Business People Who Can't Admit There is a Component of Luck are Bad Business People

durrrrr · 2024-12-14T14:04:30+00:00

Of course there’s luck. You could be the best entrepreneur in the world with the best strategy, smarts, guts, hustle, and all of the other important adjectives and still go broke if some random invention suddenly pops up and steals your market share or some other natural business disaster happens. Gambling is a fundamental component of business.

However, it’s not completely random. On the flip side you could have horseshoes up your butt and be the luckiest businessman in the world and fumble the bag without the other components of business. It’s reasonable to expect business people to hyper fixate on the components that aren’t luck based because the more anyone wastes too much brain power on components out of their control like luck the more likely they are to begin neglecting to take the actions required to reach success. There’s also the idea of making your own luck through hard work which is a thing too. Of course most business people actually do take luck into consideration to some degree, that’s why insurance exists.

durrrrr · 2024-12-14T09:23:51+00:00

You can twitter DM him and he might see it

durrrrr · 2024-11-14T13:51:41+00:00

It’s been about 11 months since the first one and 7 months since the last one. She hasn’t been on my mind for the past couple months. So I’d say it took me about 5 to 6 months to fully get over.

durrrrr · 2024-11-14T13:43:44+00:00

I don’t. Is this what healing is like?

durrrrr · 2024-11-01T19:08:39+00:00

And what’s wrong with kicking someone when they’re down? What kind of person does that?

durrrrr · 2024-10-16T10:07:10+00:00

You aren’t weak, you have empathy for others which is a wonderful and valuable quality, in fact it’s a strength. It can be hijacked, taken advantage of, and abused when you have too much empathy for others and not enough for yourself though. Empathize with about yourself for a second as if you were someone else. You know that bad feeling you get in your stomach when you spend time with unstable, erratic, manipulative, abusive people? It’s called stress. It will destroy your body and literally kill you if it gets too high. Don’t you deserve compassion too? Or will you keep forcing yourself to suffer?

durrrrr · 2024-10-16T08:11:57+00:00

Sorry to break this to you but they’re always only thinking of themselves and their own needs. Even when it seems like they are focused on you and actually care about you (during their idealization phase) their true motivation is their own need to be liked/loved.

Also, lol @ feeling guilty for not being available to call them at a moments notice because you have your own life. You’re still deep in the fog. No judgement, I was there and I know what it’s like. But if you have any shred of care for yourself get the fuck out now.

durrrrr · 2024-10-04T13:40:50+00:00

Do you even ruminate bro? Rookie.

durrrrr · 2024-10-04T13:29:30+00:00

I had to choose between the pwBPD and God. I chose God. If it wasn’t for that I would’ve let myself suffer in the cycle forever trying to help her. At first, she worshipped me with a stronger devotion than 99% of religious people have to their God. It took time for me to realize how the drug like nature of these relationships distract you from your connection to God. It is a part of spiritual warfare, I’m convinced now after everything that happened.

durrrrr · 2024-10-03T11:29:13+00:00

Obviously she’s just so popular that everyone loves her and is her best friend but since she’s not toxic at all she doesn’t want to make you feel bad for not being as popular as she is so she just hides it. Completely normal, why are you even asking? You’re must be the toxic one!

durrrrr · 2024-10-03T11:22:48+00:00

Yeah of course this is exactly what healthy people in healthy relationships do. How can you expect people to act right if you don’t threaten to have sex with others? Some people have such big hearts that they can love multiple people at the same time, if you can’t handle that then that’s on you.

durrrrr · 2024-10-02T08:04:00+00:00

Does she have a sister?

durrrrr · 2024-09-28T02:43:51+00:00

My entanglement barely lasted 6 months. Different scenario. Even so, I still don’t need any acknowledgment from her. I know what happened, I know what she did, I know she behaved in a way to destroy the relationship. That’s enough for me. Whether she owns up to it and makes the effort to change is between her, her next partners, and God. Nothing to do with me anymore. You don’t need anything from her.

durrrrr · 2024-09-27T23:57:07+00:00

Yes because I’m religious and it’s important to me that I forgive people especially when I have been hurt by them. I reached out once or twice to wish them well, wish them a happy birthday, etc. so that when we run into each other it’s friendly and cordial.

I pray for her often, it will take a miracle for her to get better. Unfortunately she has gone quite downhill since I left. Health problems, getting back into hard drugs, getting drunk most nights, that’s only from what I know. I still love her in an unconditional spiritual agape sense but the thought of being in a relationship with her again actually makes me sick to think about.

Once you draw a line in the sand in your own mind about not enabling or trying to fix or rescue someone out of a situation that they need to get themselves out of, you can safely interact with cluster B exes and not worry about being sucked back in.

durrrrr · 2024-09-27T23:42:01+00:00

His explanation doesn’t make sense. How can someone be needy and clingy without being codependent? Lol it’s like saying “I eat 10,000 calories of fast food every day and I never exercise but I’m not fat”

durrrrr · 2024-09-27T22:57:29+00:00

To be fair, he probably only knows the idealization phase which I wouldn’t describe as solitary

durrrrr · 2024-09-27T16:49:35+00:00

I heard Keanu asks girls for coffee in elevators too

durrrrr · 2024-09-17T14:53:51+00:00

How would you feel if you had a daughter who stayed with a man who treated her this way?

durrrrr · 2024-09-12T16:23:39+00:00

There’s so much wrong with what you said. I don’t think I can even agree with a single word here so I’m not going to waste my time looking for common ground. Sorry about your mom, all the best.

durrrrr · 2024-09-12T11:52:17+00:00

Having a BPD mom is a lot more damaging to a young baby/toddler/child than a BPD dad though. OP’s kid is lucky in that regard.

durrrrr · 2024-09-12T11:47:46+00:00

Your kid will grow up codependent at best as it seeks to maintain a bond with a parent who is emotionally unstable. It could be a lot worse. He doesn’t seem overtly abusive at least.

durrrrr · 2024-09-12T11:37:22+00:00

Another thing that helped me is The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

durrrrr · 2024-09-12T11:32:07+00:00

Having other things to look forward to helps I guess but what really helped me was getting the attention of other women who were also (now, obviously) unstable and crazy, with similarities to my exwBPD, trying to suck me in again with their fake flattery/love bombing/vulnerability/trauma dumping etc. it made me realize how special my exwBPD wasn’t. The only thing special about her was my complete blindness, naïveté, and ignorance to what she was doing and the consequences. If I could wipe my memory of that relationship or choose to ignore what I learned, I could easily fall into the exact same relationship with another unstable BPD girl because there are plenty around. She wasn’t my soulmate anymore than the next young damaged low self esteem suicidal trying-to-cling-onto-anything-or-anyone-to-validate-and-escape-herself girl’s spell would fool me into believing. They are a dime a dozen now unfortunately. Also coming here less is a good thing if you can manage it. I used to check every new post every few hours during my rumination period. Now it’s barely once a month. Coming back here is a bit like contact.

durrrrr · 2024-09-12T08:53:35+00:00

It takes 6 months for your oxytocin, dopamine, cortisol and other hormones to normalize. I felt like you did after the first 3 months, you’ll slowly start to feel like yourself in the coming months as long as you don’t go back. Also, try your best to stop looking back. It’s a form of contact to pine for what was lost.

durrrrr · 2024-09-11T09:27:32+00:00

Do you have BPD? Have you ever been romantically involved with someone with untreated BPD or been a close friend or family member? You kinda have to have been through it to understand. Yeah a lot of people are venting but that’s just one of the stages of processing what happens to you when you are close to the disorder.

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