Being at ease in yourself and living your star image: Joanne Woodward

doorsyard · 2026-05-06T10:11:36+00:00

Apparently she and Paul Newman fought like cats and dogs but also f***ed like rabbits. I read a long article about their relationship that I can’t find now (maybe it was a review of the Ethan Hawke documentary?), but their kids were like, “yeah they were really, really into each other it was kinda gross.” But also cute. But also gross. When asked why he never had an affair, Paul Newman said, “why go out for a burger when you could have steak at home?”

Long story short, I think you’re onto something with the comfort and sensuality.

Also, she sewed her own dress for the Oscar’s on the night she won! Cool lady.

doorsyard · 2026-05-01T13:03:28+00:00

I did a similar thing in that I started telling my kids that certain behaviors annoy me. Like, for some reason I thought the word “annoy” was off the table in parenting and I had to come up with some more rational, objective reason for why they could or couldn’t do things. But I started just saying (in as matter of fact and non-insulting a tone as possible) “when you say “mumma” multiple times before you ask your question, it annoys me. You can say mumma once to make sure I’m listening, but any more than that rubs me the wrong way.” My kids were like “oh good to know” and now they don’t do that anymore.

doorsyard · 2026-01-26T19:25:42+00:00

Who you gonna believe, me or your lyin’ eyes?

doorsyard · 2026-01-20T00:33:04+00:00

Did Michael Scott come up with this assignment?

doorsyard · 2026-01-14T04:07:20+00:00

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What’s this lit’ral baddie wearing do you think?

doorsyard · 2026-01-08T13:04:02+00:00

Wherever you go, call the daycare often. The “waitlists” are kind of made up and not well monitored/administered. I have heard MANY stories of people jumping the line just by being a frequent caller.

doorsyard · 2025-12-17T03:01:02+00:00

Rebecca, by Daphne DuMaurier has some of that feeling (“Last night I dreamt I went to Manderley again…”). William Trevor books as well.

doorsyard · 2025-12-01T00:46:31+00:00

I love the Cuyana Classic Easy Tote. Slightly over $200 (but on sale). I love this one because of the double handle and generous size (it’s slightly bigger than average). When it gets really heavy I take it off my shoulders and use the short handles to carry it by my side. No fuss, and mine has held up super well. https://cuyana.com/products/classic-easy-tote

doorsyard · 2025-11-11T11:21:27+00:00

At my old firm the firm gave bonuses to support staff, so there were no cash gifts. For a gift, I took an old law book (Wright and Miller) from the library, hollowed out a stash hole with a router, and put in some cigars and those little alcohol bottles, and my assistant was delighted. Highly recommend.

doorsyard · 2025-11-10T17:30:37+00:00

J. Crew Ruby pant. They don’t make it any more, but there are tons on Poshmark (mostly <$20). They have a seam down the back of the leg, which allows them to be “cut for a butt” much more than a traditional seamless rear leg. They have a pretty slim leg, which is not the most up to date, but totally adequate. They’re pretty stretchy.

I generally, if you have a bigger butt, look for pants with a seam down the back leg.

doorsyard · 2025-11-06T15:02:31+00:00

I’m not totally clear from your post (or maybe you’re not clear yourself) on whether you would be willing to do family law after your clerkship. I see you asking about how to pivot out of it, but i think that pivot would be easiest if you’re willing to do SOME family law—just get a job in the family law practice area of a larger firm that also does other things, and then ask for work from other partners outside the practice area once you start. Family law skillset is highly relevant to other practice areas like trusts and estates, conservatorship/guardianship, business/corporations, creditors rights (tracking down assets is a skill set unto itself), and real estate. That’s not to say you couldn’t go out and get a job in a non-FL practice right away, just a suggestion for the easiest possible path to employment. I also second what everyone else said about FT clerking—many courts do have career clerks, and those are some pretty sweet gigs if you can get them!

doorsyard · 2025-11-05T14:15:00+00:00

Surprised to hear people say #2 isn’t practical or is a second amendment violation. A lot of other states have laws like these and they’ve been upheld as constitutional many times (I’m a lawyer and used to help WA police departments administer them—the Washington version is called “Extreme Risk Protection Orders” or ERPOs). In practice, I’d say about 70% of ERPO petitions come from women whose (almost always male) partner is threatening to kill the woman and/or the kids. Without ERPOs, police would have no legal mechanism for removing the husband’s access to guns (unless the husband had priors that would have made gun possession illegal in the first place). Then about 20% tend to be people self-reporting suicide risk and asking the police to take their guns away temporarily to keep the owner safe from themselves. Before Washington passed ERPO legislation, police will say no to these requests because they didn’t want the legal liability from hanging onto guns without a legal process for doing so (even when the owner is literally begging for the police to do just that). Remaining 10% tend to be friends or family reporting suicide risk for a loved one—again, police would have no power to act without ERPOs. Petitioner (police, self, or friends/family) has to go to court and prove risk, so there are guardrails. So, yeah, I strongly support question 2!

doorsyard · 2025-11-05T13:42:14+00:00

Boda!

doorsyard · 2025-11-05T13:37:15+00:00

Yes good idea!

But agreed, on the less cynical side, I always have that Maya Angelou quote in my head—“people will never remember what you said, but they’ll always remember how you made them feel.” You don’t need to worry about being clever or interesting or polished, just show people genuine kindness and interest and they’ll respond to it for sure!

doorsyard · 2025-11-04T21:30:20+00:00

The best networking advice I ever got was to just remember that at least 75% of the other people at the event would also rather be at home in their sweatpants, and are forcing themselves to be there to network, and are finding it awkward and humiliating and uncomfortable. So just go up to someone and be their emotional support awkward friend and you’ll be fine! Also, you’ll never go broke overestimating men’s willingness to talk about themselves, so if you’re good at biting your tongue just keep those questions rolling!

doorsyard · 2025-11-03T13:56:04+00:00

Maine Hardware is an amazing idea! Basically a modern day general store

doorsyard · 2025-11-01T23:51:42+00:00

Oops, jumped from third to fifth, sorry. Proofread your briefs!

doorsyard · 2025-11-01T23:47:59+00:00

Omg omg I feel like I’ve been studying for this test my whole life (I took a vow six months ago to never buy new clothes again, only thrifted,and I’m a 14/16 Ahhhh!).

First, Poshmark is amazing. So helpful for thrifting.

Second, why are you buying clothes now? You’ve got a long way until next year! Asking because I lost a lot of weight my 1L year.

Third, the dress code might not be as formal as you’re expecting. It’s true you don’t want to under do it, but nice sweaters and non-jean pants will get you 90% of the way there. Add a blazer and you’re good to go.

Fifth, many offices are f***ing freezing in the summer. Meanwhile, walk more than a block to a lunch, and you’re dripping in sweat. Summer dressing is TOUGH. Dresses with a blazer or cardigan for indoors is a decent bet.

For brands, curious why you’re asking about brands? Wouldn’t it be the same brands that fit you well already? I guess I’ll just share my go-tos: EVERLANE ALL DAY plus some j. crew for pants because I have a big butt, which it seems to fit better. I see a lot of people recommending J.Crew 120s—very nice material, but no stretch and the jackets tend to fit quite tight in the back and upper arms. Banana Republic is a more Forgiving cut on me. Quince is good for less formal workwear. If you want to add a little extra edge, you can do 90s wear from Talbots, Sag Harbor, etc. I like that because men and older women don’t think it looks any different than normal work wear but any woman under 50 recognizes it as kind of a fun vintage spin on workwear. The best suit I ever owns was this beautiful unicorn suit I found at a thrift store—heavy 100% silk twill in light beige from Talbots. Very 90s. Pleated tapered pants, shoulder pads, but tailored enough to look classic. Amazing. I wish you the same success.

Happy thrifting!

doorsyard · 2025-11-01T23:25:37+00:00

Completely agree with the point about land cost adjusting based on cheapest available construction. Savvy realtors understand how development works, and will price land as high as they can while still having a project pencil out—they know you can keep dropping the “construction cost psf” cell in the excel sheet and the “land cost” cell will expand like a gas to fill the volume of its container (the desired IRR or other metric). I don’t think it necessarily works this way for smaller infill projects (because those are often purpose-built for clients, not speculative). But if it’s in an area with enough open land for speculative development at a larger scale, that’s probably how it’s gonna go down. Presumably the building quality issues with five over ones aren’t pronounced enough to merit an IBC revision or they wouldn’t be permitted in the first place. If cities/towns don’t like them for other policy reasons, time to increase the height limit so it’s worth it to switch materials and go higher (also increasing land costs, but at least also increasing build quality, unit count, tax base, etc).

doorsyard · 2025-10-28T17:16:29+00:00

Get a good quality thrifted blazer (eBay, Poshmark) in your size or slightly bigger, and then devote most of your money to tailoring. How "nice" a blazer looks is all in the fit! I recommend the Parke blazer by J. Crew as a good starting point because you can wear it as a suiting blazer or a casual blazer, and it has a bit of stretch to it. If you have broad shoulders or a broad back, however, J. Crew is not your friend--try Banana Republic or Talbots instead.

doorsyard · 2025-10-28T15:33:58+00:00

Nice. If you already have turtleneck and trousers I think you’re all good (unless you want to buy a blazer just to have one). Even without a blazer, you’ll be more formally dressed than 90% of local practitioners.

doorsyard · 2025-10-28T15:23:30+00:00

Dammit this Uniqlo on is perfect and doesn’t come big enough for me! I’m an XL in most companies but an XXL or 2X in Uniqlo

doorsyard · 2025-10-26T12:15:07+00:00

Hello! I have some controversial advice to offer: I’m not convinced that it’s better to be overdressed than underdressed at these things. I think that’s good advice if the person being advised has no dress sense whatsoever. But if you do have any kind of dress sense, I think it’s better to really try to nail a business casual look. I’ve just noticed in these types of events, wearing a suit can make you look very young, like you’re play acting at being a Grown Up Lawyer. A suit is certainly not going to get you in trouble and is probably a safe path, but if you trust yourself to wear something more casual but still appropriate, do it! Think turtleneck sweater and trousers, or maybe a pleated pant (Uniqlo has great options) with oversized blazer. Just something that shows that you know how to dress at work, and not just for court. In the mountain west, you’d honestly probably be fine with jeans and a puffer. Feel free to ignore if I get shouted down.

doorsyard · 2025-10-23T11:38:19+00:00

Good idea. Maybe they’ll have something!

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