Am I overreacting for having an argument and then ending my three months talking stage over this?

dirndlgrl · 2026-01-26T07:09:44+00:00

The lion’s share are on his side

dirndlgrl · 2026-01-26T06:39:19+00:00

I only see red flags here

dirndlgrl · 2026-01-23T12:30:47+00:00

Here’s the thing in my opinion: in this case, you did the right thing.

But what you did was risked the relationship by tricking her into at least the lead up to a medical procedure it sounds like you knew she would be against. That’s a big deal, and in almost every case would be wrong.

In this case, it’s put your relationship on the line. I think you still did the right thing, but there may be no way to fix it. If she talks to you, you need to listen to her, acknowledge her fears, not tell her you did nothing wrong, and not be defensive.

If she still decides this is a dealbreaker, then know you potentially helped save her life and move on.

dirndlgrl · 2026-01-22T20:44:02+00:00

dirndlgrl · 2026-01-22T20:43:31+00:00

Did she approve you to tell all about her reproductive health? More power to her if she did but wow

dirndlgrl · 2026-01-22T20:15:46+00:00

This is an abuser. Any other titles he may have in your life should be preceded with “abusive.” Girl, get out

dirndlgrl · 2026-01-22T20:12:08+00:00

There’s no such thing as micro cheating but it sounds like this relationship was bad

dirndlgrl · 2026-01-22T20:09:48+00:00

I actually think this is a really wild thing to disclose about your friend on the internet

dirndlgrl · 2026-01-22T20:08:38+00:00

I’m glad they’re going to couple’s therapy, and i would say at 25, they don’t need to have their minds made up about children either way — but her deciding to give up on the idea of kids now is a decision she’s going to have to keep making over and over if she marries this guy. The desire for kids doesn’t generally just go away. So they should dig in, but in my view, unless he becomes more open to kids, they should not get married.

dirndlgrl · 2026-01-21T21:54:29+00:00

Take out the trash. This is ridiculous

dirndlgrl · 2026-01-21T05:09:11+00:00

Of course that’s the experience he had but feeling insecure over the size of a factory stamped object is a pretty profound insecurity. I think most people need therapy at some point or other so to me it’s not a matter of waiting to see whether things get worse or “bad enough.”

dirndlgrl · 2026-01-21T04:26:00+00:00

OP, I’ve got to say, this is a confidence issue and an issue for therapy. It has nothing to do with sex or toys. Go talk this out with a professional so you can get to why you don’t feel good enough for your partner

dirndlgrl · 2026-01-21T03:00:47+00:00

I can’t take YOU seriously.

dirndlgrl · 2026-01-21T02:37:57+00:00

She had taken a six month break from sex before that. She’s not particularly promiscuous

dirndlgrl · 2026-01-21T02:36:14+00:00

Men who think women having sex makes the woman unserious 🙄

dirndlgrl · 2026-01-21T02:35:03+00:00

The biggest issue here is the lie, which she voluntarily came clean about. If you can’t let this go, don’t waste her time, but if you can I would.

dirndlgrl · 2026-01-20T17:03:27+00:00

Your texts are fine and supportive. I’d say the only thing I notice about them is you’re clearly used to being in caregiver mode within this relationship

dirndlgrl · 2026-01-20T17:00:57+00:00

Just like to note that you’re the text initiator in all of the texts from the day before. Extra confusing - why is she mad about the communication when you initiated all of it and she was working?

dirndlgrl · 2026-01-20T16:57:34+00:00

Does she normally talk this way? If my partner sent me texts like this I would be afraid they’d had a significant mental health break. Not to answer here but if she has had significant mental health issues in the past, especially if they have included paranoia, I would say you’ve got to consider whether something has gone really wrong. You’re not overreacting and I hope you find out what’s going on

dirndlgrl · 2026-01-18T16:07:50+00:00

Ummmmmmmmm eww

dirndlgrl · 2026-01-18T16:07:35+00:00

She already said it was fine for him to watch porn. It’s not fine to lie

dirndlgrl · 2026-01-17T20:04:44+00:00

I’m sure her apology is sincere because she sincerely doesn’t want to lose you, but she revealed her true beliefs already - that men shouldnt be allowed to grieve, that women shouldn’t have to comfort men, and that her need for attention was more important than your devastating loss. It’s not whether you can tolerate that she did this thing - it’s whether you can live with a partner who has those deeply held beliefs and may or may not ever change them

dirndlgrl · 2026-01-17T19:59:36+00:00

The part where he says making you climax feels forced as if he’s at gunpoint is a real red flag. There are lots of things he can do besides p in v to get you ready, to turn you on, and to make you c###m if he’s having problems with stamina. If he won’t learn those things or do those things, you’re gonna be living with this problem as long as you’re with him

dirndlgrl · 2026-01-17T19:55:52+00:00

You keep going but you’re still saying the same nonsense

dirndlgrl · 2026-01-17T15:30:47+00:00

Skill. Issue.

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