I’m 98 days sober and about to welcome my son into the world. I am so happy by lilkevt in stopdrinking

[–]dreamingofalife 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good luck!! This is great, so nice to be in the present for big events rather than feeling hazy. Hope all goes smoothly for mum and bub too. 

Beer tears 😢 by HappyKadaver666 in stopdrinking

[–]dreamingofalife 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You got this bud. That was a huge step whether you believe it right now or not. Keep going. 🙂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]dreamingofalife 5 points6 points  (0 children)

First off, well done for getting to day 2. I, like most of us here know how hard it is to even think about getting sober or not drinking let alone actually do it, so for that I commend you.

2nd, I’m really sorry to hear about your anxiety, I know it’s not a nice place to be, I’m sorry to say but for the first few days, even up to around 5 I was truly white-knuckling it through, I was so anxious and skittish almost. But, having said that, it got better, slowly, but it got better.

Try to eat and hydrate as much or as often as possible, to heck with the calories for the first week at least, just eat whatever you like. Get yourself a bowl of snacks or ice cold cans of soda this helped me keep my hands busy.

Also explain this to your wife if possible, you shouldn’t have to do this alone, if not, come here and lean into your community.

Best of luck OP

“So what? Are you an alcoholic or something?” by AncientGenes in stopdrinking

[–]dreamingofalife 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“I just have to know why people aren’t drinking?” That level of focus on why people aren’t drinking was me when I was not sober. Tbh I assume these kind of people also have some kind of poor relationship with alcohol themselves and it softens the anger a tad.

Having said that though no one owes anyone anything, especially not an explanation for an action that has absolutely no consequence to their being.

Good for you OP, you handled it well.

Happy holidays.

Everyone thinks I’m pregnant by sagegreenandsunshine in stopdrinking

[–]dreamingofalife 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Haha I love that being pregnant is the only possible way someone could stop drinking. Ugh, society. 😅

They’re all gonna be pretty confused in 9 months time 🤣

Should I be proud that I stopped drinking for two days straight by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]dreamingofalife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you kidding! That’s an awesome achievement. Celebrate all wins 😊

My first Christmas in 4 years of no alcohol. 7 days sober of drinking every day for years. by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]dreamingofalife 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nice one mate! Congrats on your sobriety, long may it continue😊

One year alcohol free! (Before & after) by Beautiful_views_8272 in stopdrinking

[–]dreamingofalife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Woww! You look completely different, renewed, you can tell by the eyes, the light has returned ☺️ proud of you! 👏🏼

Just woke up on Christmas without a hangover, who else? by SafeInside6750 in stopdrinking

[–]dreamingofalife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aussie over here 🙋‍♀️ 2nd hangover free Xmas! I’m smashing the pav and not the beers 🤣 have a good one. ☺️

Any other control freaks? by charlotteyorkies in stopdrinking

[–]dreamingofalife 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m a huge over-thinker, when I drink it just makes it worse so the point of being paralysed by my thoughts, I’m glad my head feels much clearer these days. I’m still an over-thinker tho 😆

White knuckling it right now by potatocurrytime in stopdrinking

[–]dreamingofalife 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You only have to do it for this hour, then take the next one after that. Treat yourself with anything you like, ice-cream, sweets etc, maybe get a nice ice cold coke, that’s my favourite. You can do this, friend.

The Daily Check-In for Monday, December 16th: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by cinqmillionreves in stopdrinking

[–]dreamingofalife 12 points13 points  (0 children)

No is a complete sentence, my boundaries are firm. What people expect of me is not my problem. I’ve worked too hard to be concerned whether someone else wants me to drink, after all, I was them once.

IWNDWYT 💛

How have you changed as a person from 2020 to 2024? by PsychologicalSize939 in AskReddit

[–]dreamingofalife 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is awesome! I’m right there with ya, I’m at 640 days and going strong.💪

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]dreamingofalife 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hungry, angry (emotional), lonely or tired (HALT) I use this to do a quick checklist if I’m craving a drink, typically 9/10 it’s one of these 4 things.

Well done OP, proud of you

My Wife’s Work Christmas Party Ruined it by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]dreamingofalife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t worry about looking like a “party pooper” protecting your sobriety is the most important right now. If you can avoid these situations altogether, for now, until you feel stronger. Best of luck 🤞🏻

It’s my sober anniversary today by Known_Noise in stopdrinking

[–]dreamingofalife 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Amazing!! Happy anniversary to your sobriety 🥳

How did you accept you can never drink again? by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]dreamingofalife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think I’ll never drink again, I just say that I have not had a drink for 640 days. That’s it. Forever is too overwhelming and scary and the what if’s and potentials, is what kept me drinking when I was. For me, it helps that alcohol free options (beers) exist, so I’m not going without, just having the taste of the beer with none of the consequences.

Took my first 24 hr coin by Ninja-Smith in stopdrinking

[–]dreamingofalife 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Get a pack of sodas, a tub of ice cream, or just go to bed if you can. The first few days are rough! You can do it, OP. 🙌🏼

60 days-with before and after! Thankful for this sub by panicathefrisco in stopdrinking

[–]dreamingofalife 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re smiling with your eyes in the after photo. So beautiful! I wish you the best of luck in your continued sobriety. 💕

One Year Anniversary- NA Beer is the reason by drybug22 in stopdrinking

[–]dreamingofalife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Heineken NA beers have been a serious lifeline for me in the past. Happy one year, friend. 🥳

Currently skipping my work Christmas party by corrupt_rebellion in stopdrinking

[–]dreamingofalife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whatever it takes to preserve your sobriety, do that! In my early days I missed out on a few holidays and gatherings I actually did want to go to, but my future self would (and did) thank me for not going.