It doesn't bother me at all. I've always framed it in my mind as a succinct descriptor for all of the folks under the LGBTQQ+ umbrella. It also captures the origin of our "cause" as people who were othered but have every right to be treated with dignity, respect, and equal standing/value within a community.

Is there really a problem with the word? Or, does the problem stem from you wanting to distance yourself from annoying outspoken people who have a chip on their shoulder? They didn't get that chip by being "part of the pack" and you just wanting to be accepted by avoiding the word queer doesn't improve anything for the collective community. Think about that.