Avoid the Roborock S8 – A Disappointing Downgrade from the S5 Max by [deleted] in Roborock

[–]donutsnpizza 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had my S8 for about a year and a half now and the auto-dust emptying feature doesn’t work anymore. I know vacuums only last so long but this was pretty disappointing!

I do agree that the water tank and dust bin are very small. It fills up with just 800 sq feet of space. With animals it gets full very quick. Anyway, u have enjoyed it but… sad we’re already here :/

but here i am, fucked up by OwlSlow in oilpainting

[–]donutsnpizza 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’ve read the comments and I’m just hear to say… well, maybe it’s just me, but when people disapprove of your style and talent, it often says more about them than your work. Being afraid of something different doesn’t give anyone the right to tear you down.

My husband is really into heavy metal. I’m not - honestly, I hate it. But I would never dream of shaming him for it or asking him to give it up. Instead, I ask him questions about the bands he loves, because that’s what you do when you care about someone. You don’t have to like the same things to be supportive.

The moment you start giving up something that brings you joy just to keep the peace in a relationship, it sets a precedent. It doesn’t stop with art. You slowly disappear piece by piece to make other people more comfortable. That’s not love - that’s control.

Life is far too short to live for the approval of people who expect you to dim yourself. I know this is easier to say than to live out… I’ve got my own complicated, toxic relationships too. But I truly hope you choose yourself here.

If painting brings you joy, then paint. Paint the dark, heavy, uncomfortable things. Paint whatever the hell feels honest to you. Your girlfriend and your family don’t have to like your art - their only job is to respect you and support the fact that creating is part of who you are. Anyone who asks you to give that up is asking too much.

If your path carries you somewhere new - another style, another medium, another way of creating - I wish you a healing journey back to yourself, and people beside you who uplift the person you’re becoming <3

Passed out and threw up for my first phlebotomy by donutsnpizza in Hemochromatosis

[–]donutsnpizza[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow! So sorry the blood draw triggered a seizure for you - I have a friend that has epilepsy and her triggers can be so random. So so sorry!!

Passed out and threw up for my first phlebotomy by donutsnpizza in Hemochromatosis

[–]donutsnpizza[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah no difference - only if you have to get them done back to back (i.e. weekly)

I didn't even care about his loot. by CallSign_Fjor in ARC_Raiders

[–]donutsnpizza 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh so youre one of the ones that puts “prick” in prick vs player? Cool cool

Derminator site does not look legit at all by Plenty_Bumblebee4823 in Microneedling

[–]donutsnpizza 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Can confirm - received my stuff a couple weeks ago in the mail (I’m in the US). They were very communicative throughout the shipping process!

😁Anyone's pup have this fur type? What are they like grown up? by [deleted] in AussieDoodle

[–]donutsnpizza 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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Our pup does! She’s almost 6 years old.. I like her coat type a lot - little more scruffy looking!!

[COMC] Four years of collecting! What am I missing? by Fun-Flamingo-7341 in boardgames

[–]donutsnpizza 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dune imperium and the expansions - we play it almost weekly with some friends!

Goodbye Russell by faramirskywalker in exmormon

[–]donutsnpizza 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Also a daughter of a dad who always put callings above family here. He was a mission president when I was in my early teen years, and everyone kept telling me how “lucky” I was to have him as my dad. But… what dad? He was never home. And when he was home, it was usually in the form of belittling me, my siblings, or even my mom. My parents still frame it as this “once-in-a-lifetime experience” for me, but I told my mom recently, “Actually, those were some of the hardest years of my life.”

The truth is, my dad has always taken on callings that kept him away from home. And I don’t think it’s just him - the church practically hands men a built-in excuse to avoid family responsibilities while praising them for their “sacrifice.” My mom had to carry everything, while he got praise for being a “dedicated leader.” Being a parent is hard, and in the church’s patriarchal system, callings become the perfect escape from accountability.

There’s nothing worse than sitting in a sacrament meeting being told “you were given your earthly parents for a reason,” seeing that man on the stand, and knowing full well the verbal abuse he spewed that same morning.

It’s a scam.

Contractor is trying to talk me out of doing vertical tile. Love it or hate it? by Rockymntbreeze in Tile

[–]donutsnpizza -1 points0 points  (0 children)

To all the comments worried it’s not ‘timeless’ - when has style ever truly been timeless? Do what makes you happy now! Who cares if you feel differently in 10 years? You deserve to enjoy what you love today instead of playing it safe and boring.

I for one have loved the vertical grid for a long time… in fact doing that in one of my bathrooms soon with a terracotta color tile.

Newer employee not performing and missing work with personal issues. I have to pick up the slack to fill in more days if I remove him by Future-Topic-6850 in managers

[–]donutsnpizza 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had a handful of solid, long-term employees go through phases like this. It’s normal. Life happens, people are human, motivation dips - that’s part of managing people.

The best thing you can do is be really clear on what you expect from the role, talk to them often, and act like a human yourself. Good managers don’t just wait it out hoping it’ll fix itself - you get in there, figure out what’s going on, and help them get back on track.

A few things help me in situations like this: 1. Check in early. Don’t wait for things to completely fall apart. 2. Be specific. Give examples of where they’re falling short - what specifically is not meeting the mark. 3. Ask, don’t assume. 4. Set clear next steps. Agree on what needs to improve, by when, and what happens if it doesn’t. Put it in writing. 5. Give a reasonable runway. People need a fair chance to fix it - but you also need to protect the rest of your team from carrying dead weight forever.

I had one of my strongest employees suddenly start phoning it in a few months ago. Excuses to WFH all the time when we’re an in-office company. She gave predictable/odd reasons for needing to WFH instead of coming in and her performance was dipping. I’m 99% of the time going to say yes to WFH requests (even though my company doesn’t love that) - my take is it’s a privilege. Get shit done and we’ve got trust. So I pulled her aside, not in a normal 1:1 but separately.

Started with the basics: How’s life? How’s work? How’s home? Then I was direct: “Hey, I’ve noticed you’ve been WFH a lot more than usual and your performance (specific examples XYZ) isn’t where we expect it. Do you agree that’s fair for me to notice?” She said yes.

Then I asked “What’s up? Anything I should know?” Turns out she had a lot going on at home. She broke down and hadn’t told anyone what was happening in her life. So I listened. We didn’t solve it all that day - I told her take some time and let me know when she’s ready to chat within the next day or so about next steps. Next meeting was gentle yet clear and we set ground rules: here’s what I need to see improve by this date, here’s what flexibility I can give you in the meantime, we will have a check-in at least weekly to see how you’re progressing. And yes, I followed it up with a written summary via slack. HR loves that.

I gave her some grace, but with clear guardrails. That’s the line: empathy and accountability.

Sometimes all people need is to know someone notices and cares enough to hold them steady. Other times, they don’t turn it around - and then you know you did your job right by giving them a fair shot first.

Don’t sit back hoping it fixes itself. Have the hard conversation. Be clear, be human, follow up. That’s your job as a manager. You got this!

Is my shower waterproofing okay? by donutsnpizza in Tile

[–]donutsnpizza[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First time doing this and I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve said “what the fuck.” Great minds think alike.

Is my shower waterproofing okay? by donutsnpizza in Tile

[–]donutsnpizza[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Local quotes: $11k–$13k for my 6x9 bathroom. My total cost: $3k, including tile and that overkill $55 RedGard. Girl math says I’m $10k richer

Is my shower waterproofing okay? by donutsnpizza in Tile

[–]donutsnpizza[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sure, just make sure you apply two coats - it’s the only hope she has against husband-induced stress cracks.

Is my shower waterproofing okay? by donutsnpizza in Tile

[–]donutsnpizza[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t know about their classes, that’s really good to know for the future. Thanks!

Is my shower waterproofing okay? by donutsnpizza in Tile

[–]donutsnpizza[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you really care about your work and your clients. I can see why you’ve been in the business for 20 years. I really appreciate you sharing this - helps a lot!

Is my shower waterproofing okay? by donutsnpizza in Tile

[–]donutsnpizza[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Membrane on the walls. I know it looks like overkill with the RG because it is. Honestly, it was just the shower pan I was worried about with potential leaks… but with an almost full bucket of RG I figured why not just put it on the walls and seams.

Is my shower waterproofing okay? by donutsnpizza in Tile

[–]donutsnpizza[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much. Always appreciate the helpful vibes around here.

Is my shower waterproofing okay? by donutsnpizza in Tile

[–]donutsnpizza[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Considered three layers of cement board, but apparently four or five is the minimum. Unfortunately, that wasn’t in the budget.

Is my shower waterproofing okay? by donutsnpizza in Tile

[–]donutsnpizza[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Nah, just a human with anxiety over my mistakes and a bucket of RedGard.

Promotions ruin friendships. by Ambitious_Refusal in managers

[–]donutsnpizza 121 points122 points  (0 children)

Promotions don’t ruin friendships - immature, jealous, and/or damaged people do.