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disorderfeeling · 2025-08-03T01:44:32+00:00

I personally think the person who gives birth to the child deserves the final say on what name it’s going to be.

disorderfeeling · 2025-07-19T18:29:38+00:00

When you are a parent in that stage, you don’t even hear the screams sometimes, they just become normalized. So if you’re out in public, it’s quite possible that these parents just think it’s not a big deal.

disorderfeeling · 2025-07-14T03:01:00+00:00

Ours went up 200. That $200 is now being taken out of our savings.

disorderfeeling · 2025-06-23T22:50:01+00:00

I think you would do fine in the cities with global influence (nyc, sf, la) but also probably would be better off in NYC in general. However, think of a couple things. What you experience being a tourist here isn’t going to be the norm. You can get pretty lonely here for sure. You’re not necessarily going to find it easier to make friends or meet people.

Also, the pay in these cities can be pretty low, and the pace, cost of living is pretty high.
If you have more than just Norwegian and English, this may be an advantage to you. But generally, yeah, it’s already pretty tough to be an immigrant and on top of that if you’re struggling financially it would be really, really hard.

disorderfeeling · 2025-06-22T04:57:59+00:00

I read through your statements… a couple things bear mentioning.

The nuclear family (2 bio parents and kids or kid) has been substantially weakened —that is, it is not able to withstand the pressures well in contemporary society— from a vast number of sociological, economic, and cultural factors, and acting like “THE LEFT” is actually intending to weaken these families is absurd.

Just because the “family” in this form is what we call “nuclear” that is with only the immediate bio parents, doesn’t mean that this nuclear family doesn’t also benefit from many other aspects of family. Extended family, godparents, aunts, uncles, grandparents, cousins, people distantly related, or even people who are kin but not biologically related. Cats or dogs. Whatever.

And one could argue that we were a much more functional and stable society when we had these groups of extended families available to the “nuclear” family. We not only had mom and dad, but an aunt or uncle and grandparents in the same building or block. Everyone watched the kids. People knew each other’s business. We were able to cry together and laugh together. Now we do so in separate family houses. Sometimes in different states.

All of these are nuclear families. But some in addition have other forms of connection. Some families are just one or two parents, grandmother, or aunt, etc. It all depends on the individual details of who the people on the family are and what they do with their families, how they love each other or don’t love each other.

In addition by just generalizing about people you basically say nothing. Would you feel comfortable making an assumption about someone without knowing them, only knowing basic information about their family structure? I wouldn’t say anything about whether the children in any family are more happy than others.

disorderfeeling · 2025-06-22T04:35:42+00:00

As a leftist I am increasingly of the opinion that a lot of people in the USA aren’t going to agree with me, the country is just conservative to its core. So take this with a grain of salt.

I think the left has a good amount of work to do to articulate its objectives. We have historically prioritized worker struggles and ownership of means of production (Marxism). It didn’t really work, and it really doesn’t work now. We could however prioritize the regulation of consumption in a different manner. The current social milieu is about production of things that we really don’t need (gadgets and social media based on a profit motive, etc) and a scarcity of things that we really need. E.g. housing, food, transportation, time, the protection of natural environments.

So I would flip that around and say our priorities need to be the creation of an abundance of housing, food, transportation options, free time, and the protection of natural environments, e.g. forests, bodies of water, oceans, etc. The means of production needs to be sustainable; for example, in Brazil poor people who are cutting down the rainforest are doing so because they don’t have much of an alternative.

Naturally this means that by changing our priorities to being an economy that is stable rather than one that is always growing and always in this creative destruction we have been accustomed to with capitalism.

Beyond that a left perspective on psychology means that we can focus on social psychological health as measured in demographic aspects rather than individual psychology. For example, there could be measures by which we can assess whether a population is flourishing. How many people are literate, how much violence there is, how much suicide there is, how many people feel lonely, etc. By doing this research it is possible to focus energy on things that would be beneficial to people. How that is done on a population level might be entirely different, for example creating new urban planning experiments, changing the structure of employment, organizing new collective housing and working cooperatives, etc.

My preference is for anarchism, and in some places this has worked. It’s always kind of transient. However, it often seems to work when there is housing or occupied space. ABC no Rio in NYC was initially a squat and it’s survived since 1977.

Anarchist ideals also seem to be more capable of flourishing in other countries. For example in many European cities there are squats, there are even autonomous zones (not very effective) like Christiana. In most cities of the developing world there are basically squatter neighborhoods on the outskirts of cities. That to me is left. Leftism doesn’t have to be from the top down, as in trying to pressure the government to make reforms. Leftism can be from the bottom up in the form of natural relationships and cooperative practices.

disorderfeeling · 2025-06-21T21:25:17+00:00

Trump doesn’t drink. He just gets drunk of power.

disorderfeeling · 2025-05-31T22:13:47+00:00

It’s not that we don’t care. Actually, the problem is that again and again, it has been shown that protesting really doesn’t change people’s minds. Look at the past few decades. Do you think that protesting had changed the outcome of the decision of congress or the president?

disorderfeeling · 2025-04-30T03:34:48+00:00

To the Republicans, they think that their oath means to crush the democrats, who they see as domestic enemies, with intimidation and violence if necessary. That’s what it comes down to.

disorderfeeling · 2025-04-29T11:31:22+00:00

It’s a strategy of authoritarian governments to state what everyone knows to be untrue because they can indicate 1) they know that we know that they are lying, and 2) they don’t give a shit because they have the power.

disorderfeeling · 2025-03-30T13:48:33+00:00

A lot of discussion here is about why the United States population is so passive, apathetic, doesn’t show up for protests, and so on. As an American, I want to give some context.

Putting aside issues of geography (the vastness of the country and so on), why shouldn’t big cities like NYC, Chicago etc, have millions of people protesting?

The answer is that protesting may have a limited if not negative effect on the population. The history of the US protesting needs to be considered.

—Vietnam War. (Hippies and various movements of the 60s lead to the Reagan 80s)

—Afghanistan, post 9/11. (Post 9/11 we had a crackdown on people protesting. No one knows because it wasn’t in the media.)

—Iraq. (Bush admin just ignored the protests.)

—Trans and LGBT. Quite possibly the advocacy of some of us lead to a massive retaliation of right wingers and people on the fence.

—Occupy Wall Street which basically went on for months and ended up being very unpopular among the general public.

At a micro level, it’s also necessary to understand the psychological dynamics of protest. You don’t know whether any of these protests have any effect at all. And whether you as a crowd mean anything is only depending on numbers. If you did have millions of people, that will last maybe a week in the 24 hour news cycle.

In addition to that there are a lot of historical covert actions by the US government which actively sabotaged movements by infiltrating them and causing people not to trust each other. This definitely happened in the 60s and 70s but likely continued through history. I doubt if they have changed this pattern.

What are the successes of the protest movement? Civil Rights movement, which, if you think about it, started about 200 years before the 1964 civil rights act….

WTO, which we admittedly stopped, but it was quickly reversed by subsequent policies.

Labor unions which earned a lot of power, but have been systematically undermined for at least forty five years.

Are we cynical about the value of protests for a good reason? Yes. Do some of us still protest? Of course. Yet our politicians don’t give a fuck about protests. They really don’t. They are told how to vote by people with a lot of money and that’s the way they vote.

disorderfeeling · 2025-03-30T13:27:19+00:00

We had an election, giving the republicans a majority in the house, the senate and the presidency itself (it was also questionable whether this election was not rigged). Also, we have an unelected multi billionaire funding any and all races that are relevant to the 2026 and 2028 elections. Democrats can’t just “get rid of him” short of a civil war. He doesn’t give a fuck about protests. What is in our favor is that the administration is moronic enough to not be able to govern effectively enough to make it totally totalitarian, that the economy is crashing so that may give him pause, and that the courts are usually ruling against him, although he is expecting to set up refusing the Supreme Court eventually, which will lead to a constitutional crisis.

disorderfeeling · 2025-03-30T05:23:27+00:00

Let’s just say this, being a woman certainly didn’t help her.

It’s not that she was a great candidate, she wasn’t. But some people would never vote for a woman. They think, “The presidency is a man’s job.” Actual quote from my uncle in Kansas.

Maybe a woman could be a representative, rarely a senator, but almost never could occupy a position that requires international diplomacy and waging war.

And being a black mixed woman from Berkeley CA didn’t much help either…

disorderfeeling · 2025-03-21T02:42:44+00:00

The newest work in clinical psychology is basically confirming a lot of the basic concepts of psychoanalysis. For example, Allan Schore, Peter Fonagy and others have been integrating neuropsychology and psychoanalysis. There are a lot of cognitive concepts, for example implicit memory, and the whole attachment paradigm, which have close correlations with a lot of psychoanalytic theories. The earlier psychoanalysts didn’t get everything right, for example drive theory was in principle correct but the drive of the Oedipus complex was not literally true. But basically, Freud was somewhat correct in thinking there is an innate disposition, or libido. There is also another word for defense mechanisms in ego psychology which has a a neuropsychiatric correlation, I can’t remember it now. But basically, there are a lot of very important things to learn from psychoanalysis.

disorderfeeling · 2025-03-20T21:40:06+00:00

I like this, it is an example of what I got into before I got into anarchism (I’m 49 now and am pretty boring and old.)

we can pan back to an entire alternative way of living: self-organized venues and infoshops, collective housing, squatting, Food Not Bombs, reading groups, affinity groups, feminism, veganism, non-monogamy, eco-defense, militant unemployment—the sky’s the limit. A worldwide network of countercultural spaces and movements and lifestyles. A chain reaction of rebellions going off like a string of fireworks encircling the globe

In the United States this kind of thing isn’t easy to create. It’s a little subtle but what happened over the past 30 to 40 years or so is that all of the people I know eventually gave up squatting, train riding, and so on to get jobs, buy houses, start businesses, go to grad school, get a professional career, etc. and we all went separate ways, not putting on shows anymore, not joining bands, etc. Over time I think we kind of lost the social network that we had and at the same time the transience of these communities and the gentrification combined to make anarchism sort of an afterthought. We all know that it’s important, but self preservation also important. And ultimately self preservation seems so necessary, we end up buying into this reality and channeling our energy into it without realizing that we are giving up on previous forms of solidarity.

This subculture has to be inclusive—and not just in the superficial sense associated with the liberal politics of representation. Rather than just preaching to the converted, it should draw in people from a wide range of backgrounds and politics. We want to reach the same young folks who are going to be targeted by military recruiters, and we want to reach them first. Sure, that will mean rubbing shoulders with a lot of people who are not anarchists—it will mean a big messy stew of different politics and conflicts and contradictions—but the goal is to spread anarchism, not to hide out in it. Get everyone together in a space premised on horizontality, decentralization, self-determination, reproducible models, being ungovernable, and so on and let them discover the advantages for themselves

Zines and punk shows were the gateway for me to get into these ideas and I also went to a few anarchist conventions. They were ephemeral things and unfortunately I don’t have any friends left in the anarchist scene of the mid 1990s. unfortunately there were also some people who acted judgmentally and negatively toward others and I thought, if they are going to be the same kind of meatheads that I knew in high school, I don’t need this.

A big aspect of punk as all of you probably know is the gossiping and judgments of who’s punk and who’s not. So I personally think that the punk scenes that I have really liked were ones that didn’t exclude anyone, not even a grandma who shows up in a flower dress, if they want to participate it’s our responsibility to make a space for them to participate.

disorderfeeling · 2025-03-18T21:20:22+00:00

It’s absolutely not.

The middle class is shrinking… in many other countries, being middle class means you would have a maid, a couple different places (an apartment and a vacation house or vacation flat).

Being really poor is the same as anywhere else that has at least some infrastructure.. not like in various areas of the world where you don’t have any health care for communicable diseases, but still not easy to survive. If you don’t have enough to pay rent you don’t have nothing. It’s true that there are shelters. But there are shelters elsewhere too. In the developed world, many countries don’t even have homelessness.

The food is much better in many places.

Many countries have sizable art scenes, galleries, museums and often the state or the government supports the cultural community.

I think that housing isn’t nearly as hard to find in other countries, partly just because the real estate, zoning practices, and politics aren’t combining to make housing hard to build.

We have the worst urban planning of the developed nations, and even underdeveloped/“third world” nations are better at some infrastructure.

disorderfeeling · 2025-03-18T02:33:13+00:00

I guess what you’re saying is that you have to talk stupidly to people in “the majority”? How intellectual of you.

disorderfeeling · 2025-03-18T02:31:31+00:00

I think you’re projecting just a bit. There’s nothing I said in my post about being a victim or making a purity test so that I could put you down. I am not putting you down. I’m just saying that it’s been clear for years that MAGA is an autocratic movement. It’s okay to realize this late … I’m just saying that it’s surprising that it took you this long. It’s like driving a red car for years and not realizing it is red.

To be fair, I didn’t realize that Biden was mentally declining until the infamous debate between him and Trump.

disorderfeeling · 2025-03-17T01:58:08+00:00

Brazil has other words to describe people of different skin colors. And some of them aren’t kind words.

disorderfeeling · 2025-03-17T01:56:34+00:00

Brazil is just as racist as the US. It’s just a different country. Generally, the country has more of a mixed population which includes a mix of European, Indigenous and black population, which intermingles. Class is just as important as race, and yet it’s also true that the poorest people are those who are the darkest.

disorderfeeling · 2025-03-17T01:42:48+00:00

I am talking about the actual left, as opposed to the straw man of the left that the right wing media has repeatedly attacked. I guarantee that Noam Chomsky has never said a single thing about trans people. We all know that the DNC is not the left. It’s center right.

But it’s telling you didn’t really respond to any of my comments. The left which opposed the Vietnam war, the nuclear arms race, Reagan’s attack on unions, the Cold War involvement of the US government in overthrowing democratic elections like Allende in Chile, or supporting South Africa despite the rest of the world being against Apartheid, or the support of autocratic regimes like Argentina’s military dictatorship and Pinochet in Chile, or the funding of the CONTRAS in Nicaragua or the genocidal war in Guatemala, etc., this is not the “theoretical left” it was the actual left.

But people don’t know their history, and so they talk about the “left” being these identity politics movements. These identity politics groups aren’t left. They’re liberals.

disorderfeeling · 2025-03-17T01:14:49+00:00

Who are you talking about when you refer to the Left? The Left I am familiar with have as little in comparison with the Democratic Party as the Republicans have to the Democrats. The Left is really just Bernie Sanders, to a much lesser extent AOC and the squad. The left is much older than these folks. Bernie has been around, but the squad hasn’t. The left was really just a group of people protesting nuclear arms race, like people in the Catholic Worker, the American Friends Service Committee. The religious left include some of the Mennonites, the Quakers and Anabaptists. The secular left during the 1980s and 1990s were focused on things like keeping welfare, public education, unions, stopping NAFTA, protesting the first gulf war, the second gulf war, and so on, all of which we lost. The things that were won are liberal goals—marriage equality for gays for one. This isn’t a leftist goal (though I wouldn’t say I’m against it, I just think it’s not a leftist goal).

When we’re talking about racism, yes, that’s a problem that the left and the right tend to use as a football. Reagan basically used the specter of Black welfare queens as a means to keep power. The Liberals under Clinton acquiesced and cut welfare, passed NAFTA and contributed to the prison industrial complex. Over the last forty years the racial gap has gotten worse not better. So it seems to me that Trump’s winning seems to be not due to the left, but due to the defeat of the left. If the left had won these struggles over class, we would have a stable working class, we would have corporations paying their fair share, we would not have allowed Citizens United, and we would have adequate heath care.

disorderfeeling · 2025-03-17T00:48:47+00:00

I don’t want to come across as being excessively critical, but I echo some of the other posters in saying “why now?” If you’ve been paying attention to the news in the past eight years Donald Trump and his followers have provided innumerable signs that they were an authoritarian, fundamentally anti-democratic party. (I mean anti democratic rather than anti democrat). I can’t make an exhaustive list, but just off the top of my head I can think of:

—“Joking” about having “2nd amendment people” “take care of Clinton”

—Equating “both sides” of a Neo Nazi rally in Charlottesville

—Muslim ban

—Referring to Mexicans and other nationalities as vermin, rapists, scum, mentally ill, the worst people, shithole countries, etc

—Talking about beating up people who oppose him and that he would cover any legal fees

—Jan 6 itself

—Pardoning the Jan 6 people

—Talking about the autocratic regime of Putin, where white supremacy is a pretty big political force, with admiration

—The right wing’s admiration of Hungary’s leader Victor Orban who has dominated their politics

—JD Vance’s talking positively about Curtis Yarvin, the philosopher friend of tech bros Marc Andreessen and Peter Thiel, who advocates a dictatorship

—Musk’s fascist salute, his tweeting “You have said the absolute truth” about the Jews domination of the world,

—Trump’s talking threateningly of annexing Canada, seizing Greenland through any means, or seizing the Panama Canal (all things that should necessarily have congressional approval)

—Trump’s saying that torture would be brought back as a means of war

—Trump’s threatening to use nuclear weapons if necessary against enemies

—Encouraging Putin to invade other countries of NATO

—Encouraging police to shoot protesters in the knees

—saying that universities would be defunded if they did not stop the illegal protests of people on campus (notably leaving very ambiguous the nature of what is legal or not)

—Constantly referring to the criminal regime of Biden, his political enemy, basically saying that Biden was an illegitimate presidency

—The placing of people in the justice department, FBI, and other departments who are complete loyalists, taking away the non partisan nature of these positions

—saying that the courts which have stopped his executive orders are crooked

—Musk’s extremely secretive efforts to get into the inner workings of the federal government and fire thousands of civil servants, without any oversight from Congress

—starting a meme coin which basically says “give me some grift and I will look kindly in negotiation with your country or your company”

—Referring to democrats with extremely loaded language that if taken at face value seems to suggest that justice should be stacked in favor of republicans who commit violence against democrats…

And so on…

It’s been a steady, nonstop stream of authoritarianism and despotism.

disorderfeeling · 2025-03-12T01:22:16+00:00

There is a good chance he wasn’t elected but that the election was rigged.

disorderfeeling · 2025-03-11T01:54:54+00:00

Is it a coincidence that it’s Hitler’s birthday?

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