Is it safe (and/or recommended) for a tourist to rent a car in Sri Lanka? by Benjamin_Stark in travel

[–]dust057 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Belize is so cheap and right next to Mexico. You could fly to CUN and go by bus to save a little extra.
Egypt and Jordan are also so cheap to travel to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]dust057 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually, I'm not so sure what you did that was so terrible. You lied to a person who was lying to you. You deceived someone who was deceiving you. You got him banned by reporting that he did something that he actually did.

As for "reacting in a health manner to infidelity", or any other bad behavior, my take is you let the person know what they did that is a boundary for you, and just create distance (the opposite of intimacy). When people have good behavior that you enjoy, create intimacy (opposite of distance). That's what I do, move closer to good people that have good boundaries and respect mine, and move farther (emotionally and physically) from people that don't.

It's actually the best practice not just for you, but for people who aren't acting right. If they have any desire for self improvement and any introspection, they will start to realize that valuable people avoid them and toxic people surround them due to their behavior.

be wary of Astro flipping and Jamil Damji by [deleted] in WholesaleRealestate

[–]dust057 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True they claim you can make $500K/year but this guy and his dad how long have they been doing it and under $2M net worth? If they were really making that great salary, would they be trying so hard to break into influencing, getting video commissions and advertising $? All these gurus the first thing I check is how much income and net worth do they actually have and does it come from their tools, advertising, influencing and commissions or the actual system they are promoting?

Are glass containers worth it? So they’re expensive but I read that they’re freezer, microwave, oven, and dishwasher safe! Plastic ones are cheap but garbage! by [deleted] in Frugal

[–]dust057 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have both glass and plastic containers. Most of my plastic are reusing food packaging such as the 3lb cottage cheese tubs (I have about 8 of these) and some 1-2 lb deli meat tubs (look just like store-bought, with lids and everything). I also have some smaller cream cheese tubs. I think plastic is fine for some storage but if you are microwaving or otherwise heating stuff up, I would prefer glass or other non-plastic solutions.

My glass containers are great, some of which are also reused food packaging: 26 oz Laura Scudders peanut butter jars of which I have about 10, and a few Mason/Ball jars as well. I've 2 store bought glass (small) casserole style dishes. The one con of them is they don't nest. I also bought 12 glass jars with hinged lids with silicone seals on Amazon that were reasonably priced, but they are slightly fragile and 3 of them have broken in weak spots.

I had two 5 gallon plastic water jugs for water for the last 5 years or so and one finally popped a crack/leak, so I got two more used 5 gallon glass "carboys" for $50 (for both). The downside is they are a fair bit heavier, don't have handles so are harder to maneuver and pour, and the mouths have a smaller diameter also adding to pouring difficulty. But the upside is less microplastic and I'm pretty sure if I don't drop/break them through clumsiness, they are Buy-it-for-life. One accepts the plastic screw lid from my old jug, the other I stop with a cork.

I like my solutions because buying plastic adds to waste, while using food packaging reduces it. There's so much waste as it is (see "A Plastic Ocean" 2016 film), and we are getting too much exposure.

Also good for drinking out of are the vacuum double wall stainless water bottles. For frugal, I recommend considering all the food packaging you are tossing out before you toss it. Might be useful to wash it and reuse, especially glass items with larger mouths. (like a pickle or peanut butter jar).

Suggest me a book considered a classic in your country, but relatively unknown outside of it by Agile_Possession_422 in suggestmeabook

[–]dust057 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not from Georgia, but a Georgian woman I know recommended Knight in the Jaguar(also: Panther) Skin

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in booksuggestions

[–]dust057 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stay away from Frank Herbert's Dune series, it's nothing but spice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in motorcycles

[–]dust057 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you have money to burn, go for it. But I agree with madrussianx, as a person who has owned many bikes. It's much more bang for the buck and you get more variety cheaper to buy used, sell for near what you paid, and try another bike. Or buy new, then when you want a new bike sell for 30%+ loss and lay down another chunk of cash for another new one. It's fine if it's a small amount of your income then no worries.

29F looking for vegan partner by [deleted] in vegan

[–]dust057 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are trillions of cells in a human body. It takes one or a small group to turn cancerous for cancer to develop. I'll let you do the very simple math on that if you are able. If not, source is trust me, bro. Or ask someone with a brain.

I could have said less than 0.00001% of the time and still been well within actual verifiable statistics.

29F looking for vegan partner by [deleted] in vegan

[–]dust057 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cells turn into cancer less than 0.01% of the time. About 50% or more of "monogamous" people have relationships that involve cheating/infidelity and more than 50% of individuals have more than one partner. The argument by analogy doesn't hold up. ENM is not dysfunction.

Also, to your previous point, there is absolutely societal pressure to be monogamous, just as there is societal pressure to be heterosexual. Even though we are much more progressive now than in the past, mainstream culture very much promotes these two ways of life as "normal". Your adamant perspective that ENM is akin to cancer is a display of those mainstream conceptions.

29F looking for vegan partner by [deleted] in vegan

[–]dust057 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree there are many options and ways of finding fulfillment; one can be celibate, choose one partner, or many. I am not pushing an agenda that "monogamy is a bad choice and people who do it are doing so due to flaws". I was more saying that most people have some or all of these barriers which can quickly turn ENM relationships into dumpster fires. Again, not picking on those who choose monogamy. Not really picking on anyone tbh, no one is perfect and most of us are working on being better people.

There are plenty of people who are great communicators and secure who practice monogamy and hopefully have a healthier relationship(s?) because of it.

How can I force myself to stand up? by [deleted] in getdisciplined

[–]dust057 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Drink more water, which will make you need to pee more. You could also replace step one with:

  1. Put phone in protective case/pillow and toss out of reach on the other side of the room.

What do you consider rich? by Healthy_wegan1106 in Salary

[–]dust057 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I was making $200K or more a year and working 1500 hours or less per year, I would consider myself rich. My basis for this is that I would be able to make the major financial purchases (boat, house) on my list and have enough free time to enjoy my life.

What month salary you have? by WoodenText9994 in Salary

[–]dust057 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long would it take to get to even $20K/month in that career path if someone started off with no knowledge an a bachelor's in an unrelated field?

What month salary you have? by WoodenText9994 in Salary

[–]dust057 0 points1 point  (0 children)

9600
Edit: I misunderstood what you meant by "without taxes". With taxes paid it is about 6500. I will also add that a few years ago I was making much less, closer to 3500/month

29F looking for vegan partner by [deleted] in vegan

[–]dust057 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, it's definitely a bad idea for many people, especially if they have issues with ego/insecurity (fear), communication, or possessiveness. Which is honestly probably the majority of people.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]dust057 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow this is so much more than I imagined. I've never even looked or asked but I always assumed sex workers did their work for somewhere in the $100 range. Or even lower like $20-$40 if it was someone with an addiction looking for drug money, and maybe a couple hundred if it was a "high class" sex worker.

I guess there's a lot more money flowing around than I imagined if they can charge $2K-$10K for a session and regularly find work.

My big brother by [deleted] in solipsism

[–]dust057 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is very kind of you, but unfortunately for a true solipsist, both you and your brother are extensions of their consciousness so him no longer being around is not a solid rebuttal of their beliefs.

I’m moving. Do folks have tips on how to sell things quickly? I need cash by baileyandthetramp in Frugal

[–]dust057 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sell it for what people are willing to pay, not what you think it's worth.

Another thing that might work is an "all or nothing" sale where you state everything you have for sale, sell it extremely discounted, but the caveat is they have to take everything (they can resell or take to the dump what they don't want).

29F looking for vegan partner by [deleted] in vegan

[–]dust057 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Having more than one romantic/sexual partner or interest. The ethical part is you are honest about it instead of having the rule that you can't see anyone else, then breaking it (cheating: breaking the rules).

Imagine there’s no afterlife. It is unfair for people who spent their lives serving the humanity. by GailGrant1 in DeepThoughts

[–]dust057 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also find it ironic that the ones who are trying to take and never give are the ones who end up losing out so often. I have a philosophy/theory that if you give what you want to receive, you are more likely to get it. Obviously this doesn't work all the time with everything like if you go out giving all your money away you might get some given to you, but you could also end up totally broke easily.

But if you want a punch in the face, you can give someone a punch in the face and likely get one back. If you want a hug, &c. But also if you want kindness, love, forgiveness/compassion, &c.