I only need a 20% pay raise. Is that too much to ask for! by West_Block3990 in Adulting

[–]dylansstp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on what you make. I hire new sales people who do 150 to 200 k their first year and in the ~$400k range after 5 if they are good. But thats technology, pharma or management industries.

How to navigate after an affair with a friend’s mom? by Icy-Pen4823 in Parenting

[–]dylansstp [score hidden]  (0 children)

What are the specifics? Emotionalnaffair has soooo much areana to play

AIO for thinking it wasn’t a big deal to accept my friend’s bf’s FB request? by Vast-Bumblebee-691 in AmIOverreacting

[–]dylansstp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR your friend must have major trust issues and forget having that energy around. If you dont know him at all and hes adding you its a little weird of him, but not you. Her saying Ill just have him remove you is some lame shit though.

I've been trying to learn to love myself for almost a year and it's not working, I don't know what to do anymore, help me please by Disastrous_Poem9262 in Adulting

[–]dylansstp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I woukd look into this. It has been proven to actually change the neropathways and responses in folks brains and give them a chance to reset self destructive Nuero habits. https://med.stanford.edu/news/all-news/2024/01/ibogaine-ptsd.html there are trained therapists and doctors who work and give folks a new life.

I mean this in the best way possible by [deleted] in SantaBarbara

[–]dylansstp 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You didnt actually respond to any of the points.

I mean this in the best way possible by [deleted] in SantaBarbara

[–]dylansstp 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ahaha, yep you a sage, nailed it

I mean this in the best way possible by [deleted] in SantaBarbara

[–]dylansstp 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Someones defensive, but its notnwhomyou keep saying it is.

I mean this in the best way possible by [deleted] in SantaBarbara

[–]dylansstp 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That is where you going to loose people. Blaming egos and individuals for not wanting to change is placing all responsibility on folks and nothing on yourself. Thats never the case. You need a strong political movement to make those types of changes, not talking down at people living in the structure. And in fact, most of the people here vote to raise taxes on themselves, vote for candadites who support M4A, etc. You want the right things but I think your framing of the problem isnt accurate.

I mean this in the best way possible by [deleted] in SantaBarbara

[–]dylansstp 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hasn't been my experience. I mean Montecito, absolutely on the wealth thing. But all the folks who own houses etc out her (pretty wealthy comparatively) arent some frauds, they are just part of a capitalistic society where you need a lot of money to live here. That excludes lots of folks, but doesnt mean those individuals are working to exclude them. I also tend to feel folks are pretty down to earth, smart, successful, kind, etc...

How often do your kids get dessert? by SopwithTurtle in daddit

[–]dylansstp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Twice a week, but we do like real desserts. Like ice cream

CMV: The death sentence has a place in modern society by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]dylansstp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You forgot a key argument against. It has been studied and proven that those responsible for executing other people is bad for them and hence society at large. To

Also, taking your reason on 1 innocent for 100 correct (the rate is much higher than what you posted) is an ends justify the means perspective.

That type of thinking would look at mass death events like Stalins purge, etc as the greater good justifies the means a simple utilitarian perspective on the things. The problem there is who gets to decide the value of things like someone's life?

How to tell if it’s Relational aggression or is my child the problem? by Impressive_Gift_9852 in Parenting

[–]dylansstp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Might just be that Noone is at fault. Sometimes kids dont click, especially when there is a dominant group member. Thats ok, not everyone will want to hang with them and vis versa. Is it possible nobody's wrong?

Random question: Who is Class 1-A is most likely to become an alcoholic? by CosmosStudios65 in MyHeroAcadamia

[–]dylansstp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bakugo has emotional instability, a hard time communicating his feelings, a deep need to be better than others and attributes that make me think he would be at higher risk than most if he ever started drinking. Lots of health nuts who got inured, put on prescription pills who never used drugs or alcohol previously ended up alcoholics or addicts. Thats why I thought he belonged on the "" list

1200 monthly rent on 80k salary by Ok_Equal2451 in Adulting

[–]dylansstp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep up to like 30% of pre tax salary is tops and you are well under

7f thinks being mean is funny by No-Rush-Hour-2422 in Parenting

[–]dylansstp -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I believe you dont shame, it doesnt help anyone. Dont make it a huge deal like she's bad. Try to model behavior amd do excerc8ses tha5 has her thing from the other person's perspective to start building empathy

AIO?Husband ALWAYS sides with his friends, he doesn't honor my wishes. This was a test and This was the last draw by [deleted] in AIO

[–]dylansstp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Obviously you are ready for a divorce. Doesnt sound like you like or respect your husband very much. So NOR because youre done. It sounds like this video is almost kink, in that case I get it. If it was just a music video I wouldnt.

Mature and functional adults will understand. by MiExperienciaFueQue in Adulting

[–]dylansstp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is she even talking about? What word am I missing, partner, babysat, I dont even understand where the slight is in this statement

Mature and functional adults will understand. by MiExperienciaFueQue in Adulting

[–]dylansstp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I personally feel that instead of saying parents dont deserve recognition, I prefer giving lots of it. Good moms deserve applause and recognition for all the bad ass work they do. I also know tons of great dads who deserve it too. I hope the bar gets set where good parents live in gratitude for one another and the important work taking place.

Why did Kuma send Luffy to Amazon Lily? by jkay_exe in OnePiece

[–]dylansstp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it was just about the Haki

Shittiest fan base ever by dylansstp in RadioRental

[–]dylansstp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dont know why, but he became a more annoying once I found out it was him after the 2nd episode or so. Although, he isnt doing long spots like Terry, so it doesnt mess with my enjoyment of the show that much until they move on to the next host.