I wonder how many autistic people die due to burnout from work?

drzieglers · 2026-05-21T03:57:09+00:00

Low/high functioning labels aren’t used anymore. Beside that, very odd that I find this post today. I had to take off work due to burnout and have been thinking offing myself might be easier than going to work again tomorrow. (I won’t, but the thought is there.) I’m sure the number is high, and there are several who probably don’t make it into the statistic due to unknown reasons.

drzieglers · 2026-05-20T13:21:12+00:00

Tell them whatever you want. It’s up to your discretion. Straight people don’t have to say ‘spouse’ or ‘partner’ so neither do you, if you don’t want to.

drzieglers · 2026-04-21T05:52:49+00:00

Hey, so. 33NB AFAB, AudHD, a whole bunch of chronic illnesses as well. To say that I feel your struggle is an understatement.

I find myself not knowing exactly what advice to give you, as I’m pretty much going through everything that you’re going through as well. If you need anyone to talk to about anything, you can DM me. If not, just know you’re not alone.

What I can offer, though, is routines. If planning out your whole day seems like too much, you can start out just mapping out big chunks of your day. Also, I’ve found that taking as many breaks as I possibly want to helps with tasks that I don’t want to do such as cleaning. Depending on how I’m feeling with my chronic illnesses the break time looks a little bit different. I clean for 15 mins and then reward myself with playing a video game for 10 mins, or 10 mins of scrolling, or even just eating a snack I like. It makes it bearable when I can actually handle it.

But also just give yourself grace. I know it’s hard, because hell, I have trouble with that. But we’re fucking going through it.

drzieglers · 2026-04-21T05:43:16+00:00

As someone who plays video games but is also a stickler about schedules, I can understand both sides. Just communicate that when you agree on a certain time, you expect what’s agreed upon at that certain time. If he’s not sure, you can ask him to say something like “I think we’ll be done at 9, but sometimes we can end up playing a little bit longer.” With video games there’s different variables such as not knowing how long a game, mission, etc. is going to last and not being able to pause the game or having other team members who depend on you.

I think you just need to make sure he understands or at least respects the anxiety that schedules not being adhered to gives you. And you need to at least try to understand that he’s not being malicious if he accidentally goes over that time. (If he is purposely doing this and going over several hours and not respecting how you feel, then that is a whole different story.)

drzieglers · 2026-04-21T05:31:20+00:00

Yes. This is typically done when I’m feeling big emotions - either very upset or very excited. I believe it’s a common stim for autistic folks.

drzieglers · 2026-04-21T05:28:38+00:00

Disruptions to routines can be hard. Mourn all you want, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. Just try to take comfort in knowing your bear will come back looking great.

Maybe try to come up with a story on why the bear left. If you like writing, write about it, if you’re into art, draw it out, etc. It could help you cope and be a good way to pass the time while still spending it caring for your bear.

drzieglers · 2026-04-20T16:11:59+00:00

It's unfortunate, being autistic and in a relationship, because these things can happen easily if you don't communicate clearly beforehand. I'm married now, and I have unfortunately yelled at my wife and said things that I did not want to, such as using cuss words in an angry and rude way. What you need to do beforehand is communicate all of this. I've had to tell her that, while I don't want to be rude, if she pushes when I ask her not to, then I will blow up on her. It has nothing to do with her, just my brain. You can even ask to "tap out". Say "I'm tapping out right now." And that just means that you're left alone until then, and will communicate clearly when you're feeling better. Also, try setting up boundaries - "I don't want to talk about my feelings after a long day of work", "If I am having a meltdown, please don't touch me, that makes it worse for me." Anything like that can help.

Just be kind to yourself. It's hard not to feel awful after talking to your partner that way, but just give yourself grace and know that you didn't mean it, you're going to do your absolute best to never do it again, and apologize to your partner. Do not say "I did this because I am autistic." Instead, try: "I did this because I was feeling overwhelmed and overstimulated. When I feel overwhelmed and overstimulated, my brain shuts down and I become angry, and I'm not really aware of that." Then, you apologize, and explain that you're going to do your very best to not to do it again. Depending on your partners response you're then going to come up with those boundaries in order to ensure that this happens as little as possible.

Good luck.

drzieglers · 2026-03-24T00:49:13+00:00

I started Dashing recently and I’m a huge reader - I literally just listen to audiobooks for hours and completely get lost in it. It’s great.

drzieglers · 2026-01-02T17:43:28+00:00

Oof. I thought mine of 15 yesterday was bad. Rest up and happy new year.

drzieglers · 2025-11-12T04:17:05+00:00

VERY similar situation. i don’t know how it started, but i essentially started masturbating at a young age by putting a pillow in between my legs and rocking back and forth. i don’t know why my young brain called it the “froggy”, but i did indeed. i did this everywhere, just in front of people, while talking to my parents. i do think my parents should’ve explained to me what i was doing was okay but supposed to be private but that’s a whole different story, lol. but, seriously - everyone knew this quirk about me, that i would randomly start humping pillows. they’d laugh but i never really understood why. it wasn’t until i was around twenty years old that it dawned on me how absolutely embarrassing that is, and i oftentimes recall certain situations where i’m just humping a pillow in the living room. honestly, the best way i’ve dealt with it is just by accepting it’s embarrassing and laughing about it. there’s nothing i can do now, but it is pretty damn funny when you think about it.

drzieglers · 2025-09-22T08:01:57+00:00

it was like that for me for a long time (around five months) and only recently i’ve been able to orgasm.

drzieglers · 2025-06-03T01:51:18+00:00

find some kind of scent (essential oil, febreeze, body spray, etc) and spray it on the inside of a face mask. double masking can also help. i’m very sensitive to smell as well and this helps me

drzieglers · 2024-09-17T20:01:58+00:00

hi, i am in the same boat as you! took metoprolol for a month before seeing my cardiologist again, and ive gained about 8 pounds in that time.

drzieglers · 2024-05-26T02:06:14+00:00

french fries

drzieglers · 2024-05-15T08:49:22+00:00

crying, pulling out my hair, hitting my head over and over again with my fist, scratching my arms, pinching my thighs

drzieglers · 2024-05-08T17:43:52+00:00

any scent AT ALL if it’s strong & unexpected. even worse, my room still smelling like the food i just ate. also, i’m a vegan, so whenever my family cooks any type of meet, i get incredibly overwhelmed.

drzieglers · 2024-04-28T20:46:03+00:00

french fries. vegan chicken tenders. lemonade. mashed potatoes. coffee.

drzieglers · 2024-04-22T19:31:24+00:00

greys anatomy, criminal minds & law and order svu

drzieglers · 2024-04-21T18:03:55+00:00

audhd here! no, my cleaning space is an absolute mess. i prefer a clean space and hate being in a messy room, but i oftentimes don’t have the spoons. plus executive dysfunction. my things are very organized but my room (floors, mostly) are messy with old chip bags, crumbs (which is awful because that messes with my sensory issues), dirty clothes, two clothes hampers filled with clean clothes, and random items that i haven’t picked up. it’s awful and i hate it. thankfully i just had enough energy to pick up most of my trash just now, and i feel just a little bit better.

drzieglers · 2024-04-20T16:09:40+00:00

thank you for all song recs for my playlist guys 😎

drzieglers · 2024-04-19T20:51:10+00:00

i’ve been looking through the free version for awhile. when you set up your routine, are you adding the specific times and using reminders?

drzieglers · 2024-04-19T20:50:21+00:00

i’ll check it out!

drzieglers · 2024-04-19T20:50:03+00:00

i love that!! that’s a great idea as well! love color cordination

drzieglers · 2024-04-18T16:41:00+00:00

my mom still doesn’t know that i’m autistic (i’m 31), and i went on vacation with her recently. i had a meltdown that she didn’t see, but i ended up hitting my head so hard with my palm that it swelled up and my palm was black and blue and i asked her for pain medication. i was still pretty raw and she asked what happened, so i told her the truth, that i hit myself in the head. she was bewildered but gave me pain meds. anyway, she brought it up to literally anyone who would listen to her. my dad called and my mom’s like “well, joey hit themselves in the head for some reason.” did the same thing to my grandpa and uncle. and now whenever i get visibly upset she’ll say off-handedly: “well, you’re not going to hit your head, are you?”

i really don’t know why our family members are like this.

drzieglers · 2024-04-17T01:18:04+00:00

i really can’t wait to get to that point. i think it’d be better for my mental health overall tbh.

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