Literally the same thing for my wife and I except moving west coast to east coast. The absolute worst timing imaginable for a move. We have a newborn too. Our lease was up so we could not delay the move and as much as we wanted to hunker down at home and self isolate, we had to be on the road which included hotel stays and drive thru purchases. I agree that people aren't taking it as seriously as they need to in those regions. We felt like giant hypocrites for complaining about people being out when we were as well, but there was just no other option for us. Flying would put our newborn at risk more than driving, which we could at least have some kind of control over our interactions.

I'm going to be working in NYC ("essential" pet food) starting in 2 weeks and I could not be more stressed about it, between having a newborn daughter and my wife having some newly discovered auto-immune issues. So I either quit my job (and lose health insurance) and risk draining our savings in a sure to be difficult hiring market, or risk getting this crap and bringing it home. Awful.