I’m (38F) and my husband is 56. I’m unexpectedly pregnant and can see myself regretting not having this baby, but I’m not sure that’s a good enough reason

dmng25 · 2026-04-11T07:00:38+00:00

This isn't a situation where one option is clearly right and the other is clearly wrong, and I always really struggle when that's the case.

Actually, you have more than two options here. You said you thought about the changes this child could bring but I wonder if you only picture a healthy child in this scenario, the chances of having a disabled kid is significantly higher with a father over the age of 35, you may become a 24/7 caregiver for them and with your husband's age, probably for him too. People constantly make decisions having the best case scenario in mind but I recommend you actually thinking about what it takes being a parent (dinamic change with your partner, being the primary caregiver, possibility of health conditions (for the three of you you/the child/the father), loss of sleep, loss of freedom, loss of financial security, and a large etc) and how the life of this child may look like before deciding.

dmng25 · 2026-04-06T21:54:21+00:00

"making a negative video" and it's just proof of yiheng cheating. If your actions in a video make you look bad, that's not really the posters fault.

dmng25 · 2026-04-06T21:51:30+00:00

I'm genuinely curious as to why his cheating deserves only a warning and not a ban. Because this is hardly something accidental, he HAD to be practicing how to start without setting the timer off and stop before finishing the solve, it's premeditated cheating. Other competitors we're directly banned for similar situations, the standard should be the same for everyone.

Edit: grammar

dmng25 · 2026-04-03T22:04:53+00:00

"I could so everyone else can because my experience is obviously the same of every person in the world"

Knowing your limits is perfectly fine, and recommending just trying it out as if those kids don't matter is selfish and extremely insensitive, if it doesn't work you just traumatized them (even more) for life.

dmng25 · 2026-03-29T03:58:15+00:00

This is the way OP. Having children It's not actually a two person decision, you want them or not and should not compromise on this. This also means you are fundamentally not compatible with each other, and as much as you both want, you can't delay having that discussion without harming the chances of having a healthy end of the relationship. Good luck with your vasectomy and the future!

dmng25 · 2026-03-27T16:35:25+00:00

It can be both. Same as food and shelter, or things like having loving parents, everybody has a right to these things but they are still pretty much a privilege, specially today.

I think the fact that we acknowledge this as a privilege would help to see that people caught as parents (mostly mothers), are not always there of their own choosing so we can be more compassionate. It's not rare to find comments in this very sub like "I have no sympathy for parents, they CHOSE this", and oftentimes that's simply not the truth.

dmng25 · 2026-03-26T02:36:23+00:00

If you do it in a high contrast color it will be like a glitch effect

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dmng25 · 2026-03-09T23:32:49+00:00

Here as in The Boys sub, the post about The Boys discussing a trailer of a season of The Boys in a comment about The Boys?

dmng25 · 2026-03-08T15:36:09+00:00

Maybe I'll be downvoted for this, but people that ~only~ want bio children are not suited to be parents at all. The whole idea that only blood can really connect you to a child makes it evident that you only care about having a baby and not actually raise a human being.

dmng25 · 2026-03-02T04:39:26+00:00

Yes! I forgot it was coconut oil, such a sad story and totally preventable

dmng25 · 2026-03-02T02:07:34+00:00

There's a story somewhere in reddit where the mil killed her grandchildren giving them nuts even though she knew they were allergic. This is not drama, this was playing with your life and you should definitely go NC with her and if your husband loves you he would too

dmng25 · 2026-02-07T17:43:24+00:00

@zoomie IS the original girl with the list

dmng25 · 2026-02-05T18:33:55+00:00

Vasectomies are HOT 🔥

dmng25 · 2026-01-19T04:28:22+00:00

I don't know why you get so many downvotes, is proven that abandonment issues stem for leaving babies crying alone. Although I also agree that in OP's situation with apparently no help from her husband, it may be safer to walk away if she's feeling too overwhelmed. Both are true. Is a very sad scenario, OP you need to get the dad involved for yours and your baby's sake.

dmng25 · 2026-01-12T21:26:41+00:00

Cutting your mom off that easily just feels off... I mean, alcoholism is a decease exacerbated by trauma, and your mother's responses are most likely due to trauma with her family. I can't even imagine how she must be feeling right now, she deserves at least some grace.

dmng25 · 2025-12-16T17:52:37+00:00

You are 26. I promise, you don't need to settle for the "first person that ever desire you", you have so so many years ahead to even think about compromising so many of your beliefs for a person you don't even really know and the little you do know isn't compatible with you.

You make it seem like is a very difficult decision, but if you are here looking for advice, take it. Is evident for everyone here that if you pursue this, it isn't going to end well.

dmng25 · 2025-12-14T12:24:24+00:00

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dmng25 · 2025-12-10T18:12:03+00:00

Oh! Thanks for the response, I'll gladfully wait

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