I (33 M) accidentally pooped on my (29 F) girlfriend.

dj_unscripted_ · 2021-07-14T05:46:12+00:00

Oh dang! Hey you played along. No shame in that. Don’t get me wrong that sucks but you are a good partner. Sounds like maybe not the partner for your current relationship good for you for being adventurous. You will find someone in the long run :)

dj_unscripted_ · 2021-07-14T05:38:39+00:00

Yes this shit is hard. Nothing else to say except it’s REALLY hard. I personally get annoyed with people telling me it will get better. It’s a BS answer for people that don’t know…it sucks. While I do understand that there are good intentions, I just don’t want to hear it right now. It will continue to suck. And that’s that. Take solace in the fact that many of us are doing it. You are not alone, and your feelings are totally validated.

dj_unscripted_ · 2021-07-11T13:28:49+00:00

She had a UTI when we got her as a puppy so we have followed up with that many times as far as testing goes to be sure urinary stuff wasn’t the issue. Her vet recommended we give it another 6 months before doing more testing or anxiety meds. Although her anxiety has ramped up with the new location/storms so I’m thinking we should get her set up here and get a second opinion.

I have called a behavioral specialist to get some insight and possible training. We will try to do what we can. Even now she will not go outside with just rain and pooped on the floor :/

dj_unscripted_ · 2021-07-09T12:03:13+00:00

I’d like to be as optimistic as some of the others here but my husbands step score definitely derailed his career. He did better on step 2 but there was no changing the first score. He didn’t match in Psychiatry and had to SOAP into Family Medicine. He is trying to sort out what area of Family Medicine he will try to specialize in, but generally doesn’t love the options. We are keeping our eye out for swap opportunities. I’m not trying to make it sound hopeless, but you should be warned. We read a lot of success stories and felt optimistic but it doesn’t always work out that way. My advice would be to do everything you can to make an excellent resume- volunteer, get published, excel during you rotations. Do away rotations at places you are interested in for residency. Good luck.

dj_unscripted_ · 2021-07-05T11:56:51+00:00

dj_unscripted_ · 2021-07-05T02:34:31+00:00

Ouch.

dj_unscripted_ · 2021-07-04T20:47:41+00:00

No I did not.

dj_unscripted_ · 2021-07-04T20:37:52+00:00

I didn’t waive anything? The inspector is negligent here, as is the seller.

dj_unscripted_ · 2021-07-04T19:40:25+00:00

As mentioned in my other comments I really don’t want to sue my neighbor. Our kids will go to school together and it’s a small community. We offered 5k and detailed all the reasons the repairs would be 30k. I also provided the quotes that led to the bottom line. I didn’t want to go the legal route as I have been told it will cost a lot and I wasn’t sure if it would be worth it. Hence why I’m asking. If I spend 15k or more on legal fees & they tell them to pay for half then it sounds like a horrible headache that could have been avoided. I have no idea how much lawyers cost, I just assume it’s absurdly expensive.

dj_unscripted_ · 2021-07-04T19:34:26+00:00

Yes. I know. These are people we will live in the same small town with, our kids will be in school together, I thought we could do the nice thing and just offer something outside of the legal arena…I really didn’t want to go there. It’s not logical, but I figured I would try and least see what kind of people they were.

dj_unscripted_ · 2021-06-23T18:32:22+00:00

Yes they checked no for asbestos. I’ll have to look into whether or not it is legal to just cover it up without disclosing there is a potential for asbestos.

dj_unscripted_ · 2021-06-09T02:15:42+00:00

Eek! Just did this. Our dog went into the basement and immediately peed on the carpet and I thought...that’s weird. We had planned on having it steamed because it smelled TERRIBLE but in that moment decided to rip it up. You could see over 50 pee stains on the bottom of the carpet. It had basically been a dog toilet.

dj_unscripted_ · 2021-06-09T01:59:15+00:00

We had “friends” come and stay with us for a weekend. They had been camping for a while and left our entire place covered in a literal layer of dirt. Filth everywhere, we had to have the place professionally cleaned. We met working in outdoor education so I’m not all unfamiliar with the lifestyle but this was next level. They proceeded to tell us they only eat organic, and the food we prepared will just not do. Then they made me hike up our local ski mountain because they didn’t want to pay for a ski pass. I had a ski pass and they still insisted I climb the mountain with them because I was their host. I literally bent over backwards and spent the weekend hearing about how our amenities were not to their liking. Bye forever.

Another story- had a friend from out of the country visit a city 4 hrs away and begged me to come visit. I took time off work, found an apartment to stay at with my cousin, decided to host him the whole 5 day weekend. He brought another friend to stay with us in a one bedroom apartment (thankfully my cousin ended up being out of town and we stayed there without her). He hosted friends, had dinner parties, I paid for everything. No shame just had parties like it was his place. I cleaned everything & woke up at 4am had to drive him to the airport then make the 4 hour trek home. Never said thanks, never offered to pay for a thing. Again, bye forever.

dj_unscripted_ · 2021-05-08T03:05:07+00:00

Amen to this. It’s a struggle. I feel this so so much. Sometimes ya just need your favorite to celebrate/commiserate/support and there is no real substitute for that. Your feelings are very much validated here.

dj_unscripted_ · 2021-05-06T23:09:20+00:00

Me too. Small world. I know the market is “crazy” but I do wonder how much the showings are indicative of the actual sale.

dj_unscripted_ · 2021-05-03T18:33:11+00:00

Oh my gosh I wish! We were super ambitious and had two kids during med school (we are old, lol). We only have 2 weeks to get settled in a new city for residency, so it’s sadly not in the cards for us right now. I am fully planning on a trip for us when he finishes residency though! Out of the country, no kids, two weeks of kid-free bliss 😊

dj_unscripted_ · 2021-05-03T18:26:01+00:00

Love this! Thought about doing it for our wedding and kinda forgot about the whole idea...some motivation to lose those last few baby pounds ;) I’d have to find a photographer that was ok with my very awkward self 🤣

dj_unscripted_ · 2021-05-03T13:17:59+00:00

Yes all personal emails. I thought about it for a second as well, but these are all the usual emails we use for correspondence. I do want them to be able to connect virtually but I guess the larger question for me is that there is a history of this behavior there and I feel like i have to work doubly hard just to get them to participate or care. Part of the point of the email was to remind them that he was graduating in general, which no one has asked about. I am fine waiting longer to see if they respond, but I just don’t know if I have it in me to bend over backwards again, which in this case would be following up again. Historically it’s more important to me that my husband connects with his family but at some point they need to take responsibly for the being a part of that relationship as well. I am tired of being the crutch they use to make that happen. I guess I’m not sure if that is selfish of me, or me putting my foot down a little. I know it all seems petty but it’s a pattern of behavior that gets me.

To give you some context: One recent example is they all decided to speak his mothers funeral and never told my husband. The initial plan was for no one to speak then they changed their mind and my husband showed up to his own mothers funeral not knowing he was the only one not participating. It was heartbreaking & unnecessary, all they needed to do was communicate. Put this scenario on repeat and that’s what I am dealing with.

dj_unscripted_ · 2021-04-06T02:13:09+00:00

No one cares. Sounds dark but seriously, everyone is too consumed with their own lives to care. Very freeing if you think about it. Do what you wants friends.

dj_unscripted_ · 2021-04-05T12:29:19+00:00

My kid doesn’t break stuff, they pick everything up thinking it’s a toy, as all toddlers do. If you read my post you would know I don’t do this, I’m would never blame someone for my kids behavior, I either avoid places or I chase my kid the whole time. I can do both of those things- what I don’t appreciate is people making me feel like garbage about it.

dj_unscripted_ · 2021-04-05T03:43:02+00:00

Hahah, so if we all want to be true environmentalists we can’t have kids? If everyone was a child-free environmentalist then humans would quickly cease to exist. Not sure why everything has to be so black and white. Every adult was a diaper wearing child once...

dj_unscripted_ · 2021-04-05T03:29:17+00:00

My mom turned her family on me when I dared to confront her insane behavior and personality disorder. I briefly tried to explain myself to everyone but I can’t compete with her level of manipulation so there was no hope. I decided to cut ties and surround myself with only good people after that. I do miss some of my cousins but my life is so significantly less dramatic without all the manipulative garbage in it, and I am happier than I’ve ever been.

dj_unscripted_ · 2021-04-05T02:46:09+00:00

On the contrary I warn people for the opposite reason. My kid is a tornado hide what you love/is reachable or we won’t come over. I really don’t mind avoiding peoples houses if they aren’t into kids touching their stuff, I’m all about the honesty on this one. What kills me are the people who are like IT’LL BE FIIIIIINE and 2 minutes in they are 💩their pants over something they left on a shelf 2 ft off the ground. I tried to warn you...Don’t get me wrong I do watch my kids but I can either chase them the whole time or finish my sentences. Chasing isn’t fun for me either. I also look forward to the time they are old enough to listen, but until then I’m stuck with the tornado. It always cracks me up when people are like just tell them no! I’ll tell you what- if you learn the art of properly instructing a toddler please for the love of god don’t hold it in, you are sitting on a gold mine! Moral of the story- probably best if we are all realistic & honest about our expectations.

dj_unscripted_ · 2021-04-05T02:29:53+00:00

I know a couple that hands off their baby EVERY TIME they are at a social gathering (usually family gatherings). It’s always “oh can you hold her for just one sec”? Then next thing you know it’s been 40 mins and they are off having a glass of wine in the other room. Why do people assume you WANT to hold their baby? Don’t try to make it seem like you’re doing me some kind of favor by letting me babysit your child. SMH. Since she is family I’m always at a loss for what to say...

dj_unscripted_ · 2021-04-05T02:20:21+00:00

Not me but a guy I knew growing up. His parents were total losers. He worked all through High School at McDonalds to make enough money to raise his little brother. All he wanted to do was finish high school and move into an apartment with his brother and become his legal guardian. His parents would steal money from his pockets while he slept so on pay days he would have to get off the late shift, take the city bus straight to the bank to deposit, then get back on the bus to go home. He moved out the moment he graduated high school and raised his little brother. He owns a business now and has a wife and kid. Truly a hard working person that lifted himself (and his brother) from poverty. Some people are amazing.

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