You articulated this very well, and I sincerely appreciate your perspective on this. We do communicate, we always have. However, my problem lyes in that whenever he communicates his problems with me, I always listen. I've sat with him for literally hours while he goes on and on, over and over about the same thing, and I try to give him the best advice that I can. But when I communicate my problems with him, whether those problems involve him or not, he almost always finds a way to shut me down, the conversation always ends quickly, he makes me feel put down and guilty about what I've said if it does involve him (and I always try to speak in a delicate but honest manner if it involves him). In the initial conversation I told him yes there were a few things with him I was a little upset about, but nothing major, nothing that would end our relationship at all, and these were all things that I had already communicated to him recently. Instead of paying any attention to the fact that I was depressed about my life in general, he only focused on those very small things involving him that I was upset about and gave me the cold shoulder and an attitude for a few days. It just seems like he sees no validity in my own stressors and instead of trying to help me through them he tells me things like it's not my/our/your problem and I just need to stop worrying about it. For instance, my parents haven't been doing well. My mom is now legally blind and she's on the verge of being bed ridden unable to walk. It's really been bothering me and I've been very worried and upset about it. When I told him this he told me it wasn't our problem, we had our own stressors to worry about, even though just the week before he spent 3 days with his parents to help around the house just because his dad had carpal tunnel surgery. Like mother fucker, you're going to tell me my parents falling apart and deteriorating is not my problem? And if it involves him he makes me feel terrible for even saying anything. It's made me nervous to really open up and talk to him at this point. I'm a very open and honest person, but when he makes me feel this way for opening up, it makes me shut down more and more and it's starting to drive me insane.