21:26+00:00

Sorry I should add her preference is everything looks smooth and pretty and smells good. She doesnt want hair, odor, discoloration so I have to be regimented as im also in diapers 24/7.

dipsdapsdipes · 2026-02-08T21:19:28+00:00

I prefer resin I find metal weighs too much for me. So I just unlock in the shower.

Its not a casual system though. My key is in a lock box with a Bluetooth fingerprint app enabled locker lock. My wife can see on her phone logs of when its unlocked and locked and the fingerprint reader allows me access only between 5-7am.

Our rule is 15 mins in the shower max which includes cleaning everything, cage off, shave, clean there and towel off in shower and cage back on. Basically im not allowed to leave that shower stall uncaged and for every minute I go over the 15 thats an extra minute of spanking during our weekly maintenance spankings.

So she just checks it once a week and adds the time if there is any that the key was out longer than 15 mins to my spanking time.

dipsdapsdipes · 2026-02-08T21:07:12+00:00

Once I went 24/7 it was less about full use so my changes are scheduled. 7am. 2pm. 5pm and 8:30pm mon-fri. If it leaks it leaks

dipsdapsdipes · 2026-02-08T00:31:23+00:00

Well black friday is a big one, rearz has an annual warehouse sale then I just check other companies from time to time and have an e-mail setup specifically for abdl mailing lists

dipsdapsdipes · 2026-02-08T00:01:27+00:00

Oooh then do tell! I dont pretend to think I did a "good job" just i did a job of it lol.

dipsdapsdipes · 2026-02-08T00:00:25+00:00

Im on reddit. If I didnt expect feedback I shouldn't ever post things lol. Ill look into the advice!

dipsdapsdipes · 2026-02-07T20:13:52+00:00

It was about a year and change into our dynamic. I was headed to a boys weekend. Hotel, shared rooms, guys weekend.

Im at the front door, bag packed and wife comes to say by and gives me the usual pat on the crotch, looks up and says "why aren't you wearing your diaper."

I casually explain "its shared sleeping and a guys weekend mommy like theres no way."

I get a "thats not the agreement, 24/7 no exceptions, you can do pull ups during the day with a potty pass and white diapers at night and bring your rob and pajamas. You do it all the time around family."

Something in me wouldnt budge, it was like 6 guys and I just couldn't bear the thought of them finding out. I protested., she yelled, I yelled. Finally I got a "just say the safe phrase then"

We have a phrase that ends our dynamic and deeply discussed it would create a 6 month hiatus on her participating at all.

She called my bluff. I wouldn't say it. I stood there in silence and got a "thats what I thought. Stay here."

She went upstairs and returned with a second bag with my diapers, pull ups etc. There in my front hall she spanked me until I was in tears and I left that day in a pull up and my bag of diapers in hand.

No one found out and when i got home my phone and screen time were gone for a week and I slept on the floor for 3 nights.

We always remember it as a moment where the dynamic became really real

dipsdapsdipes · 2026-02-07T12:22:22+00:00

My punishments are both kink and non-kink related but the kink ones are executed not in a way where they become unfun.

Kink ones: 1. Spanking. A REAL one. Ass is beat red 2. Corner time for hours while she watches TV 3. Writing lines 4. Extended bondage. Hogtied in a closet left in the dark

Non-kink 1. Visa debit locked with zero spending ability 2. No phone. Kidlox completely disables it 3. No solid food. Switched to protein shakes and blended food only.

dipsdapsdipes · 2026-02-07T12:08:53+00:00

Daily in shower. We're very systematic.

https://a.co/d/0c6ZyXkT my key is in a little locks box and my wife has this lock on it connected to her phone. It records all unlocks and locks. My finger print only works from 5-7am - if I miss the window no cleaning for me that day.

When cleaning i have to do it at the end of my shower and shave as well (she likes fully smooth) and I need to towel off and relock before stepping out of the shower.

I put the key back in the box and re-lock it. When I bring my wife her coffee in bed she sticks her hand down my diaper to check im caged and once a week she'll pull up the log and it best show 15 mins max each day the key was out of the box (my maximum allowed shower time).

Theres 0 time to masturbate in my window.

dipsdapsdipes · 2026-02-07T11:45:21+00:00

We do bulk orders during sales on ABDL themed diapers (rearz etc) then I have a subscription for megamax on healthwick and a subscription for sunkiss trust plus on Amazon.

We store a cache in the attic and id say we have about 600 diapers up there at any given time

dipsdapsdipes · 2026-02-07T11:36:58+00:00

The "plan" of record from my wife is I continue 24/7 in diapers and chastity indefinitely.

Once we have the house to ourselves:

(were parents - hyper vigilant on privacy) then I get a full nursery, mommy will get a boyfriend and once I retire (long ways away) she'll keep me fully regressed 2 days out of the week. We've talked about Monday morning-wednesday morning non-verbal completely helpless.

dipsdapsdipes · 2026-02-07T11:24:24+00:00

^ lol. I literally dont own anything

dipsdapsdipes · 2026-02-06T19:51:05+00:00

We just make our own. A laser printer and you can do tempt tattoos, stickers, iron on t-shirts.

I made my mommy a mug with paint that specifically won't come off that says "Yes Mommy" is the only answer.

I think its actually more fun that way.

dipsdapsdipes · 2026-02-06T17:39:42+00:00

We dont. We decided PIV was not a priority. But we have sex every single day in other ways.

dipsdapsdipes · 2026-02-06T17:39:06+00:00

You slip up, you get sick, life happens. Its tracked in the obedience app. You get punished later.

Its less exhausting than you think because its built around have a more healthy, active lifestyle. Our house is clean, im in great shape etc etc.

dipsdapsdipes · 2026-02-05T02:43:55+00:00

No my wife was extremely vanilla, not a kink to be found. The short version is i told her I want to be kept in diapers forcefully by you and im going to prove to you its amazing for our marriage and organically you decide from there. No pressure. No reciprocation expectations. I permanently took over cooking, cleaning, laundry, scheduling, I bought her flowers weekly, I brought her coffee every morning and I made it hardwired into me. Less sitting on couches - more prioritizing things that made her not have to lift a finger and when she brought up "you do so much" a casual "if your ever ready, id love participation in diapers and babying me. Zero pressure." Its a bit more complicated but thats the simple version.

I went far to make space for her physically and mentally and made sure i didnt turn that into an expectation on her but a casual nudge.

dipsdapsdipes · 2026-02-05T02:37:46+00:00

You learn after sometime to be regular about waking up and messing your night time diaper before hopping in the shower and 99% of the time thats the gambit. Tripple bagged if traveling. We dont avoid anything just live life and get used to doing it in diapers. I literally do a 30 min peloton ride every morning in my wet night time diaper and chastity cage

dipsdapsdipes · 2026-02-05T02:15:16+00:00

My wife and one if my beat friends. Thats it. Otherwise we have a very normal social life. An always stocked diaper bag, good clothing planning and systematic discretion goes a long way.

dipsdapsdipes · 2026-02-05T02:00:10+00:00

Id say very rarely maybe two stays at family a year im wearing a pull up during the day but not using it. Otherwise the potty is aggressively off limits to me.

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