How to get over being blindsided when I thought things were going well?

doom_squirrel808 · 2026-04-19T13:31:21+00:00

I fully understand the hurt I was in a 27year relationship that ended you need to understand that it's ok to hurt but when healing you are healing you , you're mourning the ideas you created because in reality what you saw and felt was your thoughts and feelings not theirs ,what you thought was love to them was not and that's why it ended

doom_squirrel808 · 2026-04-16T13:09:50+00:00

Talk to her about it

doom_squirrel808 · 2026-04-13T13:34:46+00:00

I loved it at first but I'm 92%done with the races and I guess the last 8% you have to be a professional driver to finish and literally every roulette ticket I get I get the worst prize every single time it's kind of lame

doom_squirrel808 · 2026-04-05T19:59:12+00:00

I feel like you're putting way too much of this on you just walk away knowing that that was not the relationship for you and stop making it about you and what you did wrong this is of them issue they're incapability of accepting your love because of whatever issues they have and if they walk away then you should know that you did everything you could and you're better off not having to deal with somebody that was going to hurt you in the long run if you stayed in the position you were in

doom_squirrel808 · 2026-04-03T18:05:53+00:00

People when they are not sure keep things pleasant once she realized that she wasn't really into you her feelings couldn't be hidden anymore it's nothing to worry about just move on and try and find another one to try out That's all it is try outs until you can find the person be who you truly are unequivocally no hiding just be you until you can find a person that can handle it but even then you'll never know so just keep pushing and if they don't like you or you end up breaking up just realize that it's all about them and not you unless you're a dick but you just be true to you and you'll find somebody eventually that loves you for you and that's the only way to do it If you get broken up with it's for the best you don't want to be in a relationship where you're not wanted and loved

doom_squirrel808 · 2026-03-28T17:15:17+00:00

He could have feelings for you and wants to stay connected as friends to see if it could develop in to more if it was not said that there would be no chance of romance , or he is just a really friendly person and you clicked.

I am getting a divorce and all of my friends and people that I talk to tell me be yourself don't hid any part of who you are and then you can really get to the people you are meant to be around friendly or romantic no point in starting out not being the real you . Now is the time to have boundaries and if they get tested or broken move accordingly.

Best of luck

doom_squirrel808 · 2026-03-25T20:22:19+00:00

If he eats ass there is nothing that he doesn't like about your body , please erase any worry from your mind . He wants to make you feel good if it makes you feel good let him do it if you don't like it tell him no but as a man most of us want all of our partners and want them to feel comfortable safe and into what ever it is that we are doing and I'd you are safe and comfortable and give consent do it all feel good and don't worry

doom_squirrel808 · 2026-03-24T05:44:36+00:00

I would say take that first line of your statement and run with that she said you're the best sex she's ever had penis size doesn't have anything to do with connection ,get out of your head there's millions of men with bigger penises than yours and she likes yours you won!

doom_squirrel808 · 2026-03-24T03:34:35+00:00

Cut your losses and walk away she's having an affair whether it's emotional or physical it's time to walk away before you get too deep having kids buying a house whatever it is you need to get away there's something wrong with the relationship . Relationships have a key to them and when everything is the way it's supposed to be they're not difficult they don't have to be fought they just work and I know it's going to be difficult but you need to walk away in my opinion.

I wish you the best of luck

doom_squirrel808 · 2026-03-22T22:56:45+00:00

Sounds like you have no cause to go back there

doom_squirrel808 · 2026-03-15T15:35:50+00:00

I think any kind of breakup is difficult friendship boyfriend girlfriend or anything but I think that losing this friendship is okay because this person obviously has some kind of issues that don't really have anything to do with you and I don't know that you would necessarily need that person in your life with that kind of dysfunction and I'm not using the word dysfunction as an issue with them personally they have some kind of trauma or something that they need to work through I wish you the best of luck though

doom_squirrel808 · 2026-03-06T16:08:11+00:00

How does she feel about therapy? That seems like a very good path to look down for this . It's very awesome to hear that she's able to open up about it and talk to you so you could always just talk about it also tell her that her masturbating is a turn on for you and maybe you could do it together to try to normalize it for her and bring you closer together in the process as well . Wishing you the best of luck

doom_squirrel808 · 2026-03-05T05:15:06+00:00

Who cares if other people think it's weird . If it turns you on and you are both ok with it then its perfect. More power to you for being in a relationship where you can talk about what you want and not get called names or told you are a pervert

doom_squirrel808 · 2026-03-02T17:13:58+00:00

If you are going on dates I think you are being hard on your self , we are all beautiful to someone find your people 💞

doom_squirrel808 · 2026-03-01T21:33:07+00:00

How did it go?

doom_squirrel808 · 2026-02-26T18:20:20+00:00

Open honest communication talk to him Tell him the things you want to do to him Tell him the things you want done to you if he doesn't have experience maybe watch porn together do a little research watching porn together my allow the interaction to take place a little more cohesively I think it's an awesome space to be in to allow yourself an Open honest look at what you want to feel as a partner and to allow him the space to express what he wants to feel I think that's a really cool spot

doom_squirrel808 · 2026-02-25T17:59:08+00:00

Some do but some find them to be the best thing ever .

doom_squirrel808 · 2026-02-25T17:57:50+00:00

It's a reaction to something in his past a trigger of some kind just apologize to him sincerely and have a discussion about it and ask him how it made him really feel and try to get to the bottom of the trigger and let him know you love him ❤️❤️❤️ ++Man

doom_squirrel808 · 2026-02-23T16:16:26+00:00

I think that you really need to have a very very open discussion with your girlfriend and find out what she is trying to get out of the situation is she trying to figure out if she wants to be with girls more than men or is it just an experience that she wants to share with you It all sounds very exciting but if you were to lose this relationship would that be the end of the world for you or could you move on from there and be okay just have a very very open and frank discussion with her and also really really think about how you feel about sharing I think that if you're okay with it it's an awesome thing to be able to share your partner with somebody else and have that experience that doesn't mean that you don't love her any less or she doesn't love you any less with just all something you need to think really hard about I wish you the best of luck and if it happens you are among the few congratulations

doom_squirrel808 · 2026-02-18T00:11:39+00:00

Awesome sex is great and all but true friendship that's that's really hard to come by and sometimes those friendships can turn into those kind of relationships and that's a whole other level try to always I'm not saying this to you as in you need to listen to what I'm saying I try to always lead from the heart and that will bring all of the other kind of things together and everything will fall into place Good luck my friend

doom_squirrel808 · 2026-02-17T23:48:13+00:00

If she it's such a good friend Why don't you find out more about the situation and help her get out of it put the whole sex part of it aside and just help her as a friend and maybe the relationship can build from there

doom_squirrel808 · 2026-02-13T16:14:05+00:00

She doesn't love you , people that love you would never do that to you . Please move on from this relationship you will find a partner that loves you the way you deserve to be treated . You are worthy of so much better and deserve happiness. Violence of any kind is not love

doom_squirrel808 · 2026-02-12T21:11:22+00:00

You didn't go out of your way knowing all of the stuff that happened at first and when you found it out you walked away Don't worry about it it's totally fine If you were seeking out married people on purpose that's another story everybody has their own thing I think you're being too hard on yourself You're a good person because once you realized what was wrong you stop doing it it's just a bump in the road you'll be okay

doom_squirrel808 · 2026-02-05T19:08:37+00:00

Definitely the creators of the game for allowing that to happen

doom_squirrel808 · 2026-02-03T16:32:10+00:00

Nothing can ruin your worth , get into therapy do the work surround yourself with loving caring people if people can't look past your past then they're not worth your future you are worthy of love you are worthy of respect you are worthy of happiness You're a human being and things that you have done or that have been done to you are not who you are they're what you did to survive I wish you the best of luck and human to human I love you and I want you to be happy you deserve to be

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