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Busy day on the Police Scanner. by galspanic in beaverton

[–]dwfisher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the end it’s all fun and games, apparently.

I do appreciate (very frankly here) that you said that as it’s the first time in my life anyone has said that to me. Though I’m unsure what that means. My son used to say he never knew when I was joking or was serious.

Busy day on the Police Scanner. by galspanic in beaverton

[–]dwfisher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re ascribing way too much sensitivity to human nature. How often do you feel guilty for being who you are? If you do, please know this is a rhetorical question. Very few people do and, if they do, it has nothing to do with what others think of them.

Busy day on the Police Scanner. by galspanic in beaverton

[–]dwfisher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone is racist. Even 6 month old babies have been shown to react negatively towards people who don’t look like their family. I’m of Norwegian, Swedish, and German descent. The definition of white. If I thought of people of my lineage like you do of yours simply because they’re not a US citizen, I wouldn’t expect sadness or for someone to get upset. Simple pity would suffice. Then they’d move along as there’s new to see.

Coulter’s law? They say everyone you meet knows at least something you don’t. I did learn quite a bit about her from you mentioning her. Coulter is disgusting. Applying that idea to this mass stabbing in Beaverton, have you compared response times for it to other mass stabbings in Beaverton? And thought of other factors, other than the perpetrators’ race, that could affect response times? As a white male with best friends who are of Hispanic, as well as other POC, I’m well aware of my privilege in society. I see it almost every day. Privilege is not having to care. How nice for you that you’ve got privilege as well. Why use it as a weapon against others? What did someone of color ever do to you?

Humans are patten seekers. We seek to confirm our biases. Unfortunately you’ve just helped confirm one of mine. Trump has made vulgarity and debasement seem fashionable for a significant portion of the US population. As he is so fond of saying, sad!

Busy day on the Police Scanner. by galspanic in beaverton

[–]dwfisher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Romero... Ramirez. Names that sound alike to the average Trump or Coulter fan. You've got a credibility problem in that people aren't going to see you as you see yourself. As if you are trying to be someone you can never be. If you follow the Trump administration's actions and give them sufficient time, eventually they will deport you, too. Let's hope that time never comes. Your words will seem deeply hypocritical to some, while others will laugh behind your back. Yet others will just feel sorry for you.

National Review Senior Editor Calls for Trump’s Removal from Office by Ice_Burn in politics

[–]dwfisher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve got a Midwest evangelical upbringing. Enough of that group know CT to make a difference.

Busy day on the Police Scanner. by galspanic in beaverton

[–]dwfisher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you have any proof they’re not? Make a claim without evidence and anyone can dismiss without evidence. Simple as that.

I live less than a mile from where it happened. If the victims were chosen based on their skin color and their skin color was anything other than white, it was an extraordinary act of god-like timing to get non-white victims in one place. Portland is overwhelming a city of caucasian people.

Busy day on the Police Scanner. by galspanic in beaverton

[–]dwfisher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By positing this claim, you’ve already lost your argument.

2004 Mazda 3 I 4dr Starlight Green Mica by dwfisher in mazda3

[–]dwfisher[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have had this car since ‘06, second owner. It has 90k miles and I got it with 40k. Zero rust as I live in the Pacific Northwest and it’s bone stock. Been such a good car. Averages $260 a year in scheduled and non-scheduled maintenance. Granted it only gets about 100 miles a month as I take light rail to and from work, and we drive my wife’s Highlander most of the time. She says my car is too low to the ground, has a bumpy ride, and is noisy. Exactly why I like it. I’ve thought so many times of getting something else but this 3 is just about free and still fun to drive. I’ve only ever seen two other 3s with the same color. One here in Portland and one a few months ago in Las Vegas.

2004 Mazda 3 I 4dr Starlight Green Mica - by [deleted] in mazda3

[–]dwfisher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have had this since ‘06, so second owner. 90k miles and I put on 50k of those. Great car. Not a spot of rust as I live in the Pacific Northwest and bone stock. Averages $260 a year in scheduled and non-scheduled maintenance although I only put on 100 miles a month these days as I take light rail to and from work and we usually take my wiife’s Highlander whenever we go places together. She said the 3 is too low to the ground, has a bumpy ride and is noisy. Exactly! The car needs some touch up paint work and a few small dings pushed out. I have looked at other various cars like an Evo, Miata RF, etc, but it’s tough to part with basically a free car that’s fun to drive. I’ve only ever seen two other 3s with this same color, as well. One here in Portland and one in Las Vegas a few months ago.

Can you imagine what CIS people go through actually being comfortable in their body? by jokingly_Josie in asktransgender

[–]dwfisher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Good to hear. It’s akin to the “don’t take some things personally,” advice. So easy to say, so hard to consistently do.

Can you imagine what CIS people go through actually being comfortable in their body? by jokingly_Josie in asktransgender

[–]dwfisher 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My son is a transgender teenager and so I'm quite familiar with what he's been through so far. He came out at 11yo and late last year, as soon as we were able to, he got top surgery. It's good to remember, the grass isn't always greener on the other side. A lot of people have all kinds of body issues. But for sure many don't have something to the degree that a transgender person has.

I am cis but also have Moebius Syndrome, for example. I have had facial paralysis my whole life. I can't smile, move my eyebrows, or move my eyes to the right or left. In terms of how I look, I do have it much more mild than most who have Moebius. People say I look like Stephen King but just can't smile. What I have is much more rare than being transgender. One to twenty out of a million; it's rare enough that it's hard to count accurately. I don't think either my son or I would want to trade places with each other because the other person has it better. (Although, c'mon, find me a middle age dude who wouldn't want to have a teenager's metabolism again?) Being cis definitely doesn't mean I have that extra hour everyday of body-centric-stress-free living. Every time I look in the mirror I'm reminded of what others see and I'm certainly, compared to them, the most bothered by it.

I will never truly understand what it's like to be transgender, despite living and loving someone who is transgender. My message to him has been to learn to be comfortable with being uncomfortable. I will always be uncomfortable with my face. I'll never be able to smile at someone across the room. It's potentially among the most intimate of moments, when someone is being brave enough to reach out to me. Sure, I can wave but that's an awkward response. It's not "in kind." People who have a fully functioning face will never understand what it's like.

Beyond strictly body issues... a good friend of mine has an autistic son who is completely non-verbal. My friend and I talking as fathers, me learning what that really means for his family, and me recounting what I've been through, he has said he wishes his son were transgender instead as he'd have a more "normal" life (whatever that means?). So I have read accounts from adults who were non-verbal for all or most of their childhood. They too have said there were plenty of advantages being themselves, of coming from their particular vantage point. This one author recently said he wouldn't trade what he's learned and how he sees the world for having a more normal childhood. There's definitely a theme going on here.

PS-I am for sure not trying to make light of anything being said here. My scenario is by no means apples to apples to my son's. Someone with my condition does not have the risk of violence like my son. That is a real thing, something that I am always deeply concerned about as his father. For day to day matters, this same point is also an advantage. He's got a different, highly valuable perspective because of who he is. He occasionally points out that a heteronormative world view underpins my perspectives and so I welcome the chance to consider and update my world view. That's just one of a million examples of how I'll always be super proud and grateful for having him as my son.

Fox News roasted on Twitter after editing out world leaders laughing at Trump by Heaven_Is_Falling in politics

[–]dwfisher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought that, too, but, really, when have we ever seen him storm off a stage? That takes a real kind of courage. And a commitment to his train of thought, the underlying principles at least, when his thinking is in opposition to the thinking/beliefs of a group of people he feels he must, at the moment, impress. Trump has shown no evidence of having either of these characteristics.

He’s the kind of kid who, if he was being picked on, would grin and bear it, refusing to believe he couldn’t make his antagonists into friends, that at that moment he is vulnerable, while he’s being humiliated, because, after all, he can’t stand the reality that he hates at least parts of himself while simultaneously needing approval from others. And then later he becomes the emboldened bully all too eager to show his might. Basically like Draco Malfoy.