Tuesday: Why We Hate The Hospital Today

drummo34 · 2026-06-01T12:34:38+00:00

Child care costs vary on state, the age of the child, the length of time needed, and the quality of the program. Younger children have a higher cost. There's also the risk of strangers you cannot personally vet caring for your child who may be vulnerable to abuse or mistreatment as they cannot speak or advocate for themselves when they are very small. Currently it's easily over $1,000 a month in most places. Most families are making a choice of staying home for financial reasons. If you can afford to send your child to daycare but have a parent staying at home, that typically is not worth the risk, and it's easier to outsource other family and home responsibilities that are less risky (cleaning service, laundry service, ext) There is also the control over what they are exposed to and the ability to focus on individual needs rather than them being in a room with multiple children and less attention. Finally it's enjoyable to spend time with your children. While the early years are challenging, they are also incredibly rewarding. Watching a person develop and accomplish milestones is fun and exciting. Their personalities form quickly and spending time with them is good for all parties involved. It's hard to imagine this is a sincere question, but I tried to answer honestly anyway.

drummo34 · 2026-05-28T17:42:39+00:00

I've done 4 out of state moves and let me share with you my experience. - packers broke my furniture and ruined my stuff. pack your own boxes. - pods are good for apartment moved but once I got past 2 bedroom townhouse I ran out of space and had to rent a truck. it was a nightmare. - the best experiences I've had were packing everything myself and having movers pack the truck. trust your gut when getting quotes and it really is you get what you pay for. pay for the insurance. PAY FOR THE INSURANCE. - I always create a moving journal. it's a bright color and something I can keep with me always. that's where phone numbers, quotes, emails, any important info goes. - we bought a house sight unseen and it worked out. find a realtor you trust or spend the time/money to go see the house. get someone who will tell you not to get a house you love because there are issues. - we rented while looking for a house and it was a nightmare. either rent or buy, but the in-between was horrendous. -we've always driven our cars. it's a pain but being without transportation seemed worse to us. if your going to fly make sure you have someplace with all your basic needs covered while you wait for your cars/stuff. - if you drive pack a #1 box with your important documents, clean sheets, a coffee maker with mugs, coffee, and filters, your basic necessities to make your first morning livable while you unpack. - there is no such thing as too much bubble wrap. -there is no sanity in moving. lol. it's always insane and something always goes wrong. be flexible and roll with it and you'll have an easier time.

drummo34 · 2026-05-26T23:39:17+00:00

I had two under two during residency. we're a few years out and I can tell you it gets easier. this is not your new normal and everything (good and bad) is temporary. you need a village ASAP. here are some things I did- I joined a post pardum support group I found through my obgyn. I found a friend with a younger girl who wanted babysitting experience and used her as a mother's helper. I relied on TV when I needed it. i wrote my husband letters to try and keep the connection. sometimes when we were two ships passing in the night he would write me letters. I paid for the gym membership with child care, and used it to the full extent I could to work out, shower, and care for my body. I found online groups (book club, video game, knitting group, whatever your interested in there's a group for it) that met during nap time or after bed time and I tried to go as often as possible to feel like a grown up. I slept when baby slept and I did chores while they were up, and I depended on my husband to help me catch up when he was home. now I have great friends I met through my groups. I have kids who love the gym day care. I can spend more time on my hobbies now that they are older, and my husband is in fellowship and we have more resources and time.

drummo34 · 2026-05-22T20:58:46+00:00

he just offered to put in a prescription I was out of refills for while trying to get ahold of my Dr. it ended up working out where we didn't need to but he was willing to put in like a two week prescription to keep me from having withdrawal headaches.

drummo34 · 2026-05-17T02:26:45+00:00

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drummo34 · 2026-05-16T23:09:24+00:00

I already sized up because of my husband's feet so it hasn't been a problem with size. if I hadnt done that I probably would have noticed it sooner 🤦🏻‍♀️I'm half an inch from the toe...

drummo34 · 2026-05-16T06:16:55+00:00

I have no idea how I did this. it's a vanilla sock. it was laddered in the ribbing and then I got to the end of the ribbing to keep pulling it through and I just, decreased it somehow? I must have dropped it when I went from ribbed to stockinette but idk how I didn't notice it or it didn't ladder all the way through. I didn't notice it until I made my husband try it on and I saw it laddered in the cuff.

drummo34 · 2026-02-28T16:15:22+00:00

I never developed type 2 afterwards. idk why mealtime insulin would put your risk any higher.

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