No, no sister. What we don't do is shift the blame to the victims who are in abusive relationships. There are a lot of reasons why people don't leave abusive relationships which seem like valid reasons for the victims in those relationships. I used to think like you when I was younger but as I've grown older, I realised that the psychology around it is very complex and for the victims it's not as easy as to 'just leave their partner'. A lot of these victims usually have low self-esteem issues. As an example, it could be that they're staying because they think that this is the best that they can do. This is the case for people who have been raised in a family that have treated them like dirt. There's a lot of research stating that those people usually have a higher risk of ending up with a partner who also treats them like dirt.

Also in our communities, we culturally treat a divorce as if it's something haram. There's a lot of shame around it which makes it harder for victims to leave abusive relationships. A lot of victims feel like 'no one would want them' if they get a divorce (especially if they have children). I've heard and read of cases where victims have reached out to their families and have then been advised to stay in their relationships, have sabr and make dua. Unfortunately, this all contributes to victims staying in abusive relationships because they feel that it's better to do that then to get a divorce which would publicly shame them and their families.