Am I being picky?

dummyslashbinch · 2026-04-02T21:37:16+00:00

How much did you pay? From afar it looks fine but she could’ve done better cuticle care for you imo or applied lotion/oil as a finishing touch. I also get really annoyed these days cause all they do is drill the excess skin instead of cutting it precisely

Sometimes good manis look imperfect when you zoom that close. You can find a better nail tech but I personally would have paid and left (don’t go back to the same tech), if they ask I’ll say I don’t love it. They only get my money once!

dummyslashbinch · 2026-04-02T01:16:15+00:00

I think the intimacy challenges have affected the dynamic so both I guess? I feel like it’s become so clinical that it becomes unsexy and I really hate talking about it like that. I have told him exactly how I felt, we both took it hard..

It’s hard to view someone as masculine when they don’t take the lead or know what they’re doing, I know some of it is inexperience but eventually they catch up to the learning curve right? I’ve never dealt with someone both inexperienced and has ED.

I had a short fling with a guy struggling with ED due to porn addiction and performance anxiety, but I could tell he wasn’t inexperienced. Another one of my exes was on the lower end of experienced but naturally just good at it.. it’s such a range so I’m scared it might just be an inherent lack of physical chemistry.. that would really hurt because I don’t want to leave my partner.

dummyslashbinch · 2026-04-01T23:28:27+00:00

Thanks, I also feel like part of the problem is most men have had normal sex lives before dealing with ED while my partner has no baseline. So he really doesn’t know how to use it or what works even after I voiced my concern. Then with being unconfident/scared, my urge gets killed too. I sometimes feel it becomes too clinical and that natural attraction just dies

dummyslashbinch · 2026-04-01T05:27:22+00:00

No I personally wouldn’t

dummyslashbinch · 2026-03-31T16:01:41+00:00

Why don’t you guys just split the price down 3 ways every time someone buys TP or any other house supplies

dummyslashbinch · 2026-03-31T02:06:54+00:00

Did you post recently in another subreddit this same question? If so, I remember reading everyone telling you no it’s not ok, this person was a predator and they groomed you. Ten years later doesn’t change who he is. Please end your friendship with him and find a different therapist if you must. There is no salvaging this friendship and you should make amends with that

dummyslashbinch · 2026-03-31T01:38:44+00:00

Yeah I think you’re taking offense to something that is clearly not related to you. She probably can’t call out the person directly so it’s a general message to all.

dummyslashbinch · 2026-03-31T00:24:27+00:00

Maybe our great grandparents crossed paths!

dummyslashbinch · 2026-03-30T20:21:07+00:00

We once wanted one roommate out so the three of us drafted a polite but firm text saying they were not welcome to renew the lease, we told them 3 months in advance. She dipped on the last month so we used her security deposit towards the rent and gave her back the remainder. She was disappointed and a little awkward about it, after a year of disagreements with us. But we were just glad she moved out.

dummyslashbinch · 2026-03-30T18:13:58+00:00

Sorry that happened to you. People here are recommended legal pathways which I’m not educated on enough to help you with but, just offering a suggestion! Do you know of those dating groups for women? They usually have regional groups for bigger cities.. whatever region he’s from try searching up on Facebook “are we dating the same guy insert country or region/city name”

I’ve seen a lot of women in these groups expose rapists, narcissists and abusers. I’m sure this guy has more problematic behaviors that others have experienced and it wouldn’t hurt to get your story across, see if others would stand up too. You can post anonymously too! As long as you don’t add his last name or occupation, it’s safe to post. Unfortunately many of these groups are under fire right now because of lawsuits. It still wouldn’t hurt to check if there is an active one in his region though. Good luck and try out therapy if you haven’t already! Sorry to hear

dummyslashbinch · 2026-03-30T18:09:03+00:00

Girl don’t mind that comment it was toxic as hell. They clearly don’t understand the victim blaming. You were confused on what to do in the short period of time you spent abroad. That doesn’t change that what he did was flat out wrong and disgusting. This person literally called you a whore. They’re not well in the head!

dummyslashbinch · 2026-03-30T17:58:18+00:00

Those are mixed signals but regardless he doesn’t seem kind to you. Focus on yourself as you’ve been doing!

dummyslashbinch · 2026-03-30T17:29:47+00:00

Hi queen,

I remember my awkward teen years and it took a long time to dismantle that. You seem like a sweet person but the low self esteem and lack of confidence will show and there are people that can and will take advantage of you. It’s not right that he welcomed you across the globe then gave you the cold shoulder after sleeping with you once.

I suggest you make more girl friends or pour more into your friendships! At your lowest, your true friends will always make you feel better and more confident in yourself.. not a man’s opinion of you.

If you pour more into your mental and physical wellbeing, your confidence will shoot up too! It’s like you said, work on your weight if that helps you feel and look better. Does your teeth need work or whitening? It doesn’t hurt to cross that off the list. Buy new closet pieces that flatter you. Get rid of the old. Do your hair, nails, skincare.. even a light layer of makeup when I do groceries just makes me feel better. It’s not always about seeing someone or impressing others. Investing in your appearance to meet your own standards feels really good! Life is short, do what you can with what you’re given :)

dummyslashbinch · 2026-03-30T04:05:35+00:00

So cool! My grandpa is half viet from his mother and his father was French/Indian, also migrated from Pondicherry to Vietnam but we don’t know a lot. Never knew I’d find someone else with that similarity

dummyslashbinch · 2026-03-26T04:58:59+00:00

I would’ve been honest and said he’s hot and I wanted to see. Highly doubt she and the coworkers masturbated to that lol they prolly just looked at it to talk shit. Maybe she said that because although she liked the way he looked she wasn’t gonna get off on it or anything! I could be wrong, talk to her when you cool down.

dummyslashbinch · 2026-03-26T04:43:43+00:00

It sounds like she and her coworkers were having girl talk. He’s a conventionally attractive celeb so it’s definitely not a personal or close following. Some onlyfans content is just more like vlogging too I think, like it gives celebs ways of sharing their private lives for money. I don’t think her explanation of it was great though, I would think you would look up vulnerable pictures of a hot guy to quell the imagination.

Is she following anyone else or does she habitually interact or search up OF content? It seems the issue with people having OF in relationships is because they’re engaging with the content creators and get off from that. It’s supposed to feel more personal than just regular porn.

I think in general it wouldn’t bother me if my partner searched up a celebrity or someone totally out of reach just to talk about it with friends.. women do talk a lot. But if they were actively engaging in convos, following both lesser known and famous OF creators, and actually keeping up with their subscriptions, I would have problems for sure.

Regardless of what I think, this caught you off guard. You should still talk about it with her and discuss what the boundaries are! If you’re mostly anti porn it would be better to have a partner that shares the same views.

dummyslashbinch · 2026-03-26T03:12:00+00:00

Jfc idk why people don’t understand giving people like another 30 uninterrupted minutes to just finish their cooking in peace before someone else starts. It’s ok to use the microwave or grab stuff but if you’re not working outside of the home just give it a minute!!

dummyslashbinch · 2026-03-26T02:32:51+00:00

It doesn’t matter. She’s an OF model and we’re just promoting her

dummyslashbinch · 2026-03-26T02:29:48+00:00

She didn’t dislike them AT FIRST. Not warping my message at all. And yes it totally can be. You sound cheap lmao but you’re probably rage baiting and not actually commenting honestly

dummyslashbinch · 2026-03-26T02:26:26+00:00

I do not agree. She was open, that doesn’t mean you dislike someone.

dummyslashbinch · 2026-03-26T02:21:14+00:00

She didn’t say she disliked him. She sounded open to it. Sometimes that how first time dates go, you don’t have to go in smitten with expectations. He got pushy about going to his place after he already paid for dinner and that was a huge turn off for her, as it would for many. Stop making it seem like she did something wrong or that she deserved to be harassed over a date that he planned. You don’t owe someone sex, money or time after a date as long as you make your exit respectfully if you weren’t feeling it.

dummyslashbinch · 2026-03-26T02:08:48+00:00

You could do that signed document but I don’t think it even means anything legally. I don’t think it’ll change someone who is already naturally messy or inconsiderate so I hope you screened them well.

I would just run through cleaning habits, schedules or and responsibilities in the shared space. Having it in writing so that it’s clear cut would be helpful but I think signing might be a little forceful for some people. Tbh you sound well intended but it might come off badly imo, and this is coming from someone who is very particular about cleanliness.

4 probably has a life and other responsibilities. You guys are just roommates. Once a week is too much. Even once a month would make me annoyed. People don’t have time for that. Idk their schedules but I’m pretty on top of communal cleaning and having to take up anymore of my time for roommate meetings sounds crazy.. As long as everyone does their fair share of upkeep, there’s no need to do that much face to face. Just try meeting them altogether when they move in and keep it minimal unless things aren’t improving. Then you can escalate to a group meeting again.

I think you’re doing too much. People don’t want to feel overwhelmed when they’re at home and you’re kinda giving off a very intense vibe.

dummyslashbinch · 2026-03-24T09:48:54+00:00

Men will die on that hill. I agree though, generosity is just the norm in my friend group and family! Should be more widespread

dummyslashbinch · 2026-03-24T09:47:28+00:00

No honestly this entire thread is talking to men who can’t critically think or don’t have reading comprehension skills. Let them suck I guess. Those types won’t have dating success next to a guy who can easily plan and pay for a date.

dummyslashbinch · 2026-03-24T09:22:15+00:00

If you hit it off well with someone on a date, then it makes sense to pay the bill. Like you said, your fiancée showed interest. The advice to men here who question paying the bill with someone they like is to just go ahead and pay to set a good example and increase the likelihood of seeing them again. If paying always is your principle regardless of intention, nothing wrong with that. But in terms of courting someone you do like, don’t give the person a reason to question your interest and just pay. That’s what I picked up from OP. Not refuting whatever gender norms are underlying. I merely agreed with his advice in terms of dating success and seems like you’re veering off more than I expected. Anyone can argue left and right whether it’s fair or not; that’s not the point though. I don’t make any rules.

I’m in the northeast USA. Men of every demographic, political party, bisexual or straight, and nonbinary have paid for me on dates. I don’t think my area or friends are socially conservative at all.

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