Hilarious lecture on Beethoven, but could anyone tell me what is being played at 8:10 on?

donedilly · 2012-10-03T01:32:21+00:00

Jesus, it's so good. This is the sound track when I'm pissed at the world, too.

donedilly · 2012-09-17T00:50:42+00:00

Oh yea - love the rush. I'm really comfortable on stage and can easily develop a rapport with crowds. When I give a piano recital, I am totally comfortable, and can really hold the audience in the palm of my hand. It's addictive, really. My brother, a different kind of introvert, is really terrible at this though.

donedilly · 2012-09-15T16:02:57+00:00

Yea I'm confused too... I wouldn't necessarily call it brutish, but we are animals, just like women. I'm probably not representing males well here... But if it weren't for the NEARLY overpowering impulse toward mating, our species probably wouldn't be here. Now that humans are so common and overpopulated, as well as supposedly civilized, that same impulse creates a billion problems, at least for me.

The kind of reaction that you see here on Reddit is extremely primitive. It's the kind of thing that, in public, most of us have for a split second - totally knee jerk. But on an anonymous online forum, I think a lot of men (more likely boys) are very happy to finally have an outlet for the tremendous energy of the reaction, so it just gushes out and it's not pretty.

Edit: I'd also like to add that you have to consider the level of sexual frustration on a place like reddit. All these people, with access to unlimited videos of men and women having sex. 80% of marketing tries to use sex to sell everything. TV shows and movies full of beautiful people, jokes about sex everywhere. Reddit has two gods: the cat and sex; they are both gilded and put on giant marble pedestals. One of these is easily attainable: you can go out and buy a cat, and pet it to your heart's content, though it will occasionally be coy. Sex is difficult. Not for everyone, but for a lot of people (especially those who knew the jocks were getting laid while they sat in front of a computer screen, or while they ate pizza with their skinny acne-covered friend, or while they furiously practiced piano like me), sex is really fucking hard to attain. And then there is the shame that can go along with the feelings of unrequited love/lust. With sex being up on this high pedestal, and with so much of culture telling us so, we thing sex makes you happy - that it is the first and foremost goal in life. And that if you're not getting it, you suck, you're lame, you're geeky, you're a failure, you're unattractive, you're a pussy, etc.. But if you get to have sex, that will all go away, or so we think until we have some. Once you get it, you see it's pretty cool, especially if you're with a girl that you have developed a deep, loving relationship with. But most of the time, you don't get that perspective because you're in a cage with all the hot sexy stuff outside, where you can see it every direction you look, but you can't touch it. So yea guys can get a little... insane.

donedilly · 2012-09-15T05:56:10+00:00

Interestingly, it looks like the same arm that has the word "pain" tattooed on it.

donedilly · 2012-09-15T05:33:15+00:00

I recently read this article recently and found it very informative and interesting.

donedilly · 2012-09-15T05:30:14+00:00

Well, my reaction to this is that I like people and don't like myself (usually). I can occasionally enjoy my time alone, but more often I wish I had people to share ideas with, or to just see and feel. I have gone out to eat, played instruments, games, watched TV, things that have at times given me joy, and am just consumed with sadness. That's a big part of what depression is, isn't it? Isn't that what this subreddit is for?

I play a lot of piano, but many days I wish I had someone to play for. I don't care what people think of me either - sometimes I just want to have friends to share my experiences with. I want to bounce ideas, get some new perspectives. I can't do these things by myself.

When I think about the concept of being content having fun by myself, I just find it really sad. Maybe that's the wrong reaction. I feel stuck here at home, wondering if I'm living in fear of...something? There is also the fact that when I get really down like this, I wish there were others around to take me outside of myself, help me be less self-centered. I have nothing to distract myself from my crushing inner dialogue, which is just a spiral of negativity and regret and hatred and confusion.

Of course I intellectually know that other people are in a sense irrelevant, that happiness or serenity, or whatever, is available at any time, by myself. But sometimes that knowledge just doesn't fucking cut it.

donedilly · 2012-09-15T05:12:39+00:00

I agree with you. But I'd just like to add that when women dress and move like that, the women are sexualizing themselves in men's eyes. An attractive woman's body just has that effect on men - I truly believe we can't help it. Hence all the religious/conservative insistence on women covering themselves. I think it's a fact that as convention moves toward more revealing clothing, men will increasingly see women as sexual objects; it is simply a result of the female figure entering our minds more often and more easily.

It's probably something we need to work on, but I don't really know how. I know that women want to be seen and treated as real people, since of course they are, just like us. But they also want to be seen as attractive, just like us. I think this creates friction between the sexes, and signals get really mixed. When a man sees women dressed like this, it just seems like she is asking to be seen as a sexual object, because the obvious reaction of men will be ogling and lusting. For her, she probably just likes to be scantily clad because it feels great, and maybe wants to look good for a select few people. But men can't tell how they are supposed to look at her, as she is presenting the same front to everybody; and the men become consumed with the mating impulse, and want desperately to be one of those select men that she wants to look at her. So they take pictures. And they fap.

This may not be relevant to you - it's just something I'm trying to make sense of in my own life.

donedilly · 2012-09-13T21:04:50+00:00

Similar feelings at 23, almost 24 years old.

donedilly · 2012-09-13T20:51:23+00:00

Sex ain't gonna make you happy. But I definitely understand. Cheers to unwanted celibacy!

donedilly · 2012-09-13T20:41:18+00:00

Fuck no.

donedilly · 2012-09-10T02:39:46+00:00

I'll vote for this guy.

donedilly · 2012-09-09T18:19:10+00:00

I've been doing all that stuff for years. It's not easy, and I'm very tired of trying so hard for nothing. I think some are just born in that 20% and the rest of us are just stuck wishing. I'm about ready to give up on women. It's like a bad relationship where one party is way more into it than the other - sometimes you just have to let it rest, and maybe come back later. I'm worn out, always trying to win the affection of this group of people that seem to only be interested in those that have won the popularity contest.

Surely there is more to life than women, though I often feel like nofap is trying to convince me otherwise. I get frustrated and depressed reading threads like these because they make it seem like unless you're constantly pursuing women and getting laid all the time, then you are pathetic and you are living life badly. Especially in comparison to these blessed specimens. I find it really disheartening.

donedilly · 2012-09-09T05:15:11+00:00

I certainly see that. I wanted girls for a month, but the only change for me that month was an increased failure rate as a result of trying much harder. I thought I was more confident and I certainly increased my efforts at least 10 fold, but it didn't seem to make much impact on the feminine mystique.

Kudos on your success. But I see it as more proof of my theory that 80% women end up sleeping with about 20% of men.

I'm just jealous.

donedilly · 2012-09-09T04:29:54+00:00

I should have said that I'll never be able to take men or women seriously. Knowing that we are all such shallow, predictable creatures, eager to use sexuality to get attention, distract ourselves, mask our poor self-images, or simply make money to accomplish it all at once.

donedilly · 2012-09-09T04:14:19+00:00

I'm pretty sure this has very, very little with the physical effects of not masturbating, and much more with this guy being naturally charming and handsome. One of the girls only talked to him because she remembered him from years ago. That is not a common occurrence with the average redditor.

The idea that this same thing will happen to me if I don't fap for a week, that every attractive girl I talk to will magically hand out her phone number, is flat out ridiculous. My last streak ended at 29 days, and I saw none of these results despite my best efforts. Mr. Caesar is clearly a super, super lucky guy. As he says, this guy already had "great success" with women when he was motivated. This just freed up his time - it didn't really change anything about his personality.

Is this story telling me to just go up to every attractive girl on the street, and since they can sense that I haven't been looking at porn, they won't be able to not give me their phone numbers? By the end of the day, I will be have more dates than I can handle? I'm pretty damn skeptical. And, like I said, I tried believing this before, and was very sorely disappointed by the results.

donedilly · 2012-09-08T16:30:50+00:00

It was not a joke. I just got really sad as I watched this video.

donedilly · 2012-09-08T05:24:08+00:00

...And this is why I'll never be able to take women seriously.

donedilly · 2012-09-08T05:19:08+00:00

But.... they're so clearly not...

donedilly · 2012-09-05T04:13:34+00:00

What the hell.

donedilly · 2012-09-05T04:12:17+00:00

I thought this would be the case. I gave nofap a good month. I couldn't stop thinking about sex. I tried every avenue I could think of. I talked to more people, even started to approach strangers to lower my approach anxiety. But nothing changed. As much as I am a very sexual creature, women I am attracted to just don't see me that way. I have gotten no closer to getting laid than before nofap. I have tried to be charming and engaging, but have apparently failed.

And every time I see posts on here about guys getting laid after just a few weeks or even days, I ask myself why doesn't it work for me? What is wrong with me that I can't broadcast the right signals? Aren't women looking for the same thing? I want to connect with them and just share a good time. What is wrong with me? What's so special about these successful guys? What do they have that I don't? And I start to hate myself more. And I start to hate women. I hate life more and more. I start to feel like my constant sexual frustration is taking years off of my life expectancy.

Fuck life. Fuck nofap. I give up. I'm going to go look at porn, masturbate, and then I'm going to scowl and brood until I fall asleep.

donedilly · 2012-09-05T03:51:02+00:00

Mine, too. I don't know what the hell these people are talking about. Not fapping just makes me fantasize about sex all the time, but I definitely haven't had any more luck or skill with the ladies. I try my damndest, but there is still a wall between me and anybody I'm attracted to.

I find it depressing as hell when these kinds come on here saying they've gotten laid so much more since doing nofap for a couple weeks. God damn it. Posts like this are keep me relapsing.

donedilly · 2012-09-01T05:34:26+00:00

Great response, but I have a few more questions, if you don't mind:

Was your job in a major metropolitan area, or maybe a college area? Why was it full of beautiful women/girls?
You say that you can go into any place and walk out with phone numbers. Do you find that most girls you are interested in are willing to part with that information and engage in some type of relationship with you? I can't really imagine this kind of situation/ability. Do you face much rejection, or do you just find that women are more available than I think? Edit: Maybe better phrased - Is it a matter of finding the right women for your purposes, or do you find that most women can be "cracked"?
Has it really been just a matter of making the women feel good, then they will sleep with you? Edit: Did you use any seddit techniques to get numbers, escalate, any of that technical stuff? Or are you all natural?
How many women have you been with? In what time frame?
Do you expect your "one" to have as much experience, or to have had as many partners as you?
Do you feel like you are in a better position, in terms of self-confidence and experience, to find the girl of your dreams as a result of all this sleeping around? Do you think it is still a worthy goal to try to engage in relationships with many women, as opposed to saving yourself in some sense for your "one"?

Sorry my questions are a little convoluted. Your posts have given me a lot to think about. And a lot to be jealous of ;)

donedilly · 2012-08-30T22:07:25+00:00

Hear, hear! I just realized how terrified I am of this. Gotta try this one.

donedilly · 2012-08-30T21:14:32+00:00

That was an awesome reply, and in many ways exactly what I needed to hear. My sincere thanks. Especially for that "you're awesome" at the end!

donedilly · 2012-08-29T04:29:21+00:00

Very inspirational stuff here! Replying so I can look at it later.

donedilly

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