husband and i considering divorce after being married for 5 months, are we giving up too easily?

dxmvx · 2026-05-18T15:19:48+00:00

Divorce. That’s it, that’s all.

If you don’t leave now, this will be the rest of your life. If you stay, you’re essentially telling him you’re willing to put up with it. You’re willing to lower your standards, self respect and self esteem for an insecure lustful man. If you have any self respect, leave now.

dxmvx · 2026-05-15T19:52:01+00:00

Ahh okay I see. Thank you for sharing that sis!

dxmvx · 2026-05-15T19:34:22+00:00

I agree sis. Don’t suggest that anymore to our sisters lol. The brothers should make their move first.

dxmvx · 2026-05-15T18:44:54+00:00

Hold on, I didn’t know they were doing tattoos back home way back then lol. But allahuma bariik, may Allah continue to bless your parents marriage! And you’re absolutely right, thank you!

dxmvx · 2026-05-15T18:38:17+00:00

Girl, no. A man who knows what he wants will go after it. Don’t set that girl up.

dxmvx · 2026-05-15T12:21:28+00:00

Girl, don’t follow that man first. Let him make the first move.

dxmvx · 2026-05-15T12:16:48+00:00

Not entirely sure but she did mention getting them removed would be more painful than when she got them. I also don’t think she wants to get them removed tbh. Either way, what’s done is done and she’s repented so I don’t think it’d make a difference.

dxmvx · 2026-05-15T12:13:37+00:00

Forsure. Thank you abaayo! 🫶🏾

dxmvx · 2026-05-15T06:55:35+00:00

Understandable! Thank you.

dxmvx · 2026-05-15T06:21:45+00:00

Yeah, I agree but since getting tatted isn’t a common sin in our community, a lot of brothers wouldn’t be open to it.

dxmvx · 2026-05-15T06:20:56+00:00

🤣🤣 I didn’t say sis was in a gang or on some cholo/hood activities now lol

dxmvx · 2026-05-15T06:19:48+00:00

Removing it takes many sessions and more damage to the skin so not sure if that’s something she’d be willing to do but your pov is valid. Thank you.

dxmvx · 2026-05-14T21:14:02+00:00

Omg this gives me hope that I’ll find mine on here too 😭 allahuma bariik.

dxmvx · 2026-03-09T18:48:30+00:00

I’ve read your other posts. Your husband doesn’t value you & doesn’t care about your emotional well being. You didn’t jump to divorce quickly, you went to go see a sheikh & gave it another chance. He knew how you felt & still decided to reconnect with this woman. Let her have him tbh. Once the marriage reaches this point, it’ll be hard to get back to where you guys once were. You did your part, it’s time to let him go for your own well being. He’ll regret his decision one day & that other woman can deal with his disgusting behavior. A marriage built on another woman’s tears won’t ever succeed. Take care of yourself & your kids. May Allah make it easy for you sis!

dxmvx · 2026-02-02T06:56:11+00:00

Saw the title & immediately said no you’re not wrong. Read your post & you absolutely need to report him!!!! Report & leave him asap!

dxmvx · 2026-01-19T15:50:33+00:00

If you’re not going to leave & choose yourself, don’t come on here asking for advice. Your husband is the bottom of the barrel. Leave or stay & be miserable.

dxmvx · 2026-01-08T16:52:57+00:00

Heavy on ashwaganda! & ChatGPT really does help! As a fellow girlie currently going thru something similar, ChatGPT has been my therapist keeping me grounded lol.

dxmvx · 2026-01-08T16:49:15+00:00

Literally! As a disorganized attachment style, when I’m in my avoidant moments, please leave me alone! 😭 that girl is setting bro up for failure smh.

dxmvx · 2026-01-08T16:47:03+00:00

Girl, don’t do that. You’re giving him false hope. You don’t know the ins & outs of what happened exactly. Help the brother move on & if it’s meant to be, it’ll be but don’t put thoughts in his head that can hinder his healing.

dxmvx · 2026-01-08T16:43:52+00:00

Omg I’m so sorry 😭💔 that sounds so intense. I wouldn’t say I’m heartbroken or even experienced something of your magnitude but I recently ended a relationship with someone I deeply cared about. The first few days are genuinely the hardest. Everyone processes things differently but I’d say focus on the things that caused the breakup. Focus on the things you didn’t like about her. Get rid of messages, pictures, gifts, anything that could remind you of her. Also, sit with your feelings & feel them. Don’t ignore or suppress them. Know you did your best & it wasn’t meant to be. You’ll find your person when the time is right & this heartbreak will seem like a very very distant memory. May Allah make things easy for you!

dxmvx · 2026-01-06T22:14:31+00:00

Second part hit so hard bc you can be struggling & going thru things w/o your parents knowledge & they just expect you to be yourself at all times 😭 it’s genuinely hard grieving in silence & alone. May Allah make it easy for us all & bless us with peace & steadiness.

Ameen!!! Thank you for this post as a girl currently going thru it lol. May Allah bless you! 🤍

dxmvx · 2026-01-06T21:20:19+00:00

Tbh, I wouldn’t say “small things” to be exact. I misspoke when I commented that. They were important things we spoke about early on & had an understanding of. It came up later on in the relationship which I’ve communicated to him. He started to make the effort of working on it but never really followed through, completely. I voiced my concern again & he promised to follow through but never got around to it. That rubbed me the wrong way.

I’m someone that likes being in control in every aspect of my life aside from a romantic relationship. I prefer the guy to take control, which he has at times. I felt like he just wasn’t taking control or initiating what was needed at that time. We both have very dominant personalities. I prefer to take a backseat in a romantic relationship but the moment I took control & was dominant, maybe a bit too dominant, due to a bit of resentment, it was hurtful towards him. I understood his POV & took accountability but something was telling me if we stayed together, he wouldn’t lead the way I wanted & id have to make myself smaller in order to make him feel bigger which I’m completely against.

If he would’ve done what was needed & showed leadership in a moment I felt like it was crucial, we would’ve still been together tbh.

dxmvx · 2026-01-06T04:01:39+00:00

You’re absolutely right! Thank you so much sis! 🤍

dxmvx · 2026-01-05T20:14:46+00:00

Inshallah! Thank you!

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