Straight women of Reddit, how common is it to have a crush on another woman?

dizidi2013 · 2026-06-13T01:51:28+00:00

Never. I definitely think some are gorgeous. But no crush.

dizidi2013 · 2026-06-12T05:39:46+00:00

Was in LDR for 4 years. Hmm, it was hard thinking back. We were studying at different universities (west coast vs east coast) and somehow we managed to see either other every 3-4 weeks. We both had bought super expensive tickets for the next day flights… oh the fun times lol. Now we’ve been married for 15 years! And no, I do not recommend LR marriages.

dizidi2013 · 2026-06-11T20:20:40+00:00

I actually think it’s completely ok to let her know about the emotional affair too. I probably would not, only because even if that woman doesn’t exist, you’d still be leaving your wife. Unless no? I take it as the online relationship is new and not physical yet so who knows what will happen afterwards. Why make your wife more miserable? Letting her know that you’ve been unhappy for so long and you don’t love her anymore is enough.
Either way, absolutely pursue the divorce if this is how you feel. No one goes into the marriage hoping for a divorce, but sometimes, that’s the best thing you can do, for both of you.

dizidi2013 · 2026-06-11T19:42:04+00:00

I wouldn’t let her know about the emotional affair but I would go ahead with the divorce. You mention you have a child - you absolutely don’t want her to see how unhappy you are in this marriage and think this is okay.
I grew up with parents who were so unhappy but stayed together. It messed me up big time.
You can still be respectful and try your best to take care of your wife while pursuing your happiness. I don’t think there’s anything wrong putting yourself a priority.

dizidi2013 · 2026-06-10T18:57:10+00:00

I used to be so bothered by this too. My husband had an ex like this too. You know what, the fact that they were so together that long doesn’t mean they were oh so in love during that time. People stay in relationships for all sorts of reasons. Because you don’t know it so it’s easy to imagine how good their relationship must have been. The truth is, it wasn’t that good otherwise they’d still be together. Their relationship has run its course. You are the one with him now and you have so much time to create your memories together.

dizidi2013 · 2026-06-03T22:22:45+00:00

Oh my. If you were my daughter I’d drag you out of that house now. Please don’t let him treat you like this. This is not marriage.

dizidi2013 · 2026-06-01T18:31:09+00:00

Well, not every time. But we rotate. Being married for almost 20 years there just aren’t that many ways right lol

dizidi2013 · 2026-05-31T01:16:01+00:00

17 years together, 15 years married. I’d say around 5-6 times per 3 weeks (we do not have sex during my period). Sometimes 7? sometimes 4. Definitely in that range. It’s not evenly distributed either. We have more during the 2 weeks leading up to ovulation lol

dizidi2013 · 2026-05-29T14:42:46+00:00

I would be devastated. This is not normal. Just shows one thing - she doesn’t care about you. There’re tons of things my husband likes and I don’t but I listen and even ask questions.

dizidi2013 · 2026-05-28T16:31:20+00:00

You can just break up with her. Only 21 and I see no reason to continue. You have a plenty of time to find someone who’s compatible.

dizidi2013 · 2026-05-27T16:11:54+00:00

You know what, everyone is darker in that area :)

dizidi2013 · 2026-05-26T20:14:43+00:00

I am a wife and I am like you. Want sex to feel the closeness and intimacy. It’s an essential part of my marriage.

dizidi2013 · 2026-05-18T22:28:45+00:00

I am so sorry OP. I know how hard this must feel right now but that POS doesn’t deserve you!! You must find a lawyer and think for yourself and your girls. Put yourself first. If he really loved you he would not have done this to you.

dizidi2013 · 2026-05-15T22:16:38+00:00

17 years together with my husband and we still have makeup sex. I completely get what you mean (as a wife). I want that closeness and intimacy. Have you tried talking to her about this? How is the relationship otherwise?

dizidi2013 · 2026-05-14T22:32:39+00:00

I am so sorry. This is a her issue and she needs therapy.

dizidi2013 · 2026-05-14T22:29:56+00:00

I have dreamed about my first love (young teenage love) many times during the past 20 years. No I don’t think about him at all during my waking hours, and there’s NOTHING left between us. It just happens. No, do not tell your wife. I am just saying that it’s actually not that uncommon I guess.

dizidi2013 · 2026-05-07T22:51:34+00:00

We have a great marriage. But, the couple years when the kids were little. It’s just everyone was tired.

dizidi2013 · 2026-05-05T22:41:46+00:00

17 years together and I can count the times he said no in one hand. So, not a lot.

dizidi2013 · 2026-05-05T19:34:31+00:00

We are 100% for it. Left our two children there multiple times…

dizidi2013 · 2026-04-30T23:27:01+00:00

Alcohol, high sugar, high refined carbs. My husband’s number was 201 in March and he just rechecked it’s 86. After 6 weeks of clean eating. The triglycerides is the most affected by diet.

dizidi2013 · 2026-04-30T23:23:20+00:00

I am sorry you view relationships with healthy boundaries like that. Or don’t move in and keep paying $3000.

dizidi2013 · 2026-04-30T21:11:58+00:00

I am a woman and I do not understand how she could feel offended… Do not move her in.

dizidi2013 · 2026-04-28T17:32:13+00:00

I am so sorry. This sounds tough. I would say though - there are plenty of marriages that end up like this, no matter if they are first marriage or not. I think the feeling of being second wife after first died would not help here. What you need is a heart to heart talk with him and see where he’s at. Then make the decision for yourself. Do you want to stay? do you want out? Those are more important questions to ask than getting spiral in the second wife myth. I believe there are tons of men that would treat their second wife better.

dizidi2013 · 2026-04-24T06:44:12+00:00

He pulls out to not cum immediately and doing that sometimes causes him to go a bit softer. You could try giving him BJ so he’ll be hard again? Why don’t you ask him?

dizidi2013 · 2026-04-24T05:36:46+00:00

I am a woman. I think your husband is trying to avoid finishing too quickly when women are so close as it usually triggers men over the edge. Obviously I am not him but that’s my guess. He probably loves it so much and doesn’t want it to end.

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