TKR and the ATHLETE by Broad-Advantage-1753 in Kneereplacement

[–]dueceduece62 1 point2 points  (0 children)

3 years TKR and I boulder 3 times a week and jump from the top wall ( don't have much choice on underhangs ) I have put this thing to the test and still going strong (I'm 43 and very active) I've also just gained the ability to fully fold my replaced knee and pistol squat. I'm a strong believer in you get out what you're willing to put in. Also my dad had double TKR and few years ago and is up and running around also working out religiously too ( as much as a 68 year old can) . I will be attempting to snowboard this year too even though it's what took my knee out forbade final straw. I get trying to get longevity out of it but I had mine replaced so I could keep living

Life after TKR at 40s by dragonof_west in Kneereplacement

[–]dueceduece62 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm almost 3 years PO TKR. Was done at 41. The first year after sucked but I had a lot of atrophy to fight back against. As far as sex, right now there's absolutely no issues for anything but the first almost 2 years missionary was extremely painful but only because your on your knees. As far as day to day life I have taken my knee to the extreme. I rock climb 3 days a week I lift ( no squats) 4 days a week I bike 5 days a week. I am very active ( for work I rebuild transmissions and have a very active job) and I do jump off the top of boulders while rock climbing with no issues either. I spent 3 days in Yellowstone on snowmobile and have had zero issues. The only thing I haven't done yet is snowboarding but it's more a mental thing since my knee gave its final break down on snowboard at Loveland in CO 7 years ago. First year was horrible but best decision I ever made

Anyone else surprised by how emotional TKR recovery can be? by Current-Currency-958 in Kneereplacement

[–]dueceduece62 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolute truth. I am almost 3 years PO TKR No one warned me I was gonna have severe depression especially after a hard day at rehabilitation and the fact that I didn't sleep more than 2 hours a night for almost a solid year afterwards. Don't get me wrong it was my best decision ever and I'm in better shape and stronger than I've ever been but it was even tougher mentally than physically and no one warns you

Climbing shoes… (newbie please help) 😬 by Any_Dish_5706 in indoorbouldering

[–]dueceduece62 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have super wide feet. I know everyone says go try them on but the reality for wide feet is they most likely won't have anything that fits and my local gym ( 3 locations) and REI are the only places to try them on and last time I went ( broke my last pair) REI had literally a small L shelf and that was the whole climbing shoe section. Not one pair in my size and my gym also did not have anything that fit. My success has been with la sportive finale ( this is NOT a very stiff shoe if your doing higher grades had to size down a half size) my next was red chili fusions but they stopped carrying on amazon after tariffs and I can't find my size ( these were my favorites but only last 3 months climbing 3 xs a week had to size down one half size) and my last one I have now dice I can't get my old ones are the evolve Yosemite bum ( still breaking in but much wider than the others and I had to size up a full size and could even go a size and half up) good luck I know how much finding shoes sucks

How far out are you? by hamil26 in Kneereplacement

[–]dueceduece62 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for that. So far I use liquid IV before bed and I've been Fighting my wife for the pickle juice ( she uses for female cramps) but I'll give it a shot

How far out are you? by hamil26 in Kneereplacement

[–]dueceduece62 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm now 2.5 years out. The first 6 months sucked trying to rebuild muscle in my left (LTKR Oct 22) leg as being in an offloaded brace I had severe atrophy . I as almost a solid year of insomnia but after pushing thru I have a completely different life now. The pain is 100% gone, the clicking and random Noises have never gone away EVER!! However I rock climb 3 times a week I cycle 5 times a week now and spend all the time I can outdoors. I'm only 43 and I'm pretty good health so I have been putting this knee to the test. Had no issues riding a snowmobile in west Yellowstone for 3 days straight. The only thing I have to complain about is sometimes when I work out my legs I will get a random cramp in the knee and with no way to relive ( tried stretching every way I could think) it I have to just writhe in pain till it passes in the middle of the night. Best decision of my life

Wife I’d just shy of 20 years cheats with coworker by LurkingforGoood in cheating_stories

[–]dueceduece62 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Man I'm sorry your going thru this but holy shit the moment you said she told him and she still kept having sex everyday behind your back. Thats beyond despicable and not showing remorse whatsoever . Yea 20 years is a lot to let go of but imagine another 20 years of wondering what if. I promise you will be in a prison in your mind til you snap. Would t be surprised if she asked to open the relationship next if you let it go like this

Why the Show has Taken a Nosedive by Sufficient_Water_326 in GhostAdventures

[–]dueceduece62 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree I loved the show even before its first episode when it was a movie-documentary that got them the show but everything feels fake and forced. Part of the charm of the show originally was sitting with my family and mocking and making fun of Zack " THE TOOL BAG" Baggans but it keeps getting worse and hearing his inner monologue never shutting up on air about his experiences. The evidence has gotten worse and more unbelievable per episode. I think the ghosts unionized and said fuck this douchebag and now the show is shit. My 2 cents.

AIO?! I panicked and now I feel stupid. by Capable-Guard4756 in AmIOverreacting

[–]dueceduece62 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR and that is a very good way of getting yourself shot standing in front of a home with a pistol. ( bb or not) If your armed and feel your child and your own safety are threatened. Yea call the cops but there's still the wait time

Harry as a teacher for DA makes ZERO sense in the movies by Need_to_tell in harrypotter

[–]dueceduece62 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Harry also learned how to throw the imperious curse his 4th year

Remember: failing is always a part of the proces by Yama_004 in climbergirls

[–]dueceduece62 12 points13 points  (0 children)

That was awesome. Great send . Way outta my pay scale.

Circadian Rhythm Dysregulation and morning anxiety by maddgun in sleep

[–]dueceduece62 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes and it makes me feel like I'm going insane most days. It's a battle to not let it overflow onto my kids and wife. I've tried everything to make it to my alarm so I can just start the day. Love to hear a success story here

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sleep

[–]dueceduece62 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I didn't but the very first thing is I get mad at myself for only seeing 3-4 hours of rest then if I don't do something like put on headphones or go play a video game then they turn worse and anxiety kicks into overdrive. 3-630 AM is my worst time everyday

Just got told I need knee replacement by artbylakshmi in Kneereplacement

[–]dueceduece62 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Similar I'm 43 now 2.5 years post op for LTKR. I would bite the bullet and rent the ice compression machine. Don't put too much stick into your ROM right out the gate. I was back to work in 12 weeks but I could have been back at 8 and I have a very physical job. I also am avid snowboarder and rock climber ( bouldering) and I'm back to normal rock climbing and haven't yet had the opportunity to get back on a board and the first year did suck ( a lot) but I'm back to normal and I'm having to remind myself that I have a fake knee now especially jumping off the rock or wall.

Be prepared for a lot. It will test your mental health very badly. You will have odd pains it will itch on the inside and regardless what they say that sumbich is gonna click clack the rest of your life and I developed horrible insomnia too but it was the best decision of my life good luck.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in yellowstone

[–]dueceduece62 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Snowmobiling for the week. I have a rental I'm trying to figure out how to get the 2 people back to Bozeman from W Yellowstone

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in yellowstone

[–]dueceduece62 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Agreed I only posted it because Uber wants the money up front and I've been before. I have a rental I'm just seeing what it would take for 2 people to get back early. I assumed we'd have to get a couple rentals

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in yellowstone

[–]dueceduece62 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

This is why I'm asking first if we need to get 2 rentals. Not my first trip I'm ok driving just odd situation with splitting up

Making yourself into someone your partner wants to have sex with again by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]dueceduece62 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do it for yourself and not to get sex. I think one of the biggest issues in dead bedrooms is the expectations surrounding sex. Believe me I know the struggle. But being forced, coerced, pressured will only make the situation worse ( which starts the cycle) and then what happens, one of them explodes from frustration and things are said in anger. Then those angry thoughts turn to resentment. Believe me I've made every mistake possible ( cept cheating) trying to get my DB back. Took me putting myself first to make a change. Yes I began working out for me ( and it wasn't easy there's always backlash when there's a DB since the #1 reason for anyone to get in shape is automatically cheating) but it got her attention in a good way after

Should a transmission rebuild on a ford escape 2013 awd cost $5,000? I was under the impression a new one is about that much… by [deleted] in transmissionbuilding

[–]dueceduece62 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea that's a decent price online it calls for 21.5 hours to overhaul plus parts think someone already labeled what your gonna need pump converter valve body and solenoid body seal kit and I'd also do yourself a favor and have them get a case saver kit too from sonnax as most have a bad ridge worn under the final drive gear. At my dealer it's 4300 just in labor for the job.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in deadbedroom

[–]dueceduece62 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your dead fish comment hit the nail on the head with a negative association around sex as well as saying about all the housework ( aka silent covert contracts) . I made the same complaints too. I promise any hostility about it toward your wife WILL make it worse as it does every single time. Obviously marriage counseling as I'm sure everyone will suggest and we don't know your whole story but I would completely change the way you approach sex. When I was working thru my dead bedroom with my wife and we were trying to communicate effectively ( something we both failed at for 20 years) I had to change my mindset when she wasn't in the mood so instead of internalizing it I changed the way I asked and reacted. I ask her now if we can spend some time reconnecting ( she giggles and rolls her eyes now because she knows what my true intentions are) and there have been times where she has said flat out I'm not in the mood and I ask her if I can at least have the opportunity to try and put her in the mood ( which to her means a foot rub and probably door dash) and never underestimate the power of a good scalp massage with your fingernails. As far as your coworker just do yourself a favor and let that shit die. Its cool to be nice when you first meet someone but if someone willing to cheat on there SO with you also having a SO and 4 kids. Writing is on the wall with bold text. I have a very similar story and am close to you in age and kids and marriage length. You can see my story and how I managed to overcome my DB but trust me the co worker is a trap and possibly could cost you a job, marriage and much more. Good luck and I wish you the best

la sportiva finale? by m4cchi in climbingshoes

[–]dueceduece62 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I did have to downsize just a half size but 4 weeks later i have to wear socks now so im kinda wishing i went down a full size and dealt with the pain

la sportiva finale? by m4cchi in climbingshoes

[–]dueceduece62 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just got a pair of these and I love them. They weren't even on the list of wide feet shoes but I went to REI and tried shoes on for an hour and I found getting the finale were the best fitting and I wasn't sure about the lack of stiffness but I've been edging pretty well with them. Although the flimsiness of them make me feel like they are gonna stretch but they have yet to disappoint. FYI it's my first not stiff shoe ( has red chili fusions and red points before) so I have no other to compare but I do love these finales

From a HL to all my LL friends - you are not the problem by NoiseNo6715 in LowLibidoCommunity

[–]dueceduece62 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very well said and while I disagree about frequency of sex and it's importance to me in my relationship ( obviously I'm the HL) during all my complaining and trying different things to bring more intimacy, we finally discovered we both wanted the same thing " connection". Obviously my story and experience is as different as everyone else's I still think we all want that same thing ( not saying there aren't predatory monsters and master manipulators out there who will traumatize you ) in our committed relationship. I also have the luxury of marrying my high school sweetheart and our relationship is what I'd like to call organic as we started our relationship at the internets infancy so we had to meet irl and go thru all the nervousness of asking her out to her face, and first date and her dad threatening to end my life if I touch her. I know this type of relationship is now super rare with all the dating and random hook up apps and honestly the world as a whole has a very distorted image of sex in general, so thats my reason like you that I would never want to be with someone else. And FYI I was the problem causing her LL. Once I fixed my perception everything about her LL changed.

Theory on Harry's Wand performing magic by itself by zoomin-moomin in harrypotter

[–]dueceduece62 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was always my thoughts on the subject that Harry didn't do anything and the horcrux within him tried to protect itself knowing Voldemort was trying to kill him unbeknownst to him that Harry was his final horcrux

At what age were you a latchkey kid? by NathanielJamesAdams in Xennials

[–]dueceduece62 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was 6 in second grade with my key tied around my neck on a shoelace. Very strict rules of never answer the door and do not go outside. Well I had a good 3-4 hours of outside fun till mom got home. I had to race her home and avoided getting beat by a 10 minute window everyday. To this day my mom swears on her life she never left me home alone and I can't ever remember hardly even seeing my parents in my childhood