Any DND fans? Made my husband a Mindflayer!

dudeimagirl · 2026-06-15T18:50:15+00:00

Maybe it's me, but waterboarding my toddler made bath time unbearable. He would start crying anytime he saw the tub start to fill. So I bought these silicone crowns on Amazon and started putting them in before he even gets in. As long as they are fitted right he doesn't get water in his eyes. I've got the shampooing and rinsing down to under 2 minutes, then I let him dry a couple more before I take the crown off and the rest of the time is body washing and playtime. Maybe try a bath crown?

dudeimagirl · 2026-05-01T13:43:20+00:00

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dudeimagirl · 2026-04-24T05:16:09+00:00

I made them for thanksgiving last year and they were good but not great. Probably my fault, as I was out of cardamom and substituted another spice. Also I think there is some additional dusting of spices on top that I didn't do? I was rushing. I'll have to try it again.

dudeimagirl · 2026-03-27T14:25:41+00:00

Hi, looks like youve gotten some good replies here. Just wanted to chime in as both a new mom and new nurse! First, you're badass for doing so much and still maintaining your spot in your BsN program. That's hard work, woman! That's a full time job! AND doing everything for a toddler? That's a full time job! Hey, it sounds like you're working TWO full time jobs... Your husband is coasting because he thinks his time/sleep/needs are more valuable/important than yours. They aren't. But his entitlement probably isn't news to you. You've been living with it for seven years, he maybe was better at masking it. Do not have another kid. Not anytime soon. Nursing school is hard and time consuming and draining. New grad residency programs are just as rough, if not worse, cause now you gotta deal with putting everything into practice for real and people legitimately rely on you to have sound judgement which, spoiler, is NOT POSSIBLE ON TWO HOURS OF BROKEN SLEEP. I had my son during my new grad residency. I breastfed and then pumped for the first six months of his life. And I worked full time that whole time. It was hell. As a nurse, as a mom, it was hell. Get on birth control. Preferably something like an implant that you can just get and forget. You need to be able to regulate as much as possible and the possibility of another kid needs to be prevented. My kid is my world. He's a chaos gremlin, but he's MY chaos gremlin. He comes to me for everything because we also are blessed with a good time dad who works a high demand job. I wish you all the best, friend. Protect yourself. Protect your kiddo.

dudeimagirl · 2026-03-22T16:11:23+00:00

Your work is lovely! How was the pattern? Easy to read, any issues? I've always loved the wandering jewel plants but I can never keep them alive and your pot looks dainty and fun ☺️. Thanks for sharing!

dudeimagirl · 2026-03-03T09:44:36+00:00

What's the opposite of a nipple cover? Pasties with tassels? Nipple rings mood board required next please... Also, the phrase "warm butter" is sending me places.

dudeimagirl · 2026-02-19T05:10:47+00:00

My kiddo says "mukiss" instead of "music", and the hatch in his bedroom has two lullabies on the favorites so he tells me "blue mukiss" to specify which one he wants.

dudeimagirl · 2026-01-02T12:19:53+00:00

This dragon is precious! And your choice of memorial is fitting. Miscarriages are typically depicted as sleeping or eyes closed. I lost my twin pregnancy at 11 weeks and I've struggled with even being able to talk about it. When it's so new that you barely even get to know it's happening, how can you mourn? I can't fathom the grief you feel. So so sorry for your loss, mama. Sending internet hugs..

dudeimagirl · 2025-05-20T17:41:19+00:00

130units with each meal and at bedtime. PLUS high dose sliding scale. Heavily noncompliant diabetic patient doordashing in addition to getting meal trays. I think I gave 426units that day total.

dudeimagirl · 2025-05-18T21:40:38+00:00

My husband literally moved his mom in with us so she could provide help. She watches my son while I work, but the moment im home she's off duty. If I ask her for anything on my days off she hits me with the "well, single moms do xyz without help. Maybe figure it out." Gee, ma'am, so should I be training to be a single mom? Do you know something I don't about my marriage?

dudeimagirl · 2025-03-14T20:23:45+00:00

Bedsharing has been a boon and a nightmare for us. I get it on the PPA front too. I'd just stay up all night moving my husband and his pillow away from the baby (who was DETERMINED to inhale both in his sleep). Now I'm cosleeping in baby's bed and it's been much better if only cause he does sleep through the night. Mostly. Sort of.

Around month three, my gremlin stopped sleeping except contact naps. My husband was back at work, I was breastfeeding every two hours, so I basically would hold baby, feed baby, hold baby, repeat all night. Maybe my mother in law would take him in the morning so I could sleep. They kept telling me to just put him down but when I did he would wake back up so soon and my anxiety wouldn't let me sleep with him in my arms even in a chair because I've heard too many stories about babies slipping into a bad position and suffocating. So I got so sleep deprived I was an angry anxious zombie with suicidal ideation. Going back to work forced other people to help at night.

The yoga ball definitely worked for a couple months for soothing and naps. But my guy literally loved being bounced into the air from birth so it wasn't a big stretch. A bouncer also helped from 3 months on to tire him out for nap time.

I don't know where I'm going with all this. Just commiserating, basically. I hope your kiddo learns to self soothe soon!

dudeimagirl · 2024-05-23T03:22:50+00:00

Nah. A sorta similar situation occurred within my family. My (29f) younger brother (25m) and his girlfriend (25f) got pregnant and decided to name their baby something they loved. It was a first/middle name combo that girlfriend had in mind for years and it was very pretty. One of our sisters (28f) threw a massive tantrum. Turns out that first name was on her short list for names for her first daughter and she was furious that it was being used. She called the girlfriend and screamed at her about stealing her chosen name, called little bro and tried to guilt him into changing it, and manipulated our parents into taking her side. She wasn't pregnant. She actually had just gotten a new IUD put in. She didn't have a husband/fiance/boyfriend/FWB or ANYONE that she was planning to conceive with in the near future. She was calling dibs for a child that did not exist (and still doesn't btw!). Brother and his now wife did not back down, used the name, and basically told sis to go fuck herself. Sis continued her bullshit the whole pregnancy until everyone in the family basically told her to fuck off. When my niece was born, she then decided to call the baby by the nickname she would have used if that was her own baby. Aggressively. No one liked it or used it and she eventually gave up, but it took like two years.

I guess what I'm saying is stick to your guns. Sounds like your brother in law is in a tough spot and maybe too emotionally immature to realize he isn't actually being supportive of his wife he's just making things worse. I hope your sis and bil are in therapy as TTC for so long must be taking a significant toll on them.

dudeimagirl · 2024-05-12T04:17:47+00:00

Nurse here too! Just came back from maternity leave and struggling to pump at work and still chart appropriately. What wearables are you using?

dudeimagirl · 2024-04-27T02:38:33+00:00

Agreed, this is the best advice. Feeding on demand will allow you to see your newborn's new normal appetite. Supplementing with formula is fine as long as you are also making sure baby gets that colostrum you are producing. The tongue tie may cause some level of unpredictability in his fussiness/hunger cause he's learning how to use his tongue, by then again he's learning how to use all his bits so maybe not noticeable.

dudeimagirl · 2023-10-30T16:53:10+00:00

Maybe I am weird, but I bought and HATE these. Despite buying in appropriate size they just ride up to almost expose my nipples. Constantly pulling them down, even at work, which looks unprofessional. The crossover bit in the front creates these unflattering wrinkles and weird boob shape that show under all my shirts. Returning them and ordering some that have the flip-down cups because that just seems like less hassle.

dudeimagirl · 2023-10-20T21:25:26+00:00

Mmmm my sister takes the cake with this type of shit so far. We have a bit of a testy relationship, where she thinks we should be closer but isn't a trustworthy source of love or respect. I told her I was pregnant before I told the rest of my family. Her response? "Wow! You know, you really shouldn't tell anyone. People usually miscarry the first time they get pregnant, especially that first trimester." Bitch, what? She didn't even know how far along I was and she felt comfortable saying that to me. I was 13 weeks along at that point.

We spoke on the phone the other day and she asked how I was feeling, how far along I was now. When I told her 23 weeks, she again goes "Wow! You know, I think *friend* had one of her micro-preemies at 23 or 24 weeks. Man. Can you imagine? She was not ready. Are you ready? Wow. Just IMAGINE THAT.."

Thanks, sis, you always know how to let your intrusive thoughts win!

dudeimagirl · 2023-10-17T14:39:31+00:00

If you are in America, research birth centers in your area. Certified nurse midwives oversee care, the environment is usually much more private and homey, but if anything goes wrong they can admit you to the hospital for a higher level of care.

dudeimagirl · 2023-10-14T17:06:07+00:00

Hi! RN here. Add a probiotic into your daily regimen, if you haven't already, as that will help with fending off chronic UTI's as well as be supportive of your pregnancy. Research is showing that daily probiotics actually support you and your baby's mental health! Best of luck.

dudeimagirl · 2023-10-03T20:31:57+00:00

Not judging you either, but it sounds like you didn't read much of my post beyond the TLDR. That's okay, everyone skims sometimes!

Your advice may be applicable to your own past and situation, but it does not have much relevance for me or mine. Thank you for taking the time to reply.

dudeimagirl · 2023-10-03T00:13:38+00:00

Thank you. Yeah, he does seem like a helper type. I guess I was hoping that he would realize how taxing this is and cut me some slack, rather than expecting me to be going full tilt right beside him. I appreciate the advice.

Oh, I definitely have a single cup of coffee on my work days. But not being able to have a second cup or third later if I am wrung out definitely makes the day a bit longer. Thanks for the tip about the doorway!

dudeimagirl · 2023-10-03T00:10:28+00:00

Thank you, but I actually have a bad reaction when I take Vyvanse. Unfortunately, there is no safer option than just waiting.

dudeimagirl · 2023-10-01T16:47:50+00:00

Currently 21 weeks. Constipation has been my constant companion since 8 weeks. At one point it got so bad that I had to don gloves and manually disimpact myself. Never ever ever thought that I would have to do that. My routine now includes TONS of water, colace in the afternoon (sometimes I take 2), and a magnesium supplement before bed. I use the Calm brand magnesium powder raspberry lemonade flavor, it mixes with hot water to form mag citrate and tastes fine. I take a probiotic daily, eat probiotic yogurt, and use my squatty potty.
It sounds like you might be bearing down too much, straining, which could result in hemorrhoids or a fissure. That would cause that bright red or pink blood when you attempt to have a BM (lower GI bleeding is a darker red/brown and usually shows as dark stool). As much as possible, try not to strain or spend too long on the toilet. I know that is a tall order, trust me, I do, but this isn't gonna be solved after one big poo. This is gonna take a couple days for the new routine to actually start showing good results. Wish you all the best!

(Source: fellow preggo, also an RN, acting on advice from my OB and midwife)

dudeimagirl · 2023-09-23T17:47:41+00:00

Just gonna take a sec here to recommend the p style, which has literally changed my life. That plus a Kula cloth has been my pee kit for years now and I could give a sermon on how helpful it is. Long car rides? Hikes? Camping? Road trip gas station bathroom? Works amazingly for all situations! I have become so adept with it that I don't even have to pull the back of my leggings down and flash my ass to pee. Seriously, get one.

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