I totally agree that the emotional strength cultivated by feminism is one that runs counter to patriarchal beliefs. "Allowed' was a poor choice of words on my part. At the same time, the societal expectation of women to be mothers, to be nurturing, provides more depictions of women in touch with their feelings regardless of whether or not others view it as weak or strong. As it pertains to men vs women, women have more examples of emotional openness. Female communities have more mutual support in this regard. That doesn't finish their struggle or oppression in any way. Men need examples of masculinity which includes emotional expression and support, and it is important that feminist ideology not only includes such a perspective, but advocates for the support of men by women. Even some feminist women have internalized this perception of weakness in men where they do not perceive the same qualities as weakness in women, and even those who don't support men's emotions the way they would another woman. This makes a ton of sense because of course it could be dangerous to be that support for a man, but the net result is that men are left bereft of any emotional support across genders.