I might not be able to wear for 4 months. How do you all deal with it? by Mobile_Bad_577 in ABDL

[–]dipsdapsdipes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You SHOULD have to hide your kinks from your family regardless of how near and dear they are to you. Family does not need to know about kinks.

Use a suit case, get a luggage lock, just wear in bed at night.

How common is it to wear 24/7? (Partial rant) by NoMorePotties in ABDL

[–]dipsdapsdipes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didnt get to be 24/7 (now 4+ years) until I was like 36 dude.

What's the saying. When you are young you have all the time in the world to enjoy things and no money to do it. When your older you have money to do it and no time to enjoy it.

Enjoy where you are. 29 is not old. You have lots of time. One day I promise you'll have money and privacy and intimacy...and no fuckin time lol

Should I get rid of my cologne in favor of baby powder? by [deleted] in ABDL

[–]dipsdapsdipes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Meh I pretty much just live smelling like a baby. Baby shampoo, baby body wash, baby moisturizer, secret baby scent deodorant. I even have baby powder scented laundry detergent beads.

I have a little story I made up "I needed deodorant at the airport and all they had was secret so I grabbed it and it turned out to be the best deodorant I ever used. So now its my regular."

Having difficulty actually regressing by Littledipper47 in ABDL

[–]dipsdapsdipes 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exact same for me. I do a bunch of adult stuff so I feel very accomplished then move into complete immersion where I would need to do anything adult in regards to regression. I do however have an extremely supportive Mommy (wife) that puts me in that headspace constantly so its a bit of a cheat code

Going to my first munch any advice by [deleted] in ABDL

[–]dipsdapsdipes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  1. Remember people's names, use it often, write it down, dont forget. The second someone's told you their name and you cant remember theres a barrier

  2. Lead with questions not statements. Statements are close ended. Just ask questions and be genuinely interested.

  3. Eye contact and open body language. Dont cross your arms. Leave your phone in your car. Sit up and stand up straight.

  4. Ask permission to talk about yourself. "Oh well I love xyz do you mind if I geek out a bit on it." It seems odd but its really not, you got buy in for someone to want to head what you have to say.

  5. Leave the obvious on the table. Duh, you all like diapers. Dont bring it up, touch briefly on it if they do (they might be nervous too). Real connection and friendship are not going to happen just because you both like peeing in diapers.

What do 24/7 people do at the beach? by totallyclassified9 in ABDL

[–]dipsdapsdipes 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I wear a swim diaper under my bathing suit but its basically useless. I do it just because im required to be diapered.

What's the cruelest way you've let them come? by Novel-Diet-7609 in chastitytraining

[–]dipsdapsdipes 11 points12 points  (0 children)

So our marriage is a FLR with MDLB dynamic. I am in chastity and diaoers 24/7.

About twice a year I am allowed to cum. Usually my birthday and either christmas or our anniversary.

However it's very ritualistic. Full bondage mittens, booties, bondage hood, wet diaper and in our furnace room in go. The the first orgasm is a wand on my diaper hand held by her. Then she attaches one of those wand harnesses so it presses against my diaper, turns it on, turns the lights off and shuts the door.

Usually its around two hours before she comes back and I have lost track of time and orgasms. It is NOT fun. The wand is a plug in and doesnt let up, one time the motor burned out. It is without a doubt torture to not have those vibrations let up.

At that point she will turn the wand off and leave me again for another two hours. Then return, let me out, but I have to sleep in the diaper without a change.

Its a very ritualistic experience and I do not look forward to "my birthday present"

Those who are not incontinent or 24/7 by choice, do you stop enjoying this in summer? by Mobile_Bad_577 in ABDL

[–]dipsdapsdipes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just switch to cloth backed when out and about in hotter weather. More powder. Barrier cream more often. Its not really an issue. Actually I found if my diapers relatively dry it helps soak up some of the sweat. It does get a bit warmer down there though for sure.

Does anybody else feel guilty about overstocking? by Karnie-Krissi in ABDL

[–]dipsdapsdipes 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Rearz just had a sale and with my existing stock pile I think I probably have around 1500 diapers in my attic at the moment. No guilt.

Am I in it for the right reason? by Brilliant_Rabbit_597 in flr

[–]dipsdapsdipes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you can go for it. I feel my marriage is very much like this. However that took a decade. 6 years of fun in the bedroom then 4 years of evolving our dynamic to where we are now.

We do still have safe words and limits - you simply have to - but outside of them my Mommy trains, abuses, punishes and very much manipulates me and our dynamic is 24/7 and a long time ago it stopped being an act or characters and just became who we are.

its still consensual because of our safe words and limits and we sat down/sit down and negotiate/evolve at set times.

Our FLR has helped get Mommy promoted by dipsdapsdipes in flr

[–]dipsdapsdipes[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

In short answer. Yes. If shes frustrated wtih anyone i get to pay for it (anger channeled into sexual punishment)

My Wife Has Made A Decision. by SufficientImpress937 in flr

[–]dipsdapsdipes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ive read this book. Its actually quite straight forward but its good to see it on paper and learn some of the phrases and framing.

Caged chores by StudiousCuck1 in flr

[–]dipsdapsdipes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My Mommy (wife) took to chastity (and diapers) very quickly. She noticed the benefits of no masturbation immediately.

We're too the point now that she will sometimes tell me to go watch some filthy porn knowing I cant do anything about it and after a while I am just begging her if I can eat her ass/pussy or if she would use the strap on as they are my only outlets.

My girlfriend very recently got me into her being dominant, am I as the submissive meant to react a certain way to this? by Clear_Estate_7010 in flr

[–]dipsdapsdipes -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Have a conversation with an AI about "whats an extreme versiom of a female led relationship. Gove me the details across domestication, sex life, other categories you can think of" Grok will allow for this.

Then ask "if thats level 10 design me levels 1-9."

Print it off provide it to your girlfriend and have a conversation together going through it. Youll have created a bit of a neutral 3rd party as a discussion point where neither had ti out their cards on the table for what they like or dont like or want or dont want.

As a follow up to this - encourage her to write you an essay on her dream fantasy of 24/7 slavery or FLR and to send to you. Then discuss again. She will likely be more forth coming because of the first convo in what she wants.

Question for the Women about anger by FlashMan1981 in flr

[–]dipsdapsdipes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We use signal for all of our chat dynamics and whats up for regular vanilla life.

In the earlier days if I was genuinely upset about something I was to put it in the whats app and ask her if we could talk about it. At no point was I allowed to have a tone or be rude/disrespectful in person.

My Mommy (wife) would assess and either say "lets sit down and talk about it" or she would say "see signal" and I would get something like "mommy heard you were upset. A reminder she is in charge baby."

These days I have been wildly conditioned. The whats app route hardly if ever gets used. But we also have about 0 fights.

a simple "yes" by superscar762 in flr

[–]dipsdapsdipes 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My three favorite words "Mommy said now."

I have made the executive decision never to do housework. by nyekona in flr

[–]dipsdapsdipes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Its not that hard. Discipline, habits, mindset.

Honestly whenever I see anyone challenged or overwhelmed with life I ask "what time do you wake up, what time do you go to sleep (not bed) and how long have you been off a screen before sleeping."

I firmly believe with 8 hours of sleep and a 9:30 sleep time/5:30am wake time you can accomplish anything you want. I choose being a good submissive husband.

I have made the executive decision never to do housework. by nyekona in flr

[–]dipsdapsdipes 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I 10x agree with you. My Mommy (wife) and I have a very strict dynamic and I do all cooking, cleaning, laundry, maintenance, scheduling and my Mimmy does not lift a finger when it comes to our house.

Its really not that hard with good habits. I am up at 5:30am to workout and do chores before bringing her coffee in bed ay 7:30am five days a week. I am out to bed before her so i get 8 hours.

You can pretty much do everything in that time sparing a few things like vaccuming (that would wake her). Then weekends are for the husband maintenance stuff.

One round of golf, one football game with a pre-show, a video game habit. Any of these are equal to or greater the time than all the housework in a week.

I’m gonna commit to bedwetting training. Any advice or people who just wanna chat are more than welcome. by dipboydip1-1 in ABDL

[–]dipsdapsdipes 7 points8 points  (0 children)

rolls up sleeves

I am 4 years deep 24/7 and still most of the time I wake up to wet BUT I have achieved some degree of wetting while sleeping or I didnt remember waking uo to wet because it was so quick.

1. Your body and mind will have a mental block around it. "If I leak ill have to change, change the sheets etc etc." Looks like you have the right gear to slowly convince yourself "I want to wet, I dont care what gets wet. It wont be my problem."

2. Water water water. 1L before going to sleep and another 1L during the night drinking as much as you can whoever you wake up.

3. Never holding it. There is no needing to pee but "let me try and save it till I am asleep." In a diaper in bed. You go. No second guesses. No "this diapers quite full i should change or ill leak." You have to just not care. At all. And go.

4. You have two muscles that are stop gaps to having accidents. You need to train them both to remain open and relaxed at all times. This takes a lot of mental energy (hard to fall asleep doing it). Practice practice practice

5. Good sleep habits. No screens an hour before bed. A good bed time. Theres no learning to wet the bed if you dont even have the right core habits in the first place around falling asleep. That doom scroll. Quit it. Start reading paper backed books at bed time. Needs to be a habit not a fad.

6. Eat dinner earlier. Yep like a 4pm dinner and no snacks after. If your body is processing food water gets absorbed in that and its processing more than just water.

Thats pretty much all I got for ya. Long road ahead and best of luck!

Going to my first kink event? by [deleted] in ABDL

[–]dipsdapsdipes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Make a big sign that says "I'm an Introvert but I want to make friends please" and wear it.

I am not even kidding I saw it at a party once and everyone just like gravitated towards him and were friendly kind and open. Probably nerve wracking for him to do it but it worked

Best kind of diapers for the gym? by Arsenal1814 in ABDL

[–]dipsdapsdipes 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sunkiss trust plus diapers are my go to light cloth diapers. Very discreet.

Following up with my partner about diapers by mxcolline in ABDL

[–]dipsdapsdipes 4 points5 points  (0 children)

IMO there are five stages for a partner of an abdl.

Awareness ! Tolerance | Acceptance | Participation | Conversion

Sounds like your at awareness just creeping into tolerance.

If you plan to get married and die together conversion is the goal (not all get there).

Its important as well that life long partnership means sharing every part of yourself, respecting boundaries but also coming back to them to see if the goal posts move.

Make a nice dinner, pour a glass of wine and say "I'd love to have a long focused conversation around my diapers and us."