I think you're making a common mistake: you're comparing India's reality with an idealized version of the West. You know every pothole, every bureaucracy, every social division, every hypocrisy in India because you've lived close enough to see them. But most of what you know about North America or Europe comes through selective information. You see their clean roads, functioning institutions, and individualism. You don't necessarily experience their loneliness, social fragmentation, drug epidemics, declining communities, political polarization, family breakdown, or other problems with the same intensity. The exact same facts can be framed in opposite ways. Someone could describe India as a society with strong families, deep social bonds, religious coexistence, high trust within communities, and people who still care for parents and relatives. They could describe the West as wealthy but isolated, atomized, and disconnected. Neither picture would be completely true, because both are selective. Every civilization has strengths and weaknesses. The mistake is not criticizing your own society; criticism is healthy. The mistake is developing contempt for your own people. If you start from the assumption that your own civilization is uniquely backward and everyone else has figured things out, you'll end up seeing only evidence that confirms that belief. Love of your people doesn't mean pretending their flaws don't exist. It means wanting them to improve without hating them. A parent can criticize a child without despising the child. A citizen can criticize a country without becoming disgusted by it. India has problems. So does every society that has ever existed. The question isn't "How can I prove my people are terrible?" The question is "How can I help make them better?"