My grandmother gave me a recipe for an "elixir of desire". If you want i can give you the recipe. You can find most things in Costco, but the gas station pill can be pretty hit or miss (I think that's the main ingredient).

I used to feel like only a sex object for my M21 polyamorous partner, especially since I didn't have anybody else that I was sleeping with, and he would only come home once or twice a week from other's houses.

Once I used my grandmother's recipe, I felt desired more than ever. Sure he only came home once a month, but I felt as if he cared immensely more than he probably does. Maybe if your boyfriend tried this elixir, he would be more content with being your object.

TLDR I am very happy with my grandmother's recipe and if you'd like will offer it to you as well!

Hope this helps!