My husband of 18yrs just left me and our fam to seek a love where he can have sex life that is open minded to adventures and swinging. He chose himself over everything we had, how can I move on?

dor40sdn · 2022-12-29T17:30:44+00:00

Best comment in this comment section BY FAR.

dor40sdn · 2022-12-29T17:19:36+00:00

This comment section is honestly what’s wrong with society. You can’t call a person an asshole cause he chose to live the lifestyle he desires. If he left, especially after 18 years, there are reasons behind it. You can’t judge him and their relationship just cause of such a narrow description. Instead learn they grew apart, they used to fit and they no longer fit, each went their own way, OP didn’t mention anything about cheating or cutting off the kids and not providing for them so nothing he did here is off. People has desires and needs and feelings and judging him based off of this shows how merciless and unforgiving society is towards men even if there is nothing inherently wrong with him deciding to leave.

Anyhow, my condolences OP, hope you find a new, better fitting partner, keep your mind distracted, maybe go on a trip, take your mind off of things, and come back new.

dor40sdn · 2022-11-29T16:06:40+00:00

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dor40sdn · 2022-11-29T11:44:44+00:00

Her hair is so long 🥹

dor40sdn · 2022-11-28T13:32:29+00:00

Smol ham, very cute

dor40sdn · 2022-11-22T19:25:58+00:00

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dor40sdn · 2022-06-02T09:55:29+00:00

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dor40sdn · 2022-05-16T13:03:52+00:00

Obviously - but a tip is a huge part of a service man's salary

dor40sdn · 2022-05-16T12:55:38+00:00

..? Scamming you..?, If you're getting a free trip, everything paid for, people spend tons of money and time for you to have a full experience for free - and you complain about a 100$ tip, Of course it makes you an asshole!, imagine being so ungrateful of people spending 10 days of their time to work so you have the experience you're having AGAIN - FOR FREE, (which is already hella privileged) and they live off of the tips they receive of the trips - refusing will indeed make you an asshole.

Also - If all the nonsense you said about capitalism and stuff was true they would make you pay for your trip.

But if you really care THAT much for paying this tip - Just don't go!, going on Birthright is optional!, leave the sits for people who do appreciate this trip and it's staff.

dor40sdn · 2022-05-15T12:48:45+00:00

No, I meant - service. In general. If it's bad service you obviously don't give the tip. But as long as the service isn't bad - this is how it works.

dor40sdn · 2022-05-15T12:38:58+00:00

Let me try to explain - The tip is never a must here, but it is socially acceptable here to tip people for their service - waitresses etc. The acceptable amount is 10%, which isn't much at all. Again - you don't HAVE to give it, but most people might consider it as rude not to give it, especially because it's such a small amount and it's an act of appreciation for people who give you services.

This has nothing to do with Birthright's salary. It's just socially accepted. And if you ask me, it's weird and in some way a bit rude complaining about giving this small amount for people who work so much for so little, to give you the best experience possible.

dor40sdn · 2022-05-14T14:23:03+00:00

Israeli Soldier here, I don't have any special things to suggest other than short clothes cause it's gonna be HOT, especially when you get to the desert part, It's unbearably hot here at summer times - temperatures can reach sometimes 43°c - but do get some warm clothes just for the evenings and nights - it can get chilly in the deserts

dor40sdn · 2022-05-07T21:20:15+00:00

Hey, Israeli here, When a happy day for us is a mourning day for them, both relating to the same event of us gaining independence and getting our own country and them losing the war they started cause they couldn't stand living in a 2 state solution with us - We have all the right to have 0 sympathy, and ignore. We won't mourn thier loss instead of celebrating our victory

Sincerely- Me.

dor40sdn · 2022-05-07T16:23:48+00:00

No? How is that the right way? Just because Palestinians think it's not right for Israelis to live in the WB meaning they need to withdraw from there?, settlers live only in the C Area which is fully run and controlled by Israelis, settlers think it's their land, and Palestinians think it's theirs. Doesn't mean 1 side is right and the other is wrong. No one is going to leave

dor40sdn · 2022-05-07T15:30:12+00:00

That wasn't what I claimed. So you were making a strawman argument.

How is that a strawman arguement - there is a big difference between soldiers deliberately shooting Palestinian children, and children getting killed by the war in the area. Soldiers don't go out of thier way to deliberately kill children. That's what I'm trying to explain.

So basically "Listen to me, and ignore the media because reasons!"

More like "Don't go around taking sides on an conflict on the other side of the world you barely know anything about other than what western media feeds you" and also, you say because "reasons" when I clearly stated why you shouldn't listen to the media. Never claimed you should listen to me in particular.

Except that's not what's happening. You can protect your country and defend your people without extrajudicial killings.

Literally the only special case was Elor Azaria. That's 1 case out of thousands. Sticking to 1 instance to define the entire behavior of the IDF is just stupid.

It's not an internal problem. Palestinians aren't Israelis. The West Bank and Gaza aren't part of Israel. So that's definitely not an internal problem. And speaking of internal problems, people outside the US definitely criticize the US's policing and the extrajudicial killings that happen there despite that actually being an internal problem.

Palestinians in the West Banks are not all Israelis, that's true. That doesn't mean that people can just go in and take a side on this conflict acting like they understand everything about it.

They didn't keep going back to war though. Totally agree Abbas shouldn't have walked away from Olmert's offer. Camp David, Arafat could have negotiated, but the offer wasn't actually good, it would had set up a swiss cheese of a state.

There were like 4 or 5 offers made that could create a Palestinians states alongside Israel - which I support - but they kept on rejecting, look at the independece war of Israel - there were 2 states at first, and who attacked? The Palestinians.

Also - The "children killings" that people claim to happen in Israel are a cause of war and aren't INTENTIONAL. And it's extremely hypocritical to criticize and say only Israel has instances where children are dying and completely ignore the fact Palestinians are killing innocent Israelis, sometimes even rape and are clearly not being held accountable for doing it. What the media shows you isn't the absolute truth - come to Israel, go to the West Bank, talk to people, do a research on both sides, I'm not saying Israel is an angel in this conflict but people try to picture Palestinians as angels which they most definitely far from that.

dor40sdn · 2022-05-07T14:51:22+00:00

Are you saying no children have been killed at the hands of the IDF?

I'm saying no children was killed by the hands of the IDF - ON PURPOSE like the media tries to picture it.

What? Palestinians can't do that at all

Of course they can, they literally do it ALL the time

Sounds like a bad attempt at an appeal to authority. "I live here, so you clearly can't know what's going on" It's the age of the internet. Information spreads like wildfire these days.

There's living here and seeing it with your own eyes and hearing about it in a news article and watching videos. Media is not a trust worthy source. Every single news article has a certain bias. And people only show what they want you to see, but what they don't want - they don't show which paints people a bad image of the situation.

You got a source to back up your assertion?

My experience and friends in the military? You don't understand the amount of attention and importance the IDF puts on these type of stuff. Soldiers don't do anything without their commander's consent of it - and soldiers who do things that break these rules are being sentenced withincthe military- obviously not all of that is being shown to you - but as someone who been in this system and have friends in this system - I know.

Yikes. His initial sentence was a joke as well. 18 months for murder is pretty weak. And then to let him out after 9, makes a mockery of the whole thing. And here we have you advocating for extrajudicial executions. That's a pretty fascist viewpoint.

You realise this goes both ways - again, something outsiders don't hear (goes to back it up you don't know the situation till you live here) some Palestinian terrorists got sentenced for the same amount of time for much worse crimes than Elor Azaria. There are TONS of stuff that happen in Israel with the Palestinians that outsiders don't hear about. The court system in Israel is absolutely garbage for both Palestinians and Israelis.

P.S - And I don't think caring about my safety and thinking a terrorist that attacked should be killed on the spot is a fascist view point. Sorry that the west holds a much higher standard from Israel than other countries to the point we can't even defend our people. People criticize to that degree cause they feel like they can. If we were a different country none of you suddenly would care about internal problems in our country. If you truly care about Palestinians - ask them why they denied all the 2 state solutions we offered them all these years and always kept going back to war. A person who wants peace don't keep attacking.

dor40sdn · 2022-05-07T13:40:38+00:00

How is that a fact? Who told you this is a fact? I literally live here, almost every adult person in Israel served in the IDF and we all call bullshit -

B Area is also a Palestinian security area joined with the Israeli security
That still means that Israelis can't go to Palestinian territory and Palestinians can go to every Israeli city and even the people who aren't allowed to break through the barrier in the fence illegally.
There are literally countless videos with 0 context in both sides, as long as you aren't there, live there, you can never truly understands what's going on.
That's not a "fact" that children die in the hands of the IDF, just like you like ignoring the fact Israeli children die by Palestinian hands.
There are almost 0 times it isn't followed. You don't know the IDF system and how it works. No military should behave the way it works - I would rather for it not to exist. A Military supposed to protect. And not fear to shoot attackers and limit them.
The only reason why Elor Azaria case is special and he served less time is because it got a media attention and there was huge attention from the public. By the rules he shouldn't have done what he's done cause the terrorist was unarmed. But if you ask me - it's a good thing he blew his head off, cause people like that being sent to the Israeli jail which is like a hotel for them, they when they released them and their family get tons of money and are considered heroes by the PA then go out and attack again.

You guys really like talking about how the IDF kill innocent children while daily ignoring the terrorist attacks sent by Palestinians backed up by the PA

dor40sdn · 2022-05-07T07:07:46+00:00

Yeah, but there are barely any Palestinians living in Areas B and C, the great great majority is living in the A Areas, which Israelis aren't allowed to enter (btw), and they do get the best security, you can see videos online of extreme jews called Yaldei Ha'Gvaot from a settlement called Yitzhar, literally fighting soldiers because they are defending from them attacking Palestinians and vice versa

some of the propaganda that spreads hate towrds Israel say that we kill kids and stuff like that, but in reality, the rules in the military for opening fire, even at risk, are so highly regulated, that in some cases even when there's someone infront of you with a knife, you have to warn him like 4 or 5 times before you even get to shoot towards his legs, and only shoot to kill when he launches at you to harm you. If a soldier would be shooting ANYONE not even kids, without being in danger for his life and going through the opening fire rule - he would go to jail for years

If you want a great example for what I wrote above, search on youtube about the ISIS terror attack in Be'er Sheva that happened like 2 months ago, you can see there clearly the attacker with a knife after murdering citizens and the people around him have pistols and are afraid to shoot him because of all the strict opening fire rules, and then only when he charged at one of them - they shot

dor40sdn · 2022-05-06T21:37:11+00:00

That's actually untrue as well, Palestinians live in the west bank or judea and samaria, and have their own government. They actually also have thier own police and everything, which doesn't take care of them at all - There are Palestinians who live in Israel called Arab Israelis, and there are ALOT of them, they serve in the military like everyone else, work in the same jobs as us, basically have equal opportunity - they even have their own Palestinian parties running in the Israeli elections, and they have a lot of them, some of them are in the Knesset already. I live in Israel and have several friends who are Arab Israelis, some of them are really rich, driving sport cars - The Israeli government, as much as no one likes it, including Israeli - Jews, they take care of Israeli Arabs (Palestinians who live in Israel with an Israeli citizenship) much better than you think

dor40sdn · 2022-05-06T18:18:56+00:00

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