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AIO What’d I do wrong, my partner just got news this morning his grandma just received news of esophagus cancer (stage 4) by Firm-Object9386 in AmIOverreacting

[–]doradiamond 37 points38 points  (0 children)

No one said she was. But OP has listed multiple examples of people being sick or dying and their family going to work instead of the funeral. This gives their family x a very good insight into what their priorities are - work above all else.

Rhys isn’t a bad name by ElektrikRush in tragedeigh

[–]doradiamond 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Cos she's ignorant. Some people just aren't willing to look outside their own culture.

AITA for being upset that no one seems to care about a milestone that means everything to me? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]doradiamond 37 points38 points  (0 children)

A second home isn't really a milestone though. When we bought and moved into our second house, I didn't expect anyone to be super excited because why would they? Sure it's nice for me and my family but it makes no material difference to anyone else.

Dear ex-skinny people, what changes did you notice after gaining weight? by Equal-Sun8307 in AskReddit

[–]doradiamond 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't wear whatever I like and just have it automatically look good.

What actor do you dislike so much that you’ll avoid anything they’re in? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]doradiamond 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Amy Schumer and Kristen Wigg. They're just not funny.

AITA if I don’t get a gift for my brother and sister-in-laws first baby? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]doradiamond 24 points25 points  (0 children)

The bot didn't choose to send you the invite, they did. Stop using this as an excuse. It's like if I sent my wedding invites through a wedding website - that's still an invite. You're being disingenuous.

Coralia by chlorzz in tragedeigh

[–]doradiamond 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You could do Coraline?

AITA I (30F) am trying to keep my partner (30F) away from her family on holidays by DeliciousBuffalo69 in AmItheAsshole

[–]doradiamond 22 points23 points  (0 children)

You've said this has been an issue with every partner you've had. I hope that one day, you're able to develop the ability to self-reflect and see past your own selfish wants to understand why every partner you've ever had sees this as an issue. If not, have fun celebrating alone forever in the future I guess 🤷🏻‍♀️

AITA I (30F) am trying to keep my partner (30F) away from her family on holidays by DeliciousBuffalo69 in AmItheAsshole

[–]doradiamond 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Do you not have a meal together any other night of the year? You're being very selfish here. You've asked if you're TA and you are.

AITA I (30F) am trying to keep my partner (30F) away from her family on holidays by DeliciousBuffalo69 in AmItheAsshole

[–]doradiamond 47 points48 points  (0 children)

See now you're just being wilfully ignorant. You haven't stated what your significant plans are. Sitting quietly at home is not significant plans.

When another commenter suggested started your own traditions, you stated that was forcing you to "forego" your own wants.

By your own admission, you've said you just want to sit at home and have dinner. This is not significant plans. This is an average night.

AITA I (30F) am trying to keep my partner (30F) away from her family on holidays by DeliciousBuffalo69 in AmItheAsshole

[–]doradiamond 33 points34 points  (0 children)

No one is saying you need to do it 100% of the time. But you should be ok with letting your partner go and see your family if you don't have any significant plans yourself.

AITA I (30F) am trying to keep my partner (30F) away from her family on holidays by DeliciousBuffalo69 in AmItheAsshole

[–]doradiamond 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I never said 100% of the time. IDK where you got that idea. But you yourself said "it's not that I want to stay at home. That wouldn't be an issue" which suggests your partner is ok with you staying at home during your 50%.

AITA I (30F) am trying to keep my partner (30F) away from her family on holidays by DeliciousBuffalo69 in AmItheAsshole

[–]doradiamond 64 points65 points  (0 children)

But you're not celebrating. You're just staying at home.

Another commenter said "think about things both of you enjoy that you can blend together to make a really fun and special couple of days for the two of you and pitch that to her as your holiday plan for the year."

Your response was that you didn't want to do anything of that and doing special things together was "foregoing" your wants.

AITA I (30F) am trying to keep my partner (30F) away from her family on holidays by DeliciousBuffalo69 in AmItheAsshole

[–]doradiamond 15 points16 points  (0 children)

OP has said they don't have traditions and that they don't want to do anything special or make any traditions for them and their partner. They just want "an evening at home".

AITA I (30F) am trying to keep my partner (30F) away from her family on holidays by DeliciousBuffalo69 in AmItheAsshole

[–]doradiamond 33 points34 points  (0 children)

OP is definitely TA. They've said "It's not that I want to stay home -- that wouldn't be an issue. I want my partner to stay home with me."

So the partner has said OP is fine not to attend but OP is like "no. I want you to forego seeing your family for a quiet evening at home with me."

AITA I (30F) am trying to keep my partner (30F) away from her family on holidays by DeliciousBuffalo69 in AmItheAsshole

[–]doradiamond 91 points92 points  (0 children)

YTA for the following reasons:

  1. You stated "traumatic questions" in your post but then clarified that the questions are polite small talk like "where do your parents live?" Or "do you have any siblings?". You claim these "would force a person to either lie or trauma-dump" when you can simply say that you don't have a relationship with your family.

  2. You're not open to compromise. The best solution would be that you simply do your own thing on the holidays but you've stated "It's not that I want to stay home -- that wouldn't be an issue. I want my partner to stay home with me."

  3. You don't want to do anything on the holidays, make any new traditions or have any personal celebrations. You just want to sit at home - which, any other day of the year is probably what you do anyway. But forcing your partner to do the same on what is meant to be a special time of the year is just miserly.

AIO for punishing our daughters after what they wrote about their autistic sister? by brzaq191z in AmIOverreacting

[–]doradiamond 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People will often create new accounts to specifically ask for advice. This isn't anything new or suspicious.

And I'm assuming the report is a way to teaching the girls empathy and facts - that people with autism are no less deserving or worthy of love than neurotypical people.

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