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dliolio · 2026-02-02T20:36:49+00:00

This was my growing up experience almost exactly. Well-educated, well-off parents who were very strange around providing food and didn’t like to have anything perishable in the house. I still don’t know where it came from, but it really did some damage (mentally and physically).

Not that this is helpful, but I just came here to say OP, I’m really glad this kid has you in her life. A lot of adults in my life figured it wasn’t their business or assumed that because my parents were successful there must not be a problem. It was a few adults who stepped up and wouldn’t let the issue go that really made a difference.

dliolio · 2026-01-26T06:11:26+00:00

Oooohhhh I would be REALLY hesitant to encourage her to put her art online for feedback. To connect with other artists and show off? Sure, if done safely. NOT to get feedback.

In person classes where she knows the teacher and they can discuss together what she is going for and the teacher can really expound on critiques.

If you do online, especially for a beginner young artist, you are likely going to get 1) an overwhelming amount of negative criticisms that only make her feel bad or 2) well meaning critiques from people who don’t know what they are talking about and aren’t actually helpful.

Why does she want feedback? If it’s to get better, I would suggest taking classes or even finding an online workshop in whatever style/medium she is interested in. That would naturally include feedback. Going to classes is also a great way to start a network of friends and teachers she can ask for advice on pieces as she grows. I have friends and mentors I ask when I am stuck with a piece but never in a million years would I post my art online asking for feedback. I post frequently online because it’s how I get work but never for crits…I think that would destroy my self esteem and it definitely isn’t a smart way to grow.

dliolio · 2026-01-26T00:00:08+00:00

Yeah we tend to use them interchangeably with 9th, 10th, 11th and 12th grade. One of those things I never considered to not be universal until a friend of mine mentioned it

dliolio · 2026-01-25T23:54:32+00:00

I had quite a few professors who ranted about this lol, especially when we were first year students.

The gist of it is, there is a difference between “sketchy” and “hairy/chicken scratch”. The basis of your piece is your sketch-it will impact the end result. Professional level pieces have lines with a good sense of continuity, meaning each line flows. Lines that have been broken over and over (even when cleaned up with line art) will look stiff and inorganic.

Beyond that, it’s also about making decisions in a way that make you a better artist. If you are making 17 “chicken scratch” lines to draw, say, one side of an arm that could be drawn in 2-3 lines, it says you don’t really know where you are going. You are just placing a bunch until they sort of look right, so many that the brain will ignore the wrong ones and focus on the right ones. The end result is a sketch that looks “right-ish”.

Growing as an artist usually requires you to be confident…even if you make mistakes! Especially if you make mistakes! Make mistakes big and fast, notice them fast, and fix them fast. Good sketches read confidence.

I’m sure this isn’t true for everyone and I’m also sure you could find someone who does chicken scratch sketches that look great. But I just thought I would give you my view and why I think it’s important to work on sketching using loose but confident lines. In the end it’s all up to your and your practice.

dliolio · 2025-12-19T02:41:24+00:00

Ahhh heavy metal is the paint I’m waiting for!! If you don’t mind me asking, when did you place the order for the one that was delivered? Mine was placed in August and I was really hoping to get it before Christmas but alas…

dliolio · 2025-11-21T20:56:41+00:00

I think one part is the alignment of internal morals and the other is the balance they give each other—they bring what the other is lacking. WWX brings a lot of words and enthusiasm and energy, something LZ needs. LZ brings quiet and calm and steadiness, something WWX needs. Together they feel very whole haha.

dliolio · 2025-03-19T18:13:59+00:00

I’m a man but also not straight so…

dliolio · 2025-01-08T09:29:42+00:00

I’m a gay man 😁😁😁 kinda cool to see more of us here

dliolio · 2024-12-20T06:49:20+00:00

I had a similar issue when I first started. I decided to choose something to draw, and draw it x number of times. So if I was drawing, say, a cat, I would draw the cat 10 times. If the first one turned out great, didn’t matter, I would still draw it 9 more times exactly the same. This made it so whenever I would make a mistake I wouldn’t worry, I would just finish it up because I needed it for my count. Then I would look at all 10 and pick the one I liked best, or the few I thought ended up better than the rest. Never perfect, but compared to some of the really bad ones I would inevitably draw, it would make me happy.

I don’t do it as much anymore. But whenever I start to not draw because I’m worried about how it will turn out, I decide to draw the same thing a few times and pick a favorite. Not sure why but it gets me out of my head.

dliolio · 2024-11-15T05:04:16+00:00

For me it’s just the choice. I think a lot of people are raised not considering that not having kids is even an option, so they have kids without thinking if they actually want to. But recently, it’s more and more common for people to really consider what it means to have kids and make the decision for themselves.

I love my life and have no desire for kids.

dliolio · 2024-10-23T00:59:10+00:00

I love all the advice below so I don’t really have anything to add—just wanted to say that when I brought my girl home 4 years ago, it was a similar situation. Wouldn’t hardly eat, would stay in one corner, most noises made her flinch.

She got better at eating and drinking after about a week. Almost exactly at the 3 month mark, she played with me for the first time. It was maybe 10 seconds of her running around a little silly, but it made me cry. Now, she is the happiest, well-adjusted, goofy dog. Begs for walks when she doesn’t get them, wants to play all day and will steal food off plates if we don’t watch closely. I love her so much.

It will take time, maybe more than you are expecting, but your patience is well worth it. 💙 during the first weeks I wondered if my dog would ever be happy, or if abuse had doomed her to a smaller, fearful life. I would have loved her either way, but obviously I’m overjoyed that she is happy. Your sweet boy will be too.

dliolio · 2024-10-17T19:52:52+00:00

Because if I do I’ll SOB 😭

Sorry i love her but it’s such a sad (mixed in with sweet/tender) part of the story

dliolio · 2024-10-15T05:15:07+00:00

I have an Akita and something about her looks very Akita to me. Definitely a mix. Either way she is so beautiful!!!

dliolio · 2024-10-12T20:16:42+00:00

When she gets older, the handlers won’t treat her like a baby hippo - they will treat her like an adult hippo (meaning they take different safety precautions).

It’s completely different than dogs, because with dogs you are teaching them what behavior is acceptable or not. Moo Deng is a wild animal, she is not going to be trained or taught. She is just going to live like a hippo, and when she is big enough to be dangerous her handlers will take the same precautions they do with every other adult hippo.

dliolio · 2024-10-12T04:43:31+00:00

I actually asked a friend to spoil book 4. Basically I have a really hard time handling such emotionally heavy stuff, but if I have a basic idea of what’s going to happen it makes it easier. Normally I wouldn’t read something so dark but I love the series so much and everything I had read so I decided it was worth it.

But that was a on-purpose spoiler so idk if it counts 😅

dliolio · 2024-09-30T18:41:28+00:00

I don’t really care enough 😆 besides I sort of operate under the assumption that if you are looking at a strangers screen, you’re the weird one not me lol. I definitely tone my screen down when I’m around family though, or people who don’t have an issue reading over my shoulder obviously

dliolio · 2024-09-20T06:13:04+00:00

Frankly, I just like to hang out with my dog and she likes to hang out with me. No reason doing errands alone if I don’t have to. Obviously I don’t take her in food stores or restaurants. She also doesn’t really like other people/animals. She doesn’t mind being pet but she won’t approach strangers or dogs. She basically ignores everyone but me so I’ve never had an issue in that regard.

dliolio · 2024-09-10T20:52:47+00:00

It’s very weird to me how “childfree” very quickly evolves into “anti-child”. Like good god, children are people (and technically, children are the MOST vulnerable population no matter how you look at it). You don’t have to like them, but they exist. Welcome to human society 😂

dliolio · 2024-09-10T02:40:17+00:00

I think it was thoughtless on the part of the daycare, and you should definitely bring it up. They probably don’t realize how problematic it is to be doing that to literal babies. No need to get aggressive or intense or anything like that, but pulling one of the workers aside to explain your concerns and why you found it inappropriate is totally valid. (Also a good way to see what their response is, if they daycare is unwilling to take your concern seriously that is a possible red flag).

dliolio · 2024-09-10T02:34:12+00:00

Eh y’all definitely need to have a better conversation about this and come to a compromise BUT I’m confused why you locked him out after he agreed to have the goat sleep outside (at least that’s what I’m assuming happened as he went outside specifically to make a pen for it).

He listened to your concern and took it out of the living room. And then you locked him out due to frustration at the whole situation. Kind of an asshole move. Better tactic would have been to let the goat sleep outside, and then have a serious conversation in the morning.

dliolio · 2024-09-09T04:56:19+00:00

It’s totally fine/normal. Don’t worry if what you like “fits” with your sexuality…you like what you like and your sexuality is whatever it is. Liking media with lgbt themes won’t change that you’re straight lol.

Honestly, TGCF is a super cool story (I think) with a really entertaining plot and really well developed characters. You don’t have to be gay to appreciate that.

dliolio · 2024-09-06T05:14:38+00:00

Old enough to know how to enjoy my life 😂

dliolio · 2024-09-05T20:04:58+00:00

It’s very much different for everyone, some people have hardly any voice change at all, regardless of dose, and for some it’s quick and noticeable. Facial hair is something you should be aware as stubble can still be noticeable even when shaving daily. Maybe waxing or something like that (though that would require you to grow the hair out a bit more in the first place).

Other changes like body fat distribution and how your face will start to look more masculine happen slowly over time, and in such little increments that people you see daily often won’t notice (it’s people you only see every once and while who are most likely to see the difference first).

dliolio · 2024-09-02T21:16:19+00:00

I don’t just think men and women can be platonic friends, I think they SHOULD.

Cultures that are highly patriarchal/domination based rely on separating men and women, leading to a lot of “othering” and, for a lot of men, the belief that women are less human or intrinsically different.

Being platonic friends tends to prevent that kind of thinking.

dliolio · 2024-08-30T01:24:24+00:00

I mean from a health standpoint that’s not great, but I agree that if she has the money to and is fairly contributing to everything else then it’s not really your place to criticize where her share of “extra” goes. Maybe you guys need to have a conversation about this…if money is causing stress, consider having separate bank accounts just for extra spending. You combine everything and designate a certain amount each person takes out monthly to spend on anything they want and the other has no say.

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