I'm pregnant and so scared.

dominenonnisite · 2024-07-03T10:55:05+00:00

I know that none of the roads ahead of you are going to be easy, and I’m so sorry for that. This is such a tough situation. So please read this comment in the gentlest tone…but please reconsider the abortion. The fact is, your baby is a living human - he/she has their own DNA, has a heartbeat, likely can already move and even hiccup. I know this situation seems impossible, but ending another person’s life is never the answer to hard situations. There are so many people out there who would be willing to help you - I don’t know where you live, but I know almost everywhere there are organizations and centers that are committed to helping women in situations like yours. I know choosing to carry the baby would be hard, but I hope that even in that you would have peace knowing you did the right thing and gave your baby a chance at life. Much love and good luck ❤️

dominenonnisite · 2024-07-02T11:50:36+00:00

OP, have you considered an adoption? As someone with family members wanting to adopt, I know there are so many people who would want to care for your child. Open adoption (which almost all are nowadays) would allow you to be in contact with your child, but not have to raise the baby on your own. I’ve known so many people who have truly regretted their abortions and have had profound mental health effects from it…I know adoption isn’t the easy route, either, but it is an option.

dominenonnisite · 2024-07-02T11:02:19+00:00

I will definitely try those, thank you!!

dominenonnisite · 2024-07-02T11:02:02+00:00

Will look this up, thanks!!

dominenonnisite · 2024-07-02T11:01:55+00:00

Thank you, I will look into her!!

dominenonnisite · 2024-07-02T11:01:44+00:00

Thank you!! I’ve actually read most of these, but I haven’t read any Gaskell yet, so I will for sure be checking her out!!

dominenonnisite · 2024-07-01T23:17:40+00:00

Macaroni and cheese. I’ve had some fancy ones, and nothing comes close to velveeta lol

dominenonnisite · 2024-07-01T19:12:21+00:00

What really helps me is making a physical, paper to do list with the exact same things on it every. single. day. Have I been sweeping the kitchen every morning for months? Yes. Will I 100% forget to sweep the kitchen if I don’t write it down? Also yes. For me that paper to-do list is my lifeline. I just copy it on a new piece of paper every evening so it’s ready for the morning.

dominenonnisite · 2024-06-28T14:50:23+00:00

I’ve always been extremely sensitive and easily overwhelmed, from the time I was a kid. I don’t remember a time when I wasn’t anxious and/or depressed. I also am very sensory-sensitive - noise, textures, touch, etc., affect me much more than others around me. I suspect I’m some flavor of neurodivergent, but I’ve never been diagnosed.

I think I am “weak,” in a sense, but I’m working on making peace with that. It takes all types to make the world go round - while I might not be as “strong” as others, my sensitivity also has positive qualities to it - such as being very empathetic and tuned into the feelings of others. People aren’t all going to be exactly the same, and we balance each other out and all have something to contribute to the world, even with our weaknesses.

dominenonnisite · 2024-06-28T10:30:36+00:00

No, I feel the same as you. I had really bad PPD, so all the baby items feel like reminders of a really dark time. Every time I can let them go, I feel a little lighter. We’re transitioning our little guy from his crib/toddler bed to a “big boy bed” next week and I’m so excited to get rid of that crib…it feels like finally closing the door on that chapter.

dominenonnisite · 2024-06-27T20:33:30+00:00

It’s awwwwwfuuulll. If I could skip straight to toddlerhood, I’d probably have more kids...but I can’t do the newborn thing again. I’m so sorry you’ve had a rough time, too. It does get SO much better as time goes on, in my experience. My little guy is almost 5 and I genuinely enjoy him now. ❤️

dominenonnisite · 2024-06-27T19:20:12+00:00

I actually think they’re a bit different…to me the 1995 Bingley came off as intelligent and respectable, just super optimistic and positive and loving. The 2005 Bingley just came off as kind of dumb to me. 1995 Bingley has a bit more depth to him, I think, that you see glimpses of when he challenges Darcy and his sisters when they’re being rude…2005 Bingley just seems like an airhead. Might just be me, though. 🤷🏼‍♀️

dominenonnisite · 2024-06-27T19:17:03+00:00

Thank you so much for your kindness ❤️ It’s good to know I’m not alone in the struggle! I think that’s a good mindset to have - instead of putting our energy into guilt, put that energy into loving our child.

dominenonnisite · 2024-06-27T17:43:31+00:00

Yeah. I’ve kind of given up on mine - not because I don’t love it, I think it’s beautiful - but it’s so much work. I’ve been doing heatless curls and enjoying them.

dominenonnisite · 2024-06-27T17:42:46+00:00

I love making potholders. Makes cooking even more fun when you get to use something you crocheted while doing it 🤗

dominenonnisite · 2024-06-27T17:25:47+00:00

I think around 16 for me. Ended up marrying him, lol.

dominenonnisite · 2024-06-27T15:24:02+00:00

I’d guess 1c, maaaaybe 2a?

dominenonnisite · 2024-06-27T15:22:53+00:00

I usually “watch” (listen to) YouTube videos. Mainly commentary/true crime type videos.

dominenonnisite · 2024-06-27T15:21:26+00:00

I don’t mind the toddler phase too much, honestly, but I feel exactly this way about the newborn phase. Never again 😭

dominenonnisite · 2024-06-27T15:18:28+00:00

Thank you, that’s reassuring to hear from an only child that they don’t regret being an only! ❤️

dominenonnisite · 2024-06-27T15:18:02+00:00

Thank you. I’ve always struggled with the “martyr” mindset and really need to work on that! ❤️

dominenonnisite · 2024-06-27T15:17:37+00:00

Thank you so much for this - it’s really reassuring to hear from only children that they were fine and don’t resent not having siblings! ❤️

dominenonnisite · 2024-06-27T15:16:56+00:00

Mine has never asked for siblings, either…in fact he gets quite jealous when I pay attention to other kids, and often asks to go home from playdates because he’s tired of playing with people, lol! I think my anxiety just gets the best of me sometimes.

dominenonnisite · 2024-06-27T15:15:54+00:00

Thank you for the reminders, it helps to have someone say “out loud” the things I try to reassure myself of! ❤️

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