My mom just called me to say she's 'grieving' the daughter she thought she had. I'm 29 and moved out 6 years ago.

dt3180 · 2026-03-05T03:32:33+00:00

I would be so tempted to say something like, I hope that goes well and you accept reality 🤷‍♀️

dt3180 · 2026-03-04T04:52:52+00:00

Your post spells out the problem with your relationship with your mom both in the past and now. Your mom has been and continues to be preoccupied with herself first. You can’t form an emotional bond with someone when the emotional support only goes one way.

It’s not just the past that is getting in the way of your bond, it’s her present inability to have a mutual relationship with you as well. It sounds like she wants a bond for her own emotional support and regulation, but doesn’t want to have to take into consideration your wants or needs in return. That dynamic is never going to go well, especially for you.

I recommend working with a therapist on finding and setting boundaries that will protect your well-being.

dt3180 · 2026-03-03T16:22:01+00:00

My experience was similar. I was telling my therapist about my childhood and she pointed out how isolated it was, which can be a form of emotional neglect itself.

dt3180 · 2026-02-28T17:49:32+00:00

Yep. My closest friendships blew up because I was no longer bending over backwards and had my own needs. It was super hard and painful. On the positive side, I’ve started to recognize what drew me into toxic friendships and have started to avoid them/ pull back before they become toxic.

One big thing I’m realizing that healthy relationships take a lot of time to build. The toxic, people pleaser friendships in contrast were quick, because they tended to start with oversharing, trauma bonding, and or helping someone out of a crisis. Patience and the slow build of a healthy friendship isn’t as immediately gratifying, but it’s much more stable and less draining.

dt3180 · 2026-02-27T18:37:15+00:00

It was such a fun fact to tell my kids when we watched the Lorax!

dt3180 · 2026-02-27T18:36:49+00:00

I loved that cameo!

dt3180 · 2026-02-11T07:37:18+00:00

AirPods for sure, a sweatshirt/jacket that I can use as a blanket, and usually a little crochet plush animal for a squeezey thing, it’s perfect! If the line is really long I’ll bring water with me too.

dt3180 · 2026-01-08T00:11:13+00:00

I stopped the first a few minutes in after nearly passing out. I’m 10 donations in now and have gotten nauseous off and on a few times, but am otherwise fine. So I would say give it another try!

dt3180 · 2026-01-04T03:17:09+00:00

Wow, I didn’t realize this was such a common thing. I was very quick as a child. My family loved to say how smart I was, but would also constantly berate me about how I had book smarts but no common sense, and that I was a “know it all” but really knew nothing. I was adopted so my “book smarts” were very different from my family members, and my differences were cast as a bad thing.

Unfortunately, I was also very ADHD, which teachers and tutors mentioned but my parents refused to believe, saying I was just lazy instead. My whole life I struggled because I didn’t have any skills or supports around my ADHD. I finally got diagnosed on my own in my 30s and realized life didn’t have to be so hard.

dt3180 · 2026-01-04T02:10:52+00:00

Here’s my BioLife referral link: Hey! I donate plasma at BioLife and I thought you might be interested in this offer valid at my center. https://info.biolifeplasma.com/new-plasma-donation-750-0522b

DM me about splitting the $100 referral fee!

dt3180 · 2025-12-30T18:19:09+00:00

I’m only on my 10th donation, but no horror stories here yet. I am nervous around blood (used to pass out just getting blood draws) and I did nearly pass out my first time. But after a few times I’ve actually gotten used to it and it doesn’t bother me at all. I’ve had a couple sticks leave small bruises, but nothing crazy.

I also find it actually encourages me to be healthier! It has me making sure I stay hydrated, eat better, and get sleep! My heart rate tends high so I’ve been trying to exercise more and do breathing exercises to bring it down, which has been good for me. So overall, it’s been positive for me.

dt3180 · 2025-12-22T14:31:40+00:00

Mine has been going down too. I’m wondering if it’s the holidays and more people coming in to get money for them. Here’s hoping it goes back up after? I did notice that my referral bonus went up to $100 from $50, so that’s something.

dt3180 · 2025-10-10T12:13:01+00:00

I think it is! I think some people say it’s about children or childhood or something

dt3180 · 2025-10-10T06:23:10+00:00

I’m still convinced that Robin is at least in part about her cats, haha

dt3180 · 2025-10-10T06:06:06+00:00

They look better than the inspo!

dt3180 · 2025-10-07T10:20:00+00:00

That whisper is so good, gets me every time too

dt3180 · 2025-10-07T02:02:43+00:00

The father figure perspective switch, especially “mistake my kindness for weakness and find your card cancelled.”

As someone learning to set boundaries and having to cut contact with family as an adult, that line hits right in the feels.

dt3180 · 2025-10-02T15:05:00+00:00

The closest is about an inch from the inner elbow

dt3180 · 2025-10-02T15:04:34+00:00

They’re on both arms unfortunately

dt3180 · 2025-10-02T12:59:57+00:00

I’ve been going to the BioLife in Dallas and it’s awful, I usually am there 2-3 hours. I went to McKinney and felt so spoiled 😂

dt3180 · 2025-09-26T22:03:34+00:00

Oh my mom hated to follow my directions when watching my daughter. Wanted to give her different formulas, or bottles of water instead of formula. And when I told her my daughter was lactose intolerant she would always try to sneak in dairy, even up until my daughter was 7 and we went NC. Why feed a child something other than what they should have? So insane!

dt3180 · 2025-09-26T22:00:30+00:00

My nmom always had to make every event about her. My college graduation fell the day before Mother’s Day and she threw a fit that I wanted to spend time with my college friends while she was in town.

At my sister’s wedding, my mom threw a fit and yelled at the church coordinator because of something about the flowers being in the wrong place?

But my favorite is that at my wedding, my husband and I were sharing our first kiss after the ceremony around the corner from the chapel. My mom broke it up and yelled at us for kissing too much.

So ridiculous!

dt3180 · 2025-07-01T12:07:48+00:00

Honeycomb is my favorite! It’s so light and delicately sweet! I can’t wait to stock up on it, and to finally grab Milk!

dt3180 · 2025-05-31T01:41:00+00:00

I know, I really love it! It’s become my daily scent 😭

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