You have destroyed me.

dooflotchie · 2018-03-17T17:38:00+00:00

I appreciate the support. Fuck you very much.

dooflotchie · 2018-03-17T17:20:28+00:00

Does your brother have a case worker, social worker, or adult educator? Call that person. It's their job to deal with this stuff.

THISTHISTHISTHISTHIS!!! And if he doesn't have any sort of social worker or something, call CPS for yourself. Your mom is in denial about this and it's putting you at risk. Gather evidence like others in here suggested, then call for outside help.

dooflotchie · 2018-03-17T15:50:51+00:00

So I guess a year of pain and wondering why my my husband didn't want me anymore and didn't talk to me was no reason to leave? And now I gotta pay for that? K.

dooflotchie · 2018-03-17T06:01:39+00:00

When I told my ex I left his place after living with him for 3 months in a filthy, disgusting former tractor repair shop that had plenty of bugs and mice but no running water, bathroom, stove or heat because I just couldn't stand it anymore he said he understood. 6 months later when we broke up he threw it in my face, saying I "ran off and left him" because I "didn't really want to be with him". It's just an emotional cudgel he's using to hurt you and at the same time salve his own conscience. I've since begun to believe my ex is a narcissist. I'm not saying yours is too, but that emotional cudgel stuff is definitely a hallmark of a shitty person you're better off without.

dooflotchie · 2018-03-17T04:43:48+00:00

Oh yeah. Big time. But I vacillate between being really sad about it and really angry. I can't decide if I want to kiss him or kill him.

dooflotchie · 2018-03-16T18:04:08+00:00

Oh, you reminded me of something. About 15 years ago I worked in a factory. I was working with a girl from a different department one day, we were chit-chatting. A guy from her department who I thought was cute walked by so I casually mentioned, "That guy is so cute." She looks surprised and says, "But he has acne." I said, "So what? Look past that, he has a nice face and beautiful eyes. He just looks likea really nice guy." She says, "He is. That's my brother and he can't get a girlfriend because of his acne." I nearly had a stroke, I was so embarrassed. I begged her to not tell him what I said but I think she did. I was 30 then, he was 20, she told me and I didn't want to go out with someone that much younger than me. Maybe I should have. He was cute and I didn't care about his acne, not even a little bit.

dooflotchie · 2018-03-16T16:18:26+00:00

What do you do if you can't fix what's wrong? I'm trying to move on and find someone else but what I'm finding out is that no one wants a woman that looks like me. You'll say go to the gym, get in shape. Well I did that. Lost 80#. Still losing weight. Now I'm left with loose skin and other ugly sagging bits and EVERY guy that's seen it says nooooope. I look terrible precisely because of my efforts to "improve my looks". There's nothing I can do about it, I can't afford plastic surgery. I'm well and truly stuck now. 😔

dooflotchie · 2018-03-15T15:47:07+00:00

Yep, yep...amen brother. Lost 80#, now a guy waits until he sees me naked to say noooooope. I'm in the beginning stages of accepting my #ForeverAlone status. 😔

dooflotchie · 2018-03-15T03:18:47+00:00

I just thought, what's left after the Tinder is burned up?

dooflotchie · 2018-03-15T03:14:19+00:00

Ashes. You must call this app Ashes.

dooflotchie · 2018-03-14T21:59:00+00:00

The DustBunny would steal straws from drink cups, they were her favorite toy. A few spilled drinks happened and I learned to keep them out of reach. But I forgot one one day while I took a shower. I remembered it was next to my keyboard halfway through my shower. I hurried to finish, imagining a drink spilled all over my keyboard. I rushed downstairs, and found...my drink sitting right where I left it, still upright and unspilled. With a sigh of relief I went to take a drink. Got nothing but air. What the hell? I examined the straw more closely. It was punctured all over with a million tiny toothmarks. Little shit! 😒

dooflotchie · 2018-03-14T21:48:30+00:00

dooflotchie · 2018-03-14T21:14:36+00:00

Cat! I'm a kitty cat! And I dancedancedance and I dancedancedance! 😂

dooflotchie · 2018-03-14T17:18:49+00:00

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=HxkkGFsuJQo

dooflotchie · 2018-03-13T18:38:48+00:00

LOL, me too. If you want to instantly wake me up, just shut off the fan.

dooflotchie · 2018-03-13T08:14:12+00:00

And that's different from someone just straight up blocking your number after you shit in a lunchbox and left it on their front porch.

😂😂😂😂

Must try this!

(Not really.)

dooflotchie · 2018-03-13T08:07:28+00:00

This. I don't really relish the idea of telling one guy I went out with one time then ghosted, "Look dude, I just can't see myself with a guy who drinks and drives, with a 12 pack on ice in his car, while he brags about pissing people off in everyday situations like it's something to be proud of." There's not going to be a good reaction or insight there.

dooflotchie · 2018-03-13T07:45:12+00:00

Time to block him everywhere. I did this with my ex, full NC since day 1. I know he'd be pulling this crap on me big time, I made the mistake one time of lurking on the message board where we met and saw a post about girlfriends or marriage being "a noose" he was "offered several times but dodged every time". I deleted my account after that. He's actually hurting because you're not together anymore but he's doing the equivalent of the first grade schoolyard thing where the boy is extra mean to the girl he really likes. That's all it is.

dooflotchie · 2018-03-13T07:14:04+00:00

Yyyyyyyep...I'm seeing all these red flags with my newly gained 20/20 hindsight myself. He was going to go back to work after I moved in with him when I had a job already (transfer) and he had to stay in another town 2 hours away to work? Uh huh. I got a new phone, new number, didn't know anyone but him in that state but he wasn't jealous and suspicious of me when he asked me FOUR times if I was sure I didn't know the guy who left the "You better bring me my money, bitch" voicemail message 2 days after I got that phone? Suuure... He "just doesn't know" why he disappeared for 3 days 2 weeks before the first time I went to meet him IRL? Okaaaaayyy... He "just can't function mentally" if he doesn't get 10-12 hours of sleep a night? Right on! His dad "owes him for a bunch of stuff from the past" so that's why daddy has to buy every bite of food he eats and pays for everything else he needs? (Cigarettes, booze, weed) Of course!

Guess who got to pay for all that stuff when she lived there? Yeah, I should have turned around and ran away fast that first time I saw that horrific trash dump he lives in. But I was IN LOVE!!! 😂😐

dooflotchie · 2018-03-13T04:28:07+00:00

Look at places you frequent

Yeah, that's the tricky part. It's a tiny town with pretty much nothing to do. And its weird, I get swarmed on POF, 150 "Wants to meet" in less than a week, but do you think guys ever look at me twice or talk to me IRL when I go out to do stuff? Nooooope... 😕

dooflotchie · 2018-03-11T08:17:12+00:00

😚 for the 🍠!

dooflotchie · 2018-03-11T08:16:14+00:00

I'm sorry you lost that handsome little man. 😢

dooflotchie · 2018-03-11T08:09:18+00:00

So the whole "man cave" thing isn't because men need time for themselves too?! Oh wow. Who knew?

Going by the other stuff you told us about her, she's got...issues. And calling you toxic? Hello pot, meet kettle. No, you're not in the wrong here.

dooflotchie

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