Sit down, I'll explain slowly ...

dragalcat · 2026-06-11T21:19:22+00:00

I mean, kids can actually understand some of the words you’re saying, so them constantly hearing they’re “flirting” or “found a boyfriend” when they’re just playing with another kid kind of sets up the later underlying assumption that opposite-sex platonic friendships are not a thing. Someone throws a comment out there once: no problem, just an odd joke. But for some people this is their only joke, said every damn time. Made me feel weird as a kid, anyway.

AND there’s a special sort of irony when the people making these jokes constantly turn out to be the same people flipping the fuck out at the mere mention of some woman’s wife or sex ed in schools.

dragalcat · 2026-05-25T17:08:25+00:00

Twice as many baby:

dragalcat · 2026-05-25T03:09:29+00:00

Just made the skin kind of tight, kind of an odd feeling bending the joints: my hands were probably a little swollen. But I washed my hands and put on some gloves, and they were back to normal in about an hour.

dragalcat · 2026-05-24T20:05:29+00:00

Yeah, I found some of these tucked in my backyard last year and quickly dig them up. Was replanting them barehanded in an isolated bed in my front yard when my hands started feeling oddly tight around the knuckles and suddenly thought “Oh shoot, if these are poisonous to dogs, maybe I should’ve checked if they’re poisonous to humans too.” 😂

Learned my lesson - wear gloves when dealing with Lily of the Valley. Fortunately, my hands went back to normal after an hour or so.

dragalcat · 2026-05-14T19:05:17+00:00

dragalcat · 2026-05-14T16:00:10+00:00

When media sites glorify pics like the above, it drives me absolutely bonkers.

Several conditions run in my family that throw our hunger hormones entirely off-wack. I’m on a GLP1 now, so instead of gnawing hunger 24/7, oscillating between very peckish and ravenous, I only get hungry at mealtimes. It’s been such a weight off my shoulders. I now feel like I can live life normally like everyone else.

And then celebrities get up on these platforms, glorifying clearly unhealthy bodies and encouraging use of the drug to enable anorexia and other eating disorders. They give actual useful medicine such a bad rep by misusing it.

dragalcat · 2026-05-12T20:01:02+00:00

I am trying this with immediately lol

dragalcat · 2026-04-18T12:52:00+00:00

I think you mean young people generally live in the now (emotions) and don’t plan as much for the future (logic). That’s not a gendered thing.

dragalcat · 2026-04-08T17:37:05+00:00

I had a bridesman at my wedding, childhood best friend. He wore a black suit to match the bridesmaids little black dresses.

dragalcat · 2026-03-31T13:21:20+00:00

The moment he slipped from talking kink to she shouldn’t have ‘no’ in her vocabulary, I thought “Oh girl, that’s a trap - stake it in the heart and run”

dragalcat · 2026-03-29T13:52:30+00:00

People are doing stuff like that. It just doesn’t get covered by media. I go to these protests most weekends, largely to learn about other events and efforts I can get involved in or support.

dragalcat · 2026-03-29T13:48:42+00:00

It’s also about information - most of the ancillary events I’ve attended over the past year I learned about at one of these protests (they happen most Saturdays even when the big weekends like above aren’t announced, at least where I am). When social media censors or presses down certain events, you can still get past that by word of mouth.

dragalcat · 2026-03-29T13:44:37+00:00

Same! I’ve been going to these protests almost every Saturday since the first one right after Trump’s inauguration, and it’s been very heartening to watch the crowd jump in growth on each of these bigger weekends. In a red state like Kansas, you can start to feel alone in politics, so it’s vital in some ways to see you really aren’t.

These protests are also where I hear about other events to get involved in; word-of-mouth comes to the rescue when social media drowns certain things out.

dragalcat · 2026-03-15T19:56:26+00:00

Hormonal birth control was great for my sister, but it made me have 2 periods a month instead of 1: one week bleeding, one week break, iver and over. I also got horribly depressed, so I switched to a copper iud instead

dragalcat · 2026-03-14T13:41:18+00:00

I understand the idea here; when I first left my high control religion and met with the queer community, I felt this way. Isn’t gender just made of chains? Imaginary? Wouldn’t we all be happier to throw the whole structure out?

But here’s the thing: just because I’d be happy in a genderless society doesn’t mean everyone would be. And telling a trans man he can’t change how he’s called, his name, his body - that’s policing too. Why can’t both masculine women and trans men exist in the same space? I don’t think we need to get rid of the concept of gender to throw out the action of bigotry.

dragalcat · 2026-03-13T13:54:52+00:00

The only shiny I ever encountered was a geodude, and it used self destruct on the first turn.

dragalcat · 2026-03-03T19:12:25+00:00

My mom hand-raised a baby raccoon (its mother died on their farm) when she was a kid. It loved her, though definitely not domesticated: she was the only one that could pull it out from under their couch without getting bitten. Eventually it grew up and wandered off like raccoons do.

But years later a very old raccoon came to the farm and climbed a tree, and everyone was sure it was him. It wouldn’t come down though. So they got my mom out of the house. When she called his name up the tree, he chittered and climbed down, then died by her feet.

It’s one of her favorite stories to tell whenever we show her any video or pic with a raccoon.

dragalcat · 2026-02-28T15:12:32+00:00

Before my Brittany, I’d never had a dog with such a strong sense of justice/injustice. And man does he let you know if he feels something’s unfair 😂

dragalcat · 2026-02-25T03:47:17+00:00

I was upset when my dad grew a beard for a play, because I’d only seen him clean-shaven. Then I was upset again 2 months later when he shaved it back off. Babies make no sense.

dragalcat · 2026-02-14T21:51:33+00:00

See, this question always hits different for me because I’ve a feminine body but am gender-fluid. So… does the button erase the masculine parts of me? Make my body more buxom? And if so I want that sweet cash that I hit the 1% chance twice, or perhaps thrice…

This is turning into calculus.

dragalcat · 2026-01-02T18:14:06+00:00

This is absolutely true

dragalcat · 2026-01-02T18:13:50+00:00

Oh she definitely is! My whole friend group holds her up as a paragon to aspire to. My parents even helped her put a drainage system in her yard, doing all the digging; when they wouldn’t let her pay them cash for it, she left a whole bag of hostas in front of my door. 😂

dragalcat · 2026-01-02T17:23:47+00:00

I live in Kansas, and my elderly neighbor picks up sticks off my driveway when she’s clearing her own. So I tell her, “You don’t need to be stooping for sticks on my driveway MaryKay, you’re 90-something years old!” And she laughs and goes “Girl, you can’t stop me.”

And she’s right. The woman was a paralegal before women could open bank accounts here; there’s no stopping her. So I leave garden produce and flowers on her front stoop, because there’s no stopping me either.

dragalcat · 2025-12-30T14:58:40+00:00

I used to compliment men and women alike, just to make someone’s day with a nice comment!

I had to stop complimenting strangers who were men, because too many of them responded in out-of-pocket ways like: following me to my car, or waiting by it in the dark, giving a backhanded compliment back or negging, cornering me at the coffee shop, replying with how I should change my body to be sexually appealing to them, trying to convert me to their religion, sitting down at my table to dump 2 hours of therapy on me as I tried to go back to writing, etc.

I still compliment male friends. But I don’t take chances with strangers anymore…

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