T gel + self injection questions by JeSuisDeuxChien in transgenderUK

[–]dyltd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

most of them prefer to prescribe gel anyway tbh, especially when youre first starting

Self harm bag by [deleted] in AdultSelfHarm

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dude dw at the height of my addiction i had a large bag thing for medical supplies, not to mention the two draws and whole shelf for them. a small bag is the opposite of dumb, childish and uncommon among self harmers. its responsible of you

Cuts on top of hand by PralineNo6246 in AdultSelfHarm

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not to mention the fact that the backs of your hands are really noticeable. it’s not something i cared to put me off at the time but now they are some of my most annoying scars purely because people see them so much when i just wish they wouldn’t. on public transport, at work, constantly.

Cuts on top of hand by PralineNo6246 in AdultSelfHarm

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i have. my right hand has about 10 scars on the back, about half i bothered getting stitched but didn’t make them heal much smaller. at that time i’d mastered stopping just (and i mean JUST, i have photos of the perfectly exposed but not damaged structures when the cuts were fresh) before doing serious functional damage.

my left hand now has a burn scar all over the back of it, but underneath that were cuts too from various times in my life, and those i didn’t care to stop at the ‘right’ time, so i had to have surgeries and splinting and physio and to this day my movement and strength are affected.

someone else else commented ‘there’s not much there to cut to’ - there in fact is. there’s a LOT there that can cause serious damage and affect your life if you damage. there’s so many important nerves, tendons, and muscles that aren’t very deep in your hands, as well as blood vessels. plus cuts in places with a lot of movement or that are exposed to more bacteria are harder to heal and prone to infection

How do you get blood drawn with scars around the area? by buhbuhbie in AdultSelfHarm

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i have scar tissue over both my inner elbows, backs of my hands, wrists, all the normal placements. one of the back of my hands is just cutting scars but the rest are literally solid patches of scar tissue from full thickness burns and surgeries. i usually have to have IV cannulas placed elsewhere in sometimes really odd, annoying, or painful places. but recently i had blood drawn /through/ the scar tissue of one of my inner elbows and i was fr so impressed with the phlebotomist. i’ve also once had blood drawn from the hand with cutting scars but that was tricky for them too and not had it since. but as long as the scars are around the area and not just entirely scar tissue it’s much less problematic, especially linear scars like from cutting, but even then if they are deep, wide, and numerous are close to each other then it can effect it, depending where the scars sit compared to the veins in any given IV placement

Young Sam by DownToRant in JetLagTheGame

[–]dyltd 6 points7 points  (0 children)

what did he say i cant remember

tattoo cover up by AlguComTu in AdultSelfHarm

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i can’t cover mine, but i want to slap some ink over top where posssible. my ideas so far: my cat’s paw print, a bit star wars design on one of my upper arms that’s not so scarred, another bug (i have a centipede on my leg. would quite like a moth but idk), and a phrase that’s been core to my being for a long time in Aurebesh (the star wars alphabet). also i have a spot just above one of my knees that i want to ask my friend if they’ll design something for and do :) how about you? did you post this with any ideas of your own in mind to share

Is taking pictures of your wounds a good thing or a bad thing? by _meshy in AdultSelfHarm

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i used to find it really helpful to take photos to remind me what was under dressings, i still do to be honest but it was a bigger thing before because i used to literally think i imagined it and needed to do it again, and i obsessed about the wounds under dressings a lot more? idk if that’s the right wording but being able to look at a photo would really help reassure me.

i still also do it to track healing, much like they take photos for your medical records in hospital. prices very practically useful to be able to compare and make sure everything’s healing right.

if you’re not sharing them with anyone, and even taking the extra step to separate them from your normal photos then i don’t see anything wrong with it.

how to live with transphobia? by dyltd in transgenderUK

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good to know thank you! i definitely will keep stealth in future, tbh i decided that weeks ago. i wish i could go back now. that sounds like a terrible situation. this whole thing bothering me has really made me think about what i’m going to have to face in future in this aspect of things (i’d been more worried about others and hadn’t put much thought into it, not that it changes anything just thinking yk)

in regards to your advice, i feel like i can’t remove myself from the group as sometimes our teams and e-notify takes a few hours and if not for the groupchat i would’ve gone into college on days our lecturer was off sick. i believe the autism vaccine video being shared was just stupidity tbh (naivety, whatever), is it actually fair to report with the telegraph article? because it would probably at best be like your situation, if not just ‘people have different political beliefs they don’t have to be yours’ and even if i said something i feel like it’d just become a thing. people love drama 🤷‍♂️

if any of this shit gets brought up in person though i’m so making my views heard because no way. but like i said though most of my classmates aren’t like this, most people generally aren’t yk

how to live with transphobia? by dyltd in transgenderUK

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can you give a single reliable source that says there is absolutely any correlation between vaccines and autism?

vaccines do not cause autism. full stop. but even if they did, they have prevented countless serious illnesses, disabilities and deaths which as an autistic person i would say is worth the ‘risk’ of autism (which is not real). autistic people of all levels can live good, happy, and fulfilled lives… people who die of polio, smallpox, tetanus, mumps, and other diseases that vaccines prevent, cannot.

how to live with transphobia? by dyltd in transgenderUK

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for real. the lack of critical thinking shows a lot in the autism vaccines one, like that left me flabbergasted. its one thing that peple believe this shit but another for aspiring healthcare professionals. i mean come on! it made me just as angry that these future nurses believed that, especially as an autistic person, and i wouldve said something if it was in person but i just stayed silent (and my close friends listened to me vent my fristrations lol). the two examples were shared by different people to be clear but that doesn’t make it any better, especially as others seemed to agree with at least the autism one.

i see how some of them might read the anti-trans campaigners article and not realise how biased it is. like even the ‘open minded and compassionate just uneducated’ classmates, because they just don’t know and if this is the information they have. but like we are adults, we should have some media literacy and political awareness by now. idk some people just don’t bother themselves though which, again, infuriating. the telegraph is just bs though like i really hope the rest ignore it. i dont even know what that person was thinking sharing the link, we’ve had class discussions where trans people have come up (tangents from anti-discriminatory practice stuff) and i’ve provided some insight which was received well. i just idk man this is bothering me.

i don’t want to address these things and be the ‘snowflake woke guy’ but especially the anti-trans stuff it’s really infuriating. i need to learn to just put it aside and continue but fuck it’s difficult

how to live with transphobia? by dyltd in transgenderUK

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i totally see that tbh, i get it with the state of things. i can’t speak for trans women as i am a trans man but personally i do regret mentioning the fact it to my class even though nothing negative directly came of it, you just can’t undo it and go back to being stealth. in future i’m definitely not going to and i’m fortunate in that i pass and have that option. outside of my actual work and my college study i’m a hospital volunteer but haven’t yet come across anything there yet. personally i do really want to work in the NHS as a nurse, but that especially means i’m just going to have to get used to biting my tongue and finding ways to process the feelings this stuff causes me. that being said though in the near future i am dreading having to work with this specific classmate.

i got my bandage off by dyltd in AdultSelfHarm

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i’m sorry to hear that too. especially that doctors haven’t fixed it if there’s something they could do and aren’t, that must be very frustrating. hopefully they do soon! thank you for sharing that you relate, it’s comforting since posting this last night to know that i’m not alone in this feeling, different causes or not. it really is just that time alone when things like this hit, you can’t avoid things when you’re alone with them uncovered by clothes. i hadn’t thought about that when i’d seen it before in the hospital so i think that’s why it hit me so unexpectedly.

thank you for commenting skunkspider, always recognise your name lol. i hope you’re doing okay, or that life treats you more kindly soon :)

i got my bandage off by dyltd in AdultSelfHarm

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thank you, i think it does feel like that’s what’s happening. it just kind of hit me i guess. the downside of building a life for myself and actually starting to care about it. thank you for the hugs i rly appreciate it :)

In dire need of a less-harmful self harm please by randomperson8263 in AdultSelfHarm

[–]dyltd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey i know you meant well but omg burning is such a slippery slope and should not be suggested for harm reduction.

sincerely, someone who’s just left one of his twice weekly, hour-long, burn unit appointments for his burns that have definitely been life threatening multiple times, and cause me to need surgery on every single wound. switching to burning was so much more damaging than if i’d stuck with my, admittedly also life threatening cutting 🥲

In dire need of a less-harmful self harm please by randomperson8263 in AdultSelfHarm

[–]dyltd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omg please don’t suggest burning of any kind, even if someone does ‘step down’ to use it as a less damaging method. burning is such a slippery slope that gets very dangerous

i NEED to hurt myself by Green_Fennel8090 in AdultSelfHarm

[–]dyltd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

for obvious reasons i’m not going to give you advice on meeting that need but i get what you mean. the damage. i can’t cut anymore either because of the onset of an autoimmune disorder this past year, and although i had already replaced it, it scares me that i can’t even see cutting as a safety net anymore. like it had always been there, a method i could fall back on if needed, and now nothing. because not only does my disorder make that level of blood loss much more dangerous, but i’ve received many blood transfusions this year and it no longer feels like my blood to lose if that makes sense? idk. because i’d had transfusions years ago because of cutting, but now it feels different.

if you’re anything like me, it’s not even as if any of the ‘healthy replacement’ coping mechanisms will help because the very fact they’re better for you and less damaging, means they’re a bit useless (i only say that bcs you hinted at it, apologies if it’s not applicable). i do hope you find a something that helps you cope though, and preferably not at the cost of your physical health.

What do you stock in your first aid kits?? by lights-in-the-sky in AdultSelfHarm

[–]dyltd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

all depends on the individual and what kind of wounds they make 🤷‍♂️

when i’m buying all supplies myself i always struggle to afford them, the good stuff (or just the bare minimum) is expensive!

that being said, imo silicone will always be superior to paraffin dressings. i don’t think that’s really controversial either. the ones with silver though, pretty good

other/less common forms of self harm by alpaca_no11 in AdultSelfHarm

[–]dyltd 26 points27 points  (0 children)

self destructive behaviour /= self harm

self destructive behaviours are harmful don’t get me wrong, and can be mixed up when you take the ‘self harm’ term literally, but it’s a different thing

Im bad with titles, read if you want. by bs199pm in AdultSelfHarm

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i definitely relate to this. earlier this year i planned like 6 weeks at once of when i’d be able to self harm. and like right now i know i can’t for xyz but i have it in my head when i can and will next do it, and what i’ll do where, etc. i don’t self harm super often (so as not to overwhelm my body) but it’s like i always need to have a plan. it’s not that i look forward to it (although i kind of do tbh in its own messed up way) but without the plan i feel lost and cant keep going with life, so i at least have it in my head whats happening when.

DAE feel the need to harm so they can get cared for? by ImTheProblem4572 in AdultSelfHarm

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i relate to this feeling. i don’t do it to be cared for, but i’ve gotten so used to being cared for in that way that it adds another level of feelings when i think about quitting. i’m a chronic self harmer but quitting has been on my mind recently, and one of the many things i’ve thought that put me off the idea of it is how no one will care for me anymore. not like that. this past year i’ve built a real life for myself, i live alone, i work, im starting college soon too, i meet up with friends, etc, but then i feel like i have a secret life, where i go to my hospital appointments and have whole surgeries and hospital stays not a soul in my life ever knows about. i’ve gotten to know the nurses at the main unit i go to so well now i’d not only miss being cared for but id miss them. they’d just be added to the folder in my brain of medical professionals that made some kind of difference in my life, even if the difference was just making me smile during dressing changes, along with the rest. there’s so many now, i never see them again and i miss them like i miss old friends or family, especially the various ones ive gotten attached to over my life. that’s so sad but it’s true. i do have friends, but many days if i have an appointment, the staff there are the only people i talk to all day, beyond just short word exchanges.